TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ March 08 #2

[fiona264]

betty boop I know....wanting a baby so bad. I thought I was over it, but since remarrying and loving a baby with my current hubby, its become somewhat of an obsession since my miscarriage last year. I wasn't even trying last year, now I am trying...nothing. Weird.

It just seems like I am getting older and older and my 42 birthday is coming up soon and its freaking me out! I would love to do IVF but I just don't know where to start. I asked my doctor about clomid and he looked at me and said, lose some weight first.....well, after I left I just cried and thought I had no hope left. I beat myself up about it a bit and now I am on a Low GI eating and I truly believe "If it was meant to happen....it will". Until then, I will just keep on stressin!

[Natty]

Hi Everyone

Hope your all enjoying the easter break.

mmteacher - sorry to hear of your loss. Be kind to yourself and let yourself heal emotionally and physically.

I was wondering - what were some of the really early symptoms you ladies had when you were first pregnant (ie before the BFP on the stick). I cant remember with DD (she is 3 3/4) but the last pregnancy which ended in m/c I had backache, cramps, bloating and really vivid dreams. I am now 6dpo and the last two nights I have had really vivid dreams (normally I am so zonked I cant remember anything in the morning). Jodsan - I had those kind of symptoms too so you are going to have a BFP!

We have set up the tent in the backyard and are going to sleep in that tonight. DD is sooo excited. DH and I are wondering if our backs will let us get up off the floor in the morning to go and put the eggs, bunny feet and bit of bunny tail out for her!

Nat

[AJC]

mmteacher - welcome. I am sure you will find some good support in here. Sorry to hear about your angel bub. Best wishes to you & let's hope this year brings you a happy and healthy pregnancy.

Natty - my early symptoms (pre +POAS) were sore breasts (from around 8dpo) & that metallic taste in my mouth. I was too scared to POAS but my breasts were killing me and screaming out POAS so I did at 12dpo and got my BFP. Hope you get a BFP this month - crossing fingers and sending your way!

Fiona & Plc - my low GI buddies. Can't believe the lady who fell pg thinking she had to start IVF .It's so lovely to hear stories like that. I was trying to talk my SIL into the diet tonight, she's a bigger girl and they hope to do IVF over next couple of years so I'll encourage her to start.

Angelbabies - he he he you are so sweet sneaking in while DH is in the shower. Hope you are enjoying yourself - good luck for this month!

To everyone else - Happy Easter &......
good luck to those in tww for all.

Me - cd3, day 2 of my first clomid cycle. No side effects so far, am only on 50mg to start with. Trying to stay relaxed this cycle and am determined to keep the romance alive this month (sorry TMI).

[Magda]

Bettyboop, fiona264, I can't believe that I am 41 and want a baby so badly too. Like I said before I have been thinking about having a baby for 2 yrs, I was 39 then and I thought I was too old. I was already way past the baby stage my kids where in school and I could pretty much do whatever I wanted. But the desire to have a baby did not go away it became stronger and stronger. Then in Oct 2007 I decided to go for it, I got pg the 2nd month ttc, Nov. and found out on christmas eve that the baby had no hb and m/c on Jan 5 2008. So now I am in my 2nd time ttc since the m/c. I believe that I am calm but sometimes I do feel desperate. I have been going through hell in the last 2 months with my teenager who ran away from home a week after m/c to be with a boyfriend, who is just the worst person anyone could want for there kid. So that has not helped out my situation. But anyways I don't want to depress everybody and I find I am getting upset writing this, I will give you guys more details at a later date.

Hope everyone else is having a great weekend.

[tempus moriendi]

Okay, okay, okay--there's been entirely too much negative talk around here about age. I'm 40, gonna be 41 in May. But haven't you all heard how 40 is the new 30???

Here's a really wierd and TMI question...does anybody else find they have to urinate a lot around the time they O? I noticed it a few years ago, then my riding instructor made the comment (totally off topic, because I hadn't discussed my personal body with her) that mares in heat urinate more frequently. I nearly fell out of the saddle laughing! But this conversation was a couple years ago...

Magda: sperm can live up to five days!
And I'll keep your family in my prayers. YOu have a lot to contend with

mmteacher: I'm a Ren Faire fanatic, too! Huzzah!

fiona264: sending encouragement vibes...

Natty: my first symptom was getting up around 4 in the morning to pee--even before I miss AF!

AJC: good luck!

Happy Easter, all!

[AJC]

Tempus - I agree, 40 is definitely the new 30.

pash - yyyaaaaaaa! Glad to have you as a cycle buddy. Good luck this month!

[fiona264]

Tempus Thank you so much for your encouragement vibes....
ll80 Now, I have never been referred to a spring chicken...that makes me feel good and your cheque is in the mail (just kiddin) Thanks..

[plc1805]

Hey ll80 - forgot u in my previous big post - sorry. So so glad that u r more positive in general - it really is so hard when there is so much change and our foundations get rocked quite a bit. I think fatalism is what everyone feels at some point of their TTC journey - it does help you cope when u feel it. GL with the BT results!!

Jodsan - no eggies being caught this cycle for me I'm afraid as we need to wait til next cycle to TTC cos of lap procedure. But hey!! GL to YOU!! and hoping that this 2ww marches along quicker for you!!

[Jodsan]

Hi ladies,

Pretty sure I felt implantation last night. It was faily late, I just couldn't get to sleep. At first I had a really fuzzy feeing in my uterus for about 5 mins, kinda like butterflies, then I got a sharp nerve sensation that made me jolt. Really bizarre feeling, almost like a current running through my tummy. Pretty sure it was. When do you think I can test, I was thinking Wednesday? The tests I have are 20miu, does anyone know a brand which detects lower than that?

Plc - I'm sorry, I need to keep up better. Hope this cycle flies by so you can get down to Biz!

Fiona - I hate that he made you cry like that, so insensitive. If you cant get into the girl drs then maybe just try another guy first. There has to be some sensitive and thoughtful ones out there, I've had a lot of great guy ones in my time and some mean girls, depends on the person I think. Sounds like you have the right attitude to the low GI, I'm sure its going to be of benefit to your overall health and that has to assist TTC. Keep us informed with how the diet is going, we'd love to support you in any way we can.

Hey Nickster - It sounds like it is going really, really well. Sorry you are feeling so sick, hopefully that will ease in the next couple of weeks. Good luck with the 12 week scan and wishing you a healthy and happy second and third trimesters after that!!

[ll80]

Howdy all,

Thanks for all the GL wishes for my blood test, I am now really hoping they turn out well.
Last night DP and I must have got a bit more raunchy than I thought because the blasted condom broke. We've been using them til I get the results of my blood test and move house but looks like the universe had other ideas.
SO I think it's fair to say that I am totally, absolutely nervous now.
I am on CD 14 today and have had EWCM last day or two, so yes, the timing is absoluetly perfect. (says so somewhat sarcastically)

I guess I am on an unexpected TWW now, if I happen to get a BFP this month, I am going to be a bundle of nerves and absolutely scared but, also bloody excited at the same time. I am sure you all know what I mean.

'Hey' back at ya Nickster, so very glad that you're popping and feeling ill. Good signs. Good times to come!!

Fiona - doesn't hurt to look around for another GP, one that is hopefully more sensitive. If you don't find someone else you like you can always go back.

Jodsan- Good Luck I hope is was implantation *fingers crossed* for you

...Laura

[tempus moriendi]

Happy Easter!

ll80: I'm so glad you're feeling more at peace with everything. It's so hard to descibe the emotionla roller coaster we go through with obstetric loss. Even in the middle of my mc, there were times I felt very philosophical and stoic, then in the next minute I'd be crying. Best of luck.

Jodsan: sending you calming and encouragement vibes...

nicksterUK: I'm so glad your news has been good. I't so encouraging to hear from you, it gives us all hope!

[ll80]

Hi everyone

been a while since I popped my head in, I've been trying to stay away a little to sort myself out. I think I am getting there.
I've been under so much stress the last couple months, since the m/c then moving states and looking for work, I've been a bundle of nerves and stress, snapping at everyone, my poor DD has copped a few un called for blastings.
I'm glad to say though, that I am feeling much better and have been really making a big effort to stay calm and not snap, doing much better all around.
Feeling more positive about life in general and that has helped with the calmness.
What will be will be and there really is no use me stressing about it all, it just serves to make it worse not only for myself but for my wonderful DD and DP.
Feeling much more fatalistic I guess, I'm a great believer in fate and what will be will be, just needed to remind myself of that.
On the TTC front nothing new there, going to the doctor this week for the very belated results of my blood test. My last AF was all over the place, spotted for a good 4 days afterward, very annoying.
Well enough about me..

Angel- I hope your holiday is an excellent one! I am very jealous I sure could do with a holiday right about now.

Tempus- Good luck with your TWW *fingers crossed* for you

AJC- I hope the clomid does the trick for you

Natty- early pg symptoms with my dd (who is 4 next week *has a heart attack* goes so quickly) was the urgent need to vomit several times a day and feeling like death warmed up. Last time when I m/c I didn't have alot of sickness but my BB were really sore and was really extremely tired.

Betty and Fiona, you guys are just spring chickens wishing you all the best betty *fingers crossed* for you.

Danielsgirl and mmsteacher- So sorry for your losses, wishing you all the best with your TTC journies.

Mel A - I know exactly what you mean about the destructive thoughts, I'm a real naughty one for it. *big hugs*

Nickster and all you other recently up the duff ladies I hope you're all in excellent health and doing well. *sticky vibes* to you all

Tina K- hope you're doing better, families suck sometimes.

I'm sure I've forgotton a few, big *waves* and hello to you all, I hope you're all well and madly DTD.

Happy Easter to all, I've had sooooooooooooooo much chocolate I am about to burst...it's so good more fat to add to the belly and butt, might make me do some exercise but I doubt it.

end of essay go make yourselves a cuppa now or stiff drink, whichever takes your fancy!!
..Laura

[Cieras mummy]

Hi everyone,
I just wanted to write in and say that I got AF this morning after mc on Feb 29 and D&C on March 4.

I am hoping that that BFP will not be too far away. It took a long 2 years to get the last one.

Good luck to everyone for April. I hope that everyone gets the news that they are hoping for.

Kim

[JMG]

I hope everyone is having a good but lazy Sunday!

Tinak - Thanks for the welcome. My cycle used to be 33-34 days long, but at the moment I've only been back off the pill for around 2 months so things are still settling down for me. It won't be too long before I'm back to that length cycle. with the new job. I hope you have a great first day.

Jen805 and Plc1805 - Thanks for your welcome too. This is what I love about Belly Belly. Everyone is there for each other with inspiring words to help you along in your journey to .

I hope everyone is in a positive mood at the moment and coping with everything life is throwing your way.

Me I'm at 8dpo and have a headache and am tired even after a nice long sleep in this morning so I may go have a little nanna nap and sleep the rest of the afternoon away.

[Jodsan]

Hi all, keeping a low profile until after O this month so just a quick one. Just wanted to pop in to wish Bettyboop good luck for tomorrow. You just tell your doctor that you are going to have another child and he has to do everything he can to help you make that happen. I really hope that things go your way, we'll all be thinking of you. Good luck

[treelo]

Hi everyone, hope your all going ok on your journeys. AF was due yesterday but has not shown yet. I would like to think that im late because im pregnant but i doubt it very much. We only BD once and it was 2 days before O (or when i thought i O'd). I did a test on Thursday because i was having a flu shot and it was negative, so i had the shot. Im really worried now that if i am, and that really is a long shot, but if i am, i may have harmed it already.
To tell you the truth, im sort of putting of doing another test because its sort of nice to actually be late and think maybe its a possiblity.
I dont really have any symptoms so im sure its just my stupid cycle being unpredictable again.

I thought a few times that AF was here but it was just alot of CM, which is really confusing me.

Anyway i will keep my fingers crossed.

hugs
treelo