TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ March 08

[treelo]

Hi Everyone,

Well once again i have been very quite, we moved house and well to tell you the truth, i was one of the many who have been down in the dumps. But Angel Babies is right, we need to think of the positives and get happy.
So today im happy, because after being broke for so long with moving, im getting paid today and only half of it is going on bills, the rest is going on some things for me and the boys and DH and the house !! Today i will have more than $5 to my name !!! Also today we start BD, every second day for a week and a half. I have to admit that im sort of not in the frame of mind, and i have been listening to some people that have been telling me that im mad for wanting another one now that Lawson is going into prep next year. But i so dearly want another child and i dont think im mad. I know that DH would be very happy to just have our two boys, but i feel that there is another child out there for us waiting to be born. DH is funny, he says that but then as soon as someone puts a baby in his arms, he goes all mushy and says "i want one"

Well im off to get the boys ready for the day.

hugs to everyone
treelo

[pbstar]

morning ladies

i too have been pretty down, just have had this gut feeling that it would be a BFN for me this month and this morning i POAS and confirmed it

anyway just went for a nice walk and realised that i need to take that advice and be more positive- this was only the first real cycle since my first AF after m/c, i am young and healthy and have time on my side, i have a wonderful DH who is my best friend and we are blessed with a great life. yes there is still a little hole in me that is aching to have a baby to fill it up but it is going to happen, just have to be patient. keep trying and don't give up but stop obsessing!

ok that's what i'm going to keep telling myself...

on the bright side as well am going away this weekend with friends so that is something to look forward to

a big hello and big for all of us

xo

[tina_k]

Hi Everyone, especially all those who are feeling down, and have AF or are in 2WW.

thank you Angel for your positive words, i really needed them, and am trying to stop myself from sinking into that pit!

Canary, well, you and i are on the same track here, i am also at CD3, however, unlike you (im so jealous that your going away) i have mum and dad visiting over easter which is prime BD time, and our place is very small with ver thin walls! dont know what to do!!! i also had a situation yesterday with my pg SIL that made me get really angry, but imm trying to calm myself down and not get hung up on it..
PBstar - sorry about AF,
treelo, congrats on the move, good luck with BDing

[Trac73]

HI Everyone

Angel - Thanks for your positive words they really do help.........i will be trying to let the crap pass me by and focus on something positive from the situation. For example my dad might be having treatment but he is alive. And even though i feel like i have been TTC forever and it is not happening at least i am having fun BDing and i am with my DH my best best freiend and true love.

pbstar - Sorry to hear that you AF has arrived, i know it is disappointing but just think the sooner it finishes the sooner you can get TTCign again.

Canary - Enjoy your couple of nights away with DH..It is always nice to have time alone without any worries of house, cooking etc and happy BDing..

Brockstar, Katiegirl, Nickstar and All the other BFP ladies - I am thinking of you all during this time of excitement, nervousness and eagerness of getting to 12 weeks.

Jodsan - Take care of yourself and i will be keeping my fingers crossed for you dreams to come true

To everyone TTC, BFP, AF or 2WW i am thinking of you all and sending lots of your way

[pbstar]

hi girls

thanks for your kind words

AF has not yet arrived- due Thursday but i just got a BFN this morning so i am pretty sure it's on the way- wish it would hurry up though so I can get it over with!

[Katiegirl]

Hi all. The GP called and my HCG from Friday is 417 - so she is happy with that. She offered for me to come in again to get another BT done but I have decided that I need to start accepting the good news each time I receive it instead of looking for something else to go wrong. She said I can call at any time to arrange for another BT if I need to. So for now I am going to work on being positive and thinking happy thoughts. She also told me that a friend of hers was praising my Ob Mark Umstad, so happy to hear that.

I feel good about my GP and Ob choice - as last time I never really liked the GP I had. So all looking good.

Trac - glad to see you finding the positives in your life. I will take inspiration from you.

To everyone else TTCing, TWW, AF etc, good luck and let's all stay strong together.

PS. Still too much of a scaredy cat to post in the PAML thread...will wait until afer the Ob appointment at 7 weeks.

[Brockstar]

PS. Still too much of a scaredy cat to post in the PAML thread...will wait
until afer the Ob appointment at 7 weeks

.

Me too. From last Friday to this coming Friday is just waiting agony!!! Will test again then and if it is still then I will go and get BT and hope that the hcg levels are respectable. At least then it would be a positive. Last pregnancy I didn't even think to ask GP about hcg results - in fact, there is a hell of a lot I have learnt in here since February!

I guess I am still a little confused about due dates as well. I am thinking that if I o'd on 22/2 (as per OB's observations), I just add 38 weeks instead of 40? And in doing that, I'm looking at early November, if all goes well

Katiegirl - good for you! Congrats to you. A small step forward

Pbstar, Trac73, Jodsan - :group hug:

Angel Babies - you are an incredible woman! You know what to say at just the right moment.

TinaK - how about getting your parents drunk? Let 'em pass out and then they won't hear anything through the paper thin walls... (Did I really write that??) If it's time to BD, then it's time to BD!!

Treelo - hope you are well on your way to being settled in your new house.

If I've missed anyone, I am truely sorry!

[bettyboop]

i have been away on my own for a couple of days and brought a new car, photo in my photos, amazing how retail therpy can take your mind off thing for today anyway, dont know what my body is doing as my temp has gone way up dont know.

[plc1805]

betty boop - as always big !
katiegirl and brockstar - that everything goes your way, prayer and positivity help!!! brockstar - never occurred to me either re hcg tests, I'm sure to be asking about them next time. I understand re PAML - very scary!
pbstar -
trac - way to be positive, ur doin it well!
tina - your situation reminded me of back in Jan when it was o-time DH and I were down the beach with my family, there are only 2 rooms and I was sharing my room with my bro and sil as well as my DH. NO WAY we could BD so we went down to the beach in the late evening and DTD in some secluded area. is there anywhere you could escape to? chin up, hun!
treelo - ul get there
mollycat - wow! 20 kilos - that's sensational - as well as inspirational!! well done!!
canary - keep that positivity going hun - nothing like looking forward to some good BDing to help it along !!
tempus - thx hun for ur post!! hope ur ok.
jodsan - big hugs to u hun
angelbabies - bday buddy - ur my idol where inspirational talk goes - hope ur TWW marches right up to a BFP and taps it on the shoulder

me - ob said that AF 2 weeks post lap is normal but I still need to wait til post-op check-up in mid-april before we can TTC - precautionary measure, frustrating but necessary ......staying positive that nothing else is gonna get in my way in the meantime

anyone I might have missed - apologies and huge hugs

[Baby Angels]

Well I ve just done my first week. I know I still have the occasional unhealthy hit (dinners) but the remainder of the day I m a good girl. Today was my official weigh in and I ve lost a whole .8kg....... thats point 8 NOT 8 .....LOL

I know I half thought ......ohhh when you watch the show they loose so much... but reality apparently is that when its not done as full on as they do it on biggest looser..... 1kg a week is considered great... sooo with my .8.... that must mean that I m NEARLY great......

PLC1805 ... Birthday Buddy..... If i get a BFP this time round I think I will be shocked. DH and I did the and then proceeded to argue for the remaining "o". I just cant win with him at the moment Maybe it will be a good thing (sorry finding the positive again)..... If I got a BFP this cycle then I would be having a Saggi baby..... DH is Saggi..... DS is a Saggi... OMG do they clash.... I can just imagine in 14 years time a teenage girl (dont need to imagine a boy as I already see it with DS).... I can picture AF visiting her and her and DH clashing like crazy..... Maybe I could hire a motel room every month and let them duke it out. Obviously I would be thrilled with a BFP... I m just know what its like with a teenage Saggi and my DH...... I suppose I will be well prepared.

Almost blushing here with all of those lovely comments from everyone... Thank You.

Huge Hugs to all

[tempus moriendi]

So here I am at home with my 11 year old, who's been vomiting since yesterday. Just can't hold any solids down. If he's still doing this tomorrow, off to the doctor he goes.
But on the other hand, I think AF will be finished today or tomorrow. Then back on the roller coaster. This has been my fourth day of clomid, too, for the challenge test. So we'll see...

Trac73: keeping fingers crossed for your dad

Brockstar: sending encouragement vibes

Angel Babies: thanks for your words of encouragement

Canary: you have daffies? I'd be grateful for a little crocus LOL! Here in Pennsylvania we still have some snow left over (like in the mall parking lot where the snowplows just dumped it). But some of the nights are still below freezing...*sigh*

treelo: don't you love how many nay-sayers there are out there? The few people who know we're trying again tend to react like "uhm...okay"--not quite trying to talk me out of it, but they're clearly think I'm nuts

pbstar: sorry about the BFN

Katiegirl: so happy to hear your good news. Keep us posted!

bettyboop: fingers crossed

[smilanatu]

bettyboop...I am keeping you in my thoughts! I hope you'll get good news soon.

As for me...I finally had a normal AF after almost 4 months of nothing...this weekend is fertile time for us so we are going out of town to relax and get busy BDing...I guess next week will be the first 2WW for me since joining the forum...I am very excited at the thought of a 2WW LOL!

[pbstar]

hi to all- just a quick one as i have to run and do my ironing....

AF arrived last night and she is here for a big emotional and physical clean out so i am feeling very relaxed and positive today

congrats angel babies for completing week one of operation huge butt, .8 is a great start so keep it up!

to everyone else big hope you are all doing ok today

[mollycat]

Angel Babies - well done on your loss .8 is great - my dietician always said the slower you lose weight the more chance you have of keeping it off. You're right on biggest loser, it's all they do all week so of course they will have huge weight losses, but we still have a life between exercising and eating right. I still splurge on the wrong food, but i know that i don't eat as much of it as i used to. Amazed at how much more energy i have, i started walking again yesterday, went again this morning, came back and cleaned my bathroom, washed and vacuum floors, hung washing and generally tidied up. It's not even 8.30 yet.
Oh well. back to the grindstone, the first three day care children are in, just about to send my two and two day care kids off to school. Could be a quiet day, only one more little one due in today. I might get some more of my study work done later (i'm studying for diploma in child care)

To all have a good day

[danielsgirl1113]

Hi everyone. I am new here, I just found this site lastnight. My husband and I found out on Thursday (march 6th) that the baby we were expecting had passed. I was very early in pregnancy (I was 10 weeks but the baby's heart had stopped about a week before). This was our first time of being pregnant, we just started trying in December and was over joyed to conceive so quickly. Now I feel like part of my heart is missing, and I also feel a little bit like a failure. I went to the hospital on Friday (march 7) and had a D and C because the Dr. said I had a missed-miscarriage. My husband and I both want to start trying to conceive as soon as possible. I am looking forward to being pregnant again and praying that when it does happen that I will have a healthy baby. I am worried about another miscarriage, but I have been told that a lot of women miscarry the first time and go on to have lots of healthy babies. I have so many questions about what to expect, and I just know that this message board will be amazing support for me.

I just wanted to introduce myself and say Hi. I look forward to getting to know all of you.

[Katiegirl]

Hi Danielsgirl. I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your baby. You have certainly come to the right place and I hope you find comfort and support amongst this forum. I will keep you in my prayers, as I know how difficult the loss of a much longed for baby is.

Take care and a big hug.

[Natty]

Hi Ladies

I feel like an intruder writing in here as you seem to know each other all so well but I am hoping to share a part of that too!

I actually had a question to ask. We had a D&C in early Feb - missed m/c at 8.5 weeks. My first AF after was 27 days but prior to being pregnant it was 29 days. DH and I have been BD'ing every second day since 6 days post AF (not for TTC - just because we felt like it!) and its now day 11 post AF. My girlfriend said that we shouldnt be doing that - that we should be BDing from about day 12 every day to day 16 post AF so that DH's swimmers werent diluted. Because I dont know what my body is doing post D&C I just figured to take each day as it comes and enjoy my DH.

i dont really know too much about TTC - it just seemed to happen with DD and our little Angel baby.

Wishing everyone a BFP really soon!

Natty

[berecca623]

Angel - I also heard about Biggest Loser that their week is more like 9 - 14 days so their "weekly" loss is greater. That and they have no life. Makes me question some of the people they have highlighted too. Like those 2 guys who didn't make it in yet one of them manages to train 5 times a day??? Obviously someone is a dole bludger!!!

Danielsgirl - I am truly sorry for your loss. Everyone here understands how you feel but I promise you there is nothing that you did, or could have done, to change what happened. My DH and I also lost our first pregnancy in November 07 and we are TTC again. I hope that we all get a BFP soon and then deal with the nerves of being pg!

Natty - your friend is assuming that you ovulate on CD14 and this is not always the case. I have a regular 28 day cycle but o on CD16 (or have for the last two months I have been charting anyway!) Unless your DH has some problem with his swimmers there is no reason why you can't BD every second night! If it has happened before why wouldn't it again? Has your friend ever been pg? If so that may have worked for her but everyone is different and have different things work for them!

As for me, feeling crampy and gassy the last couple of days, not good signs, think AF is on her way. Will POAS Sunday morning but not much hope this month. Not sure what else we can do. We chart, use OPK's, BD for the nights we need to, I have been relaxed all month, trying not to think about it all. What else is there????