Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage or Loss ~ September 2008

[plc1805]

jen - yes, I very much like the way your chart is going thanks for the chat sweet

[Babyfever2007]

Hey girls just letting you know we have been having tornados today and ATM its still going on. I have pictures too.. I had my friend from VA make a comp to comp voice call she heard my sirens.. Were okay atm sirnes still going off, The tornado was actully ontop of my APTs but didnt drop down.. We have more headed out way. I called my EX boyfriend and his parents to get to the ground its headed there way right now.

[jen805]

Tam--Sorry to hear about your annoying u/s tech! You would think they would at least know the names of the body parts that they're looking at! Good luck on Wed. with your FS appt--hope you finally get all your questions answered!



mollycat--Aww, sorry! ....My oath to you: I do hereby solemnly swear to never again forget to engage your anti-AF force field!! Pinky promise! Go ahead and blame me.... I'm used to it from Angel! lol... ( Angel!)



babymiracles-- I'm so sorry to hear of your loss only a week ago You can only O once your hcg levels have returned to normal--have you had any BT's done to check yours? I pray that you find comfort and peace here with us... please know that there's no right or wrong way to grieve... there's no time frame within which you need to feel "over it". You're always welcome to vent, cry, scream, ask questions--we all know what you're feeling and the thought process that seems to play over and over again in your mind... we've all been there, and we all know how difficult and heartbreaking it is to lose an angel baby. I look forward to getting to know you!



plc--Thanks! Hope the temps behave and keep going up! Thanks so much for staying up late to chat! It was such an awesome surprise to log on and see all you girls in there waiting for me! Big and bellyrubs! Looooooove the new belly pic--it's so cute!!

[Where there's hope]

OK Jen. I am not going to rave on about your chart 'cause everytime I have I fear I have jinxed you. But I am keeping an eye on it IYKWIM

[babyjubz]

hi I've jut found out today that i lost my little buby, i was meant to be 9wks 3 days today but the ultrasound said i was only 7wks, no heartbeat . Me and my partner are heartbroken as this was our first and i've have recently be told i have PCOS.i'm greatful to have had the chance and look forward to trying again,but i was wondering wheather any of u guys could tell me when its safe to start trying again, or is it different for everyone? i'm booked in to have a D/C in the nexted couple of days thanks for listening hope to ear for anyone with any comments any would be welcomed
thanks

[Baby Angels]

babyjubz....... I m sooooooo sorry for your loss. I know there is nothing I can say that will make it any better. I will say, as the ladies in here have heard me say many times....... Be true to you right now. Allow your emotions, allow the anger, the frustration, allow the sorry, the pain.... all of it regardless of how much it hurts... allow it. DONT push it aside it will only last longer. Allow everything you feel... be true to you and do not try and act how you think people think you should.

As for starting again.... completely up to you. I know a lot of ladies found it easier to heal by trying straight way..... Medically they suggest minimum 1 cycle for 2 main reasons, firstly for the lining to heal and the second one false pregnancies. Many women who have TTC straight after a miscarriage still have some HCG in their systems. Which can give a false BFP. So they are thrilled, thinking they are pregnant and then they think they have miscarried again when either their period arrives or they get a negative result.

For me, the first 2 weeks there was no way I could think of trying again, by the third week I was desperate to try again........ Nearly 10 months later and I m still desperate to try again..... OHHH well.. at least Hubby cant say he doesnt get any hey

[mollycat]

Ruthie - thinking of you today

Angel - I love that first song. We actually have that one picked for my dad's funeral (when he decides to go) - He has been very ill for the last 20 years and we thought we were going to lose him in June 2007 when he broke his hip and needed an operation to have it fixed, he has only 17% of his heart working. He surprised everyone and he's still with us.

Babyfever - Glad that tornado left you alone. I agree with Angel, until you have experienced a m/c yourself there is no way you can feel or understand the pain. I fell pg with my first son on the pill, never had been around anyone with m/c. Didn't know that I would have so much trouble having DS2 (three years TTC and clomid). Had no idea it would take me 10 years, diagnosis of PCOS and endo, clomid yet again, ops and tests to finally fall pg with my angel baby. Never dreamed in a million years that I would m/c, even when I began to bleed (which I had with DS2), I just thought it would be the same, a few days rest and everything would be okay. It still annoys me when women fall pg so easily, but I know it's only because I can't.

Babyjubz - welcome, I'm so sorry for your loss.

[jen805]

Ruthie--Thinking of you today So sorry, hon, I wish I knew the right thing to say... I wish I could go back and fix everything for you! I'm so glad to hear you aren't giving up... just heard someone on Oprah say "Your past does not define your future" and it made me think of you... I have such faith that it will happen for you, so stay strong and keep your faith, even tho I know you aren't feeling it now! Sending you the biggest possible



Fab 2/3 Chyan's--You girls are absolutely the BEST!! You all made my day when I logged on and saw all three of you in chat! I thought for sure I was either dreaming or my eyes were seeing things! Thanks, Nuff, for hanging out at work for a chat--2 more weeks without internet at home??? Grrr! Still haven't had a chance to read your blog, but I've been so busy today--was at the school from 8-4! But I promise, I haven't forgotten, and I will get to it! Krystie--lots of bellyrubs and *kiss* *kiss*



Toccara--Thinking of you! Hope you're ok, love.



Babyfever--Ooh, tornadoes...scary! Stay safe!



Easha, joey, Chappas, megsmum, WTH, Van, dellydoo, Jade, hannah, babbs, & mannie for you all!!

[jen805]

Thanks, WTH!!! I do know what you mean, but don't think there's any way you could jinx me!



An unlimited and unending (is that redundant? lol...) supply of for my super-duper Krystie Chyan, Rachel (where've you been, girl?), fifi, larz, pbstar, tutmae, tina, plc, AJC, Katiegirl, Leyza, & nickster


Oops, almost forgot to shout out a to Emmykate!



smilanatu--It's FRIDAY!!!!! :woot: Thanks for the e-mails! I think I have a couple more for you, but I'll have to go thru my e-mails first! Hope you have a great weekend!

[babymiracles]

I just wanted to say thank you everyone for such kind words and thoughts. It really does mean a lot, and although I wish no one had to go through this experience it helps to talk to other people who understand what I am going through.

Also thanks to those who answered my questions about ovulating after miscarriage. I see fertility specialist next thursday so maybe they will start doing some hcg measurements then. Last one was when I found I had had lost my baby - when it had gone done from nearly 10000 to 4000 in under 48 hours. Still getting some bad pains - particularly right sided lasting anywhere between 4 and 12 hours a day - did anyone else have same experience after a D & C? I guess it has only been 5 days so am wondering if that is normal.

On a positive note, I should say that after the horrible initial hospital experience with the admitting nurse, once my doctor came to see me before the procedure and until I went home the care and compassion was wonderful. My ob/gyn has the most wonderful bedside manner, and i had a really lovely midwife sit and talk to me for ages in recovery whilst I was blubbering away. So although there will always be those medical people lacking compassion/tack - there are also so many out there that are worth there weight in gold.

Ruthie - you are in my heart and thoughts today

Looking forward to getting to know you all a bit more on this site.

xx

Me (37) DH (50)
IVF 1 cycle - BFP
5th September 2008 (6 weeks 4 days)

[Baby Angels]

RUTHIE

I used to sing this to my little angels when I knew they were going but were still there before I "delivered" them. I still sing it now. My thoughts are with you

Fly
Fly, fly little wing
Fly beyond imagining
The softest cloud, the whitest dove
Upon the wing of Heaven's love
Past the planets and the stars
Leave this lonely world of ours
Escape the sorrow and the pain
And fly again

Fly, fly precious one
Your endless journey has begun
Take your gentle happiness
Far too beautiful for this
Cross over to the other shore
There is peace forevermore
But hold this memory bittersweet
Until we meet

Fly, fly do not fear
Don't waste a breath, dont shed a tear
Your heart is pure, your soul is free
Be on your way, dont wait for me
Above the universe you'll climb
On beyond the hands of time
The moon will rise, the sun will set
But I won't forget

Fly, fly little wing
Fly where only angels sing
Fly away, the time is right
Go now, find the light.

[Baby Angels]

THE OAK TREE

A mighty wind blew night and day.
It stole the oak tree s leaves away,
They snapped its boughs and pulled its bark
Until the oak was tired and stark.
But still the oak tree held its ground,
while other trees fell all around.
The weary wind gave up and spoke,
"How can you still be standing, Oak?'
The Oak tree said,
"I know that you can break each branch of mine in two,
Carry every leaf away,
Shake my limbs, and make me sway.
But I have roots
stretched into the earth,
Growing stronger since my birth.
You'll never touch them, for you see,
they are the deepest part of me.
Until today, I wasnt sure
of just how much I could endure.
But now I ve found, with thanks to you,
I m stronger than I ever knew."

[jen805]

Oh, Angel.... those songs... and that poem... helps me realize how strong we all really are!