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  1. #1
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    Jan 2008
    Southwest of England
    66

    Miss you all and often thinking/hoping... xx

    TRILLIONS of Babydust and positive vibes travelling your way xxxxx

    Hi all, just wanted to drop by and see how you're going- always in the hope that this place will be empty or, if busy it will be due to celebrations of BFP's!!

    Thanks for the thoughts Jen805, I haven't forgotten any of you, or how supportive and helpful the ladies are here. I still remember my darkest moments and am ever grateful to Angel, AJC, Canary etc for getting me through.

    AFM 35 weeks tomorrow! Ready to pop I think :-) All is well, am back to work after our summer break- the kids at school are very excited about bubs which is sweet. Got 4 weeks (hopefully) till I go on Maternity leave...want to hang on as long as possible so I can have longer afterwards.

    Take care, Good luck TTC and praying for more BFP's...always xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

  2. #2
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    Mar 2008
    California
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    nickster--Hey! So good to see you! Wow, 35 weeks!!!! I can't believe it!! Good for you for sticking in there with work--it's gotta be getting tough getting around! Wishing you a quick, pain-free delivery (yeah, right, but we can wish, can't we? ) Keep in touch--we miss hearing from you! and

  3. #3
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    Jun 2008
    New Jersey, USA
    192

    Hannah, Mannie & Larz: Thank you for you thoughts and prayer. I'm hanging in there. Still crying. hubby and I sat down lat night and talked about it for the 1st time.. he broke down and we hugged and cried together. This is the first time he cries about all this. I'm still crying today.


    Issy: Welcome back, thanks for the hugs.. I need them so much.

    Louise: Welcome hun. My heart goes out to you after your loss as I too suffered my 3rd loss on 9-11-08. I am here for you.. not sure if I'm strong enough to give you strength.. but know I'm suffering with you.

    Fifi: About the Doppler; I thought of it and mentioned it to the doc when I was 7 weeks ..he said I could get it but I wouldn't hear anything till after 15 weeks maybe 20. Waste of time.. most likely.
    I wanted it for peace of mind.. yet my worst fears happened anyways.
    It's all up to you.. but if you ask your doc even the sites where they are sold/ rented they all say it works best at 20 weeks and over. SUCKS!
    It's your choice to get it.. but that's what the doc told me.
    Good luck.. your baby will be ok. I know that.


    Nickster: Welcome back and good luck with your baby. Wishing you the very best.


    Me: All I can say is I'm hanging in there. Still crying, still aching.. when will it stop??? Dunno.. just it hurts. I have 5 days not pregnant anymore. it hurts more as the days pass.. I thought it was the other way around.. I seem to hurt more.
    I'm so sorry I sound winy and clingy. all this sucks. It was a big shock..all m/c are.. just I really thought this was finally my happy ending. So on Nov am not looking forward to all the stupid lab work. shots, meds, scans, more meds, ALL OVER AGAIN. But like I said.. ANYTHING FOR A BABY!!!

    I'm still hopeful for a 2009 baby. Maybe it can happen still.

  4. #4
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    Jul 2008
    Sydney NSW
    66

    Joey - Thanks I agree I should try and be more positive!

    Jen - Thanks for the sticky vibes need all we can get

    Ruthie - I think it's great your hubby has finally let it all out, good to cry....hope he is really supporting you through this...lots of

  5. #5

    Dec 2007
    USA, Kansas
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    Fifi-Theres a doppler you can get off line called angel sounds, There really cheep and are like Ulrasound technoligy. My friend could here her babys heart beat at 10 weeks on it... :-D Fetal Dopplers. Click on that and it will show you what it is..

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    Aug 2008
    Cairns QLD
    138

    Thanks Tam for the tip on the OV Watch Im going to google it now, I?d never hear d of it?.goodluck TTCing over next couple of days will be thinking of you! And if you do have to go through IVF that?s also positive because we are so lucky we have this technology these days. My girlfriend Relle came to visit me with her husband and he new IVF bub Ollie, he is so beautiful and so placid and they never thought they?d have him, hubby had leukemia at 18 and he was sterile cause of the chemo, well he?s now 40 had bub at 39 and he found he had swimmers!! What a miracle!! They got their forever baby on their 4th try at IVF. Relle also told me that her friend in the UK, Jules, is pregnant with twins from donor eggs given to her when docs told her she was infertile, she?s due any day and is so excited!she?s 40 the donor eggs were from a 30 year old & they fertilised on the first go!!! Lots to be said for young eggs ?..So where there?s a will there?s a way, and all of us should never give up because we will have our forever babies somehow!

    Dellydoo ? Im sending out to you lots of hugs and motivational vibes, enjoy the retreat, would luv to know what its like Gwinganna have heard and read so much about it and its not too far to go for me either. Though Cairns is very relaxing most of the times, but not when stuck in a freezing air conditioned office.

    Louise ? welcome, I know how hard this is for you, most of us here having gone through this once or a few times before. My experience was similar to yours, the first ultrasound at 6 weeks revealed a very fuzzy sac type circle and the stenographer told me it was passing so that was it, however then my hcg levels kept rising and was booked in for a D&C and they then cancelled it because they thought they?d seen something in another u/s which ended up being nothing at all anyway in the end they also thought maybe ectopic because of the rising levels however I started bleeding probably around week 8 and then really heavily bleeding passing clots etc and I had really bad period pain, this was the body expelling the pregnancy. I cried at the drop of a hat during that time, I screamed and blamed God why oh why was this happening to me??? But with the help of my darling husband and friends and this website I got over it, it will never leave me and I?ll always remember our first bub. But it does get better and you will have your forever baby too.

    Emmykate ? goodluck ttcing I know it will happen for you Im sending you lots of stickyvibes!!!

    To all the other girls Ruthie (not long til november each day it gets closer!!) Toccara (lots of hugs) Jen, Babyonboard , larz, joey, AJC,katiegirl, jenushka,babyfever (thanks for your advice will def start charting again when I get AF for the first time since m/c it?s a habit to hard to break been doing it for like 5 years) stickyvibes and lots of babydust to you all?have an awesome day?..

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    Jul 2008
    Sydney NSW
    66

    BabyFever - I hope your right I just bought an angel sound fetal doppler.....some sites say you can hear the heart beat at 12 weeks...heres hoping

  8. #8
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    Mar 2008
    California
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    Babyfever, Mannie, and Larz! Hope you're all doing well. all around! Larz, hope the doppler works!



    Ruthie--I promise it will get better! I that with each day it gets just a tiny bit easier than the last one. You're not being whiny--you're mourning, there's a huge difference! Don't feel guilty for venting your grief, we've all been there! Big

  9. #9
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    Aug 2008
    Sydney
    125

    Hi ladies

    Well I thought I would post b4 going to FS appointment to get the results, its at 2pm. I am sooo nervous I feel sick DH said that if his results aren't any better he is going to give up as he doesn't want to go through the pain anymore and doesn't want to do IVF. I praying that everything is going to be okay.

    Mannie They have the ov watches on special at the moment for $100 including 3 moths worth of sensors. Thats cheap I paid nearly $300 for mine. I have used the urine strips/maybe baby and doing BBT. I found the watch the easiest and most accurate. Thanks for telling me about your friends its great to see they finally got there little miracle and its great to hear success stories.

    Larz Good luck with the Doppler let me know how it goes. When I was pg b4 my m/c I had researched them as I was thinking to buy one so I could re-assure myself every time I heard the heartbeat.

    Babyfever :goodluck2: with the BT looking forward to seeing your results hope you get your BFP.

    Jen goodluck only a few more days now until you can test. Hope you get your BFP this month and its a sticky lil jelly bean.

    Louise As every day goes past it gets easier but you never forget. Just remember that we are here to support you through this hard time and your not on your own.

    Ruthie Glad to see you have a wonderful supporting DH and that you are able to talk to each other. I hope you get all the answers you need in nov
    Last edited by Tam83; September 17th, 2008 at 01:04 PM.

  10. #10
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    Aug 2008
    Cairns QLD
    138

    Goodluck TAM even if they aren't ok, DH will go through IVF with you, he'll be hurting for a while but will see that if thats the only option then Im sure he will go for it....GOODLUCK but Im sure it will be fine postive thinking!!!!

  11. #11
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    Oct 2007
    Caroline Springs
    2,341

    Hi girls, just wanted to tell you all that I am still watching over you all. My heart goes out to all of you that are in pain (both physically and emotionally) and going through hard times. I wish I could still be around more, but I'm covering extra shifts at work for one of the other seniors that has gone on holidays (selfish yeah? LOL!).

    Jen and Angel Nuffs - M9iss you both terrribly!!!

  12. #12
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    May 2008
    U.S.A
    186

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    I love you girls so much I don't know where I would be if I didn't find this website !!! I have had time to think and get my mind 2gather and I do want to ttc again in about 6 months I think my body and mind should be ready then. I get so sad when I see pregnant women now and I know its mean but I went to drop off my doctor notes at work today I seen a girl I work with who is preganat and I just got so mad because the childs father is also sleeping with 4 or 5 other girls I work with one of which he also just got pregnant too but he talk her into aborting the baby that just makes so mad !!! I keep asking myself why my babies don't make it and why me and DH can't have a little family because we want it so bad and I'm my mom's onlys girl and wants me have a baby too and my mother in law I keep feeling like its some wrong with me I'm going to find a good FS and find out what's going on so when I do ttc again I know I did everything I could to make sure my baby makes it I know this kinda long and all over the place but I just need to get all this stuff out ... this has been extra hard because the day I started to m/c DH had left for training I'm still kinda sad but I know only time and me having my forever baby will heal me and even than I will still look back and be sad ... ok let me stop here ladies again I love you all and a extra for ruthie and jen ...