TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ March 08

[Brockstar]

Just thought I would pop in and say g'day.

Not having a good day, just really nervous (shaking hands, etc) and paranoid. Going to loo a million times a day just to check (TMI, I know). Sad too, because I am trying not to get my hopes up but I just want it all to work out OK. I read all these things about people having sore boobs, morning sickness, etc, etc and I don't have anything again this time. Granted, with DS sore boobs didn't hit until the 6 week mark and m/s didnt' hit until 10 weeks, but I guess if I keep telling myself that things aren't right, then I won't get too disappointed.

So girls, tomorrow is another day - it can only get better, right??

Hugs to you all...

[Katiegirl]

Hi Everyone - sounds like everyone could do with some cheering up.
The TTC journey is so difficult for us all, and then when we do get the BFP all new worries and concerns start. It seems neverending.

Brockstar - I know how you are feeling. I just can't shake the irrational feeling that something will go wrong. I really want to believe all will be good, and just as I am feeling okay I then start to worry all over again. I will get the BT results tomorrow, so even though they should offer some comfort, I now have it in my head that maybe something has happened since the test was taken on Friday. When will i relax? The thing I am most nervous about is once again going to a scan to be told that it is over. So - I get what you are going through. Big hugs - we can support each other.

Trac - I hope you are okay. I will keep your family in my thoughts.

I am starving, must go eat. Have a good night everyone.

[Brockstar]

Hi Katiegirl
Will be thinking of you tomorrow. Fingers crossed that the BT has the results that you need.
I haven't had a BT yet, I guess we will just wait until we do another PT this weekend and go from there.... I just hate being in limbo.
I'm off to bed now, sweet dreams everyone!

[Baby Angels]

Well well well....... everyone seems to be so down and I have no idea why.

The absolute worst thing we could possibly do, not only for our mental health but also our physcial health, is to focus on the negative in any situation.

I know that might sound blanket but I can absolute guarantee you all something. When you focus on the negative you will find yourself spiraling down in it. When you find yourself spiraling downward move forward one step at a time.... one day at a time.

If you focus in the negative in people or the ugliness of some people it will feel like you are surrounded by them.

Let the crap pass you by...... Focus on the positive in any situation.

No matter what you face or have faced or what you think you might face..... look for the good... search for the good and treasure it when you find it.

I m no different than anyone else out in here..... I ve had the losses you ve had.... I ve had things happen in my life that no one should have to deal with and I have the good days and the bad days... I m just saying... stay positive and step forward..... one day at a time.

Speaking of the positive.... We ve had I think 5 BFP s in the last month or so. We have many of us on 2WW (myself included) Yes we ve had AF show her ugly face BUT..... it means your on your way to a 2WW...... And the biggest positive...... our lives ... we are surrounded by people who love and care about us and regardless of the results of TCC we have those around us now who we love and care about.

So even though I m on my "huge butt" health kick... I m going to risk it by breaking out some cyber cake (no calories)..... mud cake with fresh chocolate icing dripping down the sides..... I think this time I ll serve it up just a tad warm still with a hint of fresh cream

Focus on what is good in your life..... and the tougher it gets the more you hold onto the positive.

and just for extra focus.....

[Canary]

Angel, thank you for your positive post. You can always find the right words to say and I'm going to apply your idea of 'Let the crap pass you by' That is an excellent piece of advice and applies very well to a situation I was in at work today (which I wont bore you with). I see that you are in the 2ww now... I'm actually quite glad that I dont have to go through another one of those just yet. I will really have to find a way of keeping clam through the next one!

So, to continue on Angels positive vibe..It's easter soon everybody! I just love this time of year and it's got nothing to do with chocolate! In England, easter is the time of year that the crap weather goes away and the light lasts for longer in the evenings. The daffodils are out already and it won't be long before the tulips pop through (and they are my fave flower). Added to that is 4 days off work and wahey!!... DH and I are going away for a couple of nights. Those of you who remember that I am on CD 3 will have done the maths and realised what we will be up to....!!

Just a few quick messages,
Katie, Nickster, Brockstar, Stattysky....Thinking of you and your precious cargo.

Jodie, sorry to hear about your kidney. I hope all goes well with it during your next pregnancy.

Betty:hugs: I hope you are OK.

Trac, I hope that your Dads treatment is going OK.

Hi everyone else, I hope that you're all OK. GL to the 2ww ers. Who's next to POAS? Have some

I'm off to see whether I can change my ticker. It still thinks I am on CD37!

[mollycat]

Yum - Angel that cake sounds lovely..... i just went for my first walk in weeks, good thing it's only a cyber cake and has no calories. I'm joining the weight loss kick, I lost 20kg last year (put on one or two) and would love to lose another 20 this year.
Jodie - i hope your kidney behaves itself during your next pg. my sister has polycystic kidneys and managed five perfectly healthy pg's. (yes, my family has large numbers of kids).
to katie, nickster, starrysky and brockstar all the best:
must ring today and see when my car will be ready, was told last week insurance company authorised for it to be fixed, hopefully i can get it back by easter, i really don't like our spare car, although we're lucky to have it at the moment.
must go now and kick my kids out of bed so they can go to school

[tina_k]

Hi Everyone, especially all those who are feeling down, and have AF or are in 2WW.

thank you Angel for your positive words, i really needed them, and am trying to stop myself from sinking into that pit!

Canary, well, you and i are on the same track here, i am also at CD3, however, unlike you (im so jealous that your going away) i have mum and dad visiting over easter which is prime BD time, and our place is very small with ver thin walls! dont know what to do!!! i also had a situation yesterday with my pg SIL that made me get really angry, but imm trying to calm myself down and not get hung up on it..
PBstar - sorry about AF,
treelo, congrats on the move, good luck with BDing

[smilanatu]

bettyboop...I am keeping you in my thoughts! I hope you'll get good news soon.

As for me...I finally had a normal AF after almost 4 months of nothing...this weekend is fertile time for us so we are going out of town to relax and get busy BDing...I guess next week will be the first 2WW for me since joining the forum...I am very excited at the thought of a 2WW LOL!

[danielsgirl1113]

Hi everyone. I am new here, I just found this site lastnight. My husband and I found out on Thursday (march 6th) that the baby we were expecting had passed. I was very early in pregnancy (I was 10 weeks but the baby's heart had stopped about a week before). This was our first time of being pregnant, we just started trying in December and was over joyed to conceive so quickly. Now I feel like part of my heart is missing, and I also feel a little bit like a failure. I went to the hospital on Friday (march 7) and had a D and C because the Dr. said I had a missed-miscarriage. My husband and I both want to start trying to conceive as soon as possible. I am looking forward to being pregnant again and praying that when it does happen that I will have a healthy baby. I am worried about another miscarriage, but I have been told that a lot of women miscarry the first time and go on to have lots of healthy babies. I have so many questions about what to expect, and I just know that this message board will be amazing support for me.

I just wanted to introduce myself and say Hi. I look forward to getting to know all of you.

[ll80]

Hi everyone
I'd just like to say that I am totally over this hot weather in Melbourne. It's just not right!! 40 degree just wants to make me freeze myself in an ice cube. Bring on Winter!!

Well AF showed up on Monday I think it was, so no luck this month, wasn't really trying anyway but there was a small tiny amount of hope.
Still haven't made it to the doctors, just too hot to catch buses and walk in this weather, hopefully I can make it next week!

Had a good chat last night with DP, which was nice, good to get a few things off my chest. Lately I feel like I have been a slave to my emotions. SO up and down. I guess it's just my body re adjusting still plus I am under a considerable amount of stress and DP still hasn't secured a job after our move down here and things are starting to become strained financially not to mention living at home with my dad. Just want my own space again.

Hi to everyone, I haven't had time to read all your posts, miss a few days and you're really behind.

Hope you're all well!!
Good Luck to everyone and welcome to the new ladies, best of luck!

..Laura

[seenabeena]

Hi all
Just wanted to say hello as I join you girls on this TTC journey. This is our first cycle TTC since loosing our baby in January. I'm still afraid of how I will feel when I do fall pg again, but I'm sure the joy and happiness will over ride the fear.

We are not charting yet just keeping and eye on cycle day's and cm. Up to day CD14 and have watery cm so it's Game On for hubby and me

Baby dust to all

[fiona264]

Hi all,

I have been trying to conceive since my miscarriage last year. I have been doing alot of reading and realised that i have PCOS. I have bought a book "Managing PCOS for dummies" and is the best book ever.

Good diet is the key (Low GI). Any one else noticed any symptoms? I am about to go to the PCOS thread, but wanted to say hi to all.

I say if it was meant to happen, it will.....

[treelo]

Hi Everyone,

Well once again i have been very quite, we moved house and well to tell you the truth, i was one of the many who have been down in the dumps. But Angel Babies is right, we need to think of the positives and get happy.
So today im happy, because after being broke for so long with moving, im getting paid today and only half of it is going on bills, the rest is going on some things for me and the boys and DH and the house !! Today i will have more than $5 to my name !!! Also today we start BD, every second day for a week and a half. I have to admit that im sort of not in the frame of mind, and i have been listening to some people that have been telling me that im mad for wanting another one now that Lawson is going into prep next year. But i so dearly want another child and i dont think im mad. I know that DH would be very happy to just have our two boys, but i feel that there is another child out there for us waiting to be born. DH is funny, he says that but then as soon as someone puts a baby in his arms, he goes all mushy and says "i want one"

Well im off to get the boys ready for the day.

hugs to everyone
treelo

[pbstar]

morning ladies

i too have been pretty down, just have had this gut feeling that it would be a BFN for me this month and this morning i POAS and confirmed it

anyway just went for a nice walk and realised that i need to take that advice and be more positive- this was only the first real cycle since my first AF after m/c, i am young and healthy and have time on my side, i have a wonderful DH who is my best friend and we are blessed with a great life. yes there is still a little hole in me that is aching to have a baby to fill it up but it is going to happen, just have to be patient. keep trying and don't give up but stop obsessing!

ok that's what i'm going to keep telling myself...

on the bright side as well am going away this weekend with friends so that is something to look forward to

a big hello and big for all of us

xo