To the Friday night chat crew..... Im sorry......... I fell asleep Hope you had a great time.
Hey Joey - glad to hear everything is great with you
AFM - Just passing the time again, had a temp increase again today, certainlyinterested in my temp tomorrow. Although I dont think I am in with a chance this month, little symptoms, BD only twice, another part of me is for a miracle.
Milla..... Dont ever feel like a fool.... What your going through at the moment, unfortunately, is completely normal. Your emotions are no less important than anyone elses and what you feel right now you need to allow yourself to feel. Be truley honest with your emotions... scream... cry... yell... tell the world its now fair. Please Please dont try and put what your feeling away because you think someone else had it harder.... Be truley honest with your own feelings..... and let them be..... Time is the healer... but time will take much longer if your hiding.
As you can see by the response by the ladies in here... you can say what you need to say in here.... we have all been there.... we have all felt what you feel right now..... your second little Angel was only in August and then another one in May...... Dont try and "get on top of it" or "pull yourself together" as a lot of people will say or think. Step through each day.... breath.... and then take another step...
It really is One Day At A Time hun.... and we are all here to take the steps with you.
Jen - sending you lots of hope next month brings you a
Angelbabies - I love that poem, I hope you don't mind I would really like to send it a girlfriend of mine who lost her bub at 23 weeks in July. I understand how you felt and feel, I find it hard to chat to some of the pregnant ladies at work about their pregnancies as they dont know that I had m/c, I still try and keep a smile on my face while hiding the pain and sorrow inside, when they walk away and I go back to my desk I try not to shed a tear, its hard but I keep telling myself my time will come, be patient, God will send me a healthy baby eventually.
TAM - don't work too hard!! once the witch has come and gone its a new cycle with lots of promise especially taking the clomid am you get your sticky bean this month!
Easha - don't give up hope, my DH and I only did it twice and we fell when I was pregnant for the first time, it only takes one
Milla - I have gone to a therapist in the past (not for my m/c though) and she was great, however for my m/c I didn't see anyone I found this site enough and going to church and praying to God helped me.
Joey - ooooh how wonderful to hear the baby's heartbeat, thats fantastic news!! rest up and the next few months will fly by!! look forward to getting fat!!
Jenushka - great news on the HCG results and look forward to seeing your new ticker!!
AFM:I'm home alone, as DH has had to work overtime since this week's market falls to make sure his clients don't go into margin call, anyway I'm really ****ed that he's had to work today too, all day!! I know its his job but feels like I haven't seen him properly in days! Not that we could DTD anyway because I'm still spotting and I think this will be a really long cycle. I've joined Fertility Friends and I've bought an OPK kit which I used for the first time on Thurs night and it was negative, my temps have started to stabilise and are low at the moment, I've also been using Maybe Baby (i don't use it religiously because it doesn't always work, but haven't got much else to go by, with temps being everywhere and no CM because of the spotting....oh poor me!! sorry to dump this on you ladies but I thought my cycle had regulated itself after August natural m/c but doesn't look like it! Can't wait to see the gyno/ob on the 28th, boy will I have heaps of questions for him! But looks like this cycle may not be the one!! damn anyway have a fantastic day ladies
Milla - I'm so sorry you're having a hard time right now. I haven't been to see a therapist. DH suggested we go and see one together but we never got around to making an appointment. I struggled for a while after my m/c which was also my first pregnancy. I wasn't prepared for the bond that formed the minute I discovered I was pregnant. I didn't even realise how strong that bond was until I lost my baby. I struggled for a while trying to understand how I could feel such overwhelming grief for something so small that had been in my life for such a short time. After coming on this site and chatting with some of girls, I realised that I needed to let myself feel whatever I felt. Once I gave myself permission to feel like crap, I was then able to be more honest about my feelings with the people around me. If people at work or at home asked me how I felt, then I told them I was having a bad day. And you know what? They were actually okay with that. Then I knew that I had people around me to support me, so I didn't have to be strong for anyone.
Sorry, I've started rambling. In short, let yourself feel whatever you feel. And don't ever think your grief is any less than anyone else's on this site (another mistake I made which only made things more difficult). Also, you're life is now different. And you are different. Looking to get things back to what they were is just another struggle. I found that once I stopped fighting it so much, the fog that angel talked about started to lift. Not immediately, but gradually it happened.
These are all things I realised after coming onto this site. But, on the other hand, speaking to someone can't hurt either. You can always go once and see how you feel afterwards.
Milla: So sorry you are struggling at the moment darlin. There's no right or wrong way to deal with all of this. If you feel that a Therapist would help then it's worth a go. DH and I never went to one although we talked about it. I have a the "fantastic" ability to just shut off my emotions, so I'm useless in therapy. Plus I look at things very matter of factly and kind of deal with everything myself. But for some people it is exactly what they need and they couldn't imagine not doing it. Just do what is right for you and remember that we're all here for you as an added back up!
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Jenushka: YAY!! Fantastic BT results and BEAUTIFUL ticker!!
Mannie: My cycles were TOTALLY screwy and the month I got my BFP I was told by FF that I may not have ovulated, so I'm all for trying everything you can and staying positive (although I didn't exactly stay positive when I thought I hadn't ovulated and may have had a date with a nice bottle of red). What does Maybe Baby do?? for you hon!
Easha: I'm keeping my for you, darlin!!
Joey: YAY for Aussie's heartbeat!!!! :hugs:
Jen: You didn't come back!! I'll assume it was due to you creating some culinary extravaganza for dinner.
AFM: Mumnesia has officially set in, and I'm not the most remembering of people at the best of times. IYKWIM. DH finds it hilarious. I find it irritating, but it's great I have an excuse now. Day 5 without the steroids and am better than yesterday when I couldn't keep anything down whatsoever, but still feeling really gross. Have my antenatal appt in 2 weeks, so hopefully I'm all betterr by then or, if I'm not, they'll be able to help. Had a horrible nightmare the other night that Button had hydrocephalus (the same as Lilah) and I had to give birth to him but I was all alone and had to do it myself. Gotta love pregnancy phobic dreams. Luckily I'm being a lot lke Jenushka and staying very zen and calm. ish. kinda.
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