TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ March 08

[Baby Angels]

Ok... well where to begin.

Canary.... Yes I m sticking to the exercise routine..... I actually had myself running on the cross trainer on Tuesday night... thought I would die but hey... I didnt so i ve increased it even further. I did try "body balance" but seriously... the instructor looked like he was high as a kite... doin some 'funky' chit.... ahhhh not me.... I just stood there thinking ..... I m nearly bloody 40..... what the hell am I doing.

pbstar..... you are right.... All we can do is the best we can do and make sure we do everything we can..... from there... we just have to accept that anything further than that is out of our control.... unless your prepared to go to further extremes with IVF and all sorts of assisted conception..... which having done that already myself... i would be cautious in doing so..... there is a whole other world of not so nice out there in the assisted conception world.

Nickster.... Nickster... Nickster..... great to see you and how is that big fat tummy comin along .... Now were nt you just jiggy for the sake of jiggy....

Treelo.... I will send you her details in a PM..... she is amaizing... qualified midwife as well..... as for your age.... well she has a view on that dont you worry....... apparently we (between 35 and 40 peoples) apparently we are NOT old..... and just because I can... I m going to agree with her

Brockstar...... CONGRATS GIRL.... yet another fat tummy coming our way.

Trac73.. Best of luck with your dad...... and thanks for the congrats with opperation "huge butt"

Tempus.... Ok... well I am lost..... "DTD" ....please explain... i ve sat here looking at it thinkin...hmmmm....hmmmm....hmmmmm nope... cant work that one out.

Danielsgirl.... you are not rambling... and you are not TMI.... Just be you and deal with your loss in your way... stop trying to please anyone but yourself.... OK... now dont make me smack your hand..... (goodness... i havent had to threaten a smack in a while) You lost your baby... you have to think of you... you have to recover.... its all about YOU.... now I have something that might help..... below my name you will see a link to "angel babies" This is my web site... for my twin angels I lost on new years eve and new years day this year..... read through it... have a great cry... allow yourself to grieve and allow yourself to put yourself as your priority. :hugs:

ll80...... ohhh girl.... wish I could help..... living with your dad and DP still looking..... OHHHH i think it would drive me insane..... ohhh hold on a sec... thats assuming that i am sane...... The good news is that with the unemployment rate as low as it is, it is deffinately an employee market. I am interviewing tomorrow for some positions.... ohhhh its not like it used to be... now I have people unqualified coming to interviews wanting big dollars and they just dont have a clue... If i go back 3 years ago I would still get them but I would also get well qualified NORMAL people.....I just want NORMAL back... sniff sniff.

Natty.... thats the hardest part.... working out how to make sure you bd at "o" but not making it as BD at "o"..... and oooohhh lately... i m no expert there.... last "o" I picked a fight and this "o" he did. Me managed to get in BD the night before "o" but I dont like our chances ..... My thought is BD as much as you want...

Now... where is Birthday Buddy... looking....looking....looking.....

[plc1805]

Hey bday buddy here I am!! .8 you say - great start hun! Sorry been a bit quiet - still lurking and keeping updated but sometimes I am a little over-whelmed by it all - the TTC journey that is. Had acupuncture and naturopath appts yesterday and they were good positive appts. It'll be mid-april in no time and DHs swimmers will be chasing my eggie like long-lost lovers Hope ur DH is being good to you and talking at least at the appropriate times this cycle - I really do hope it's ur cycle this time for a BFP!! If not, maybe it'll be next cycle and we could be belly and then baby buddies together - to grow from our bday buddy thang!
Congrats brockstar - well done hun!
Welcome to the newbies - the ladies in here are so lovely - I will certainly support you all i can too
to everyone!!!

[Katiegirl]

Hi everyone and a big hello to the newbies - welcome and like everyone else I hope your stay here is a short one. In the meantime, you will find this to be a place of wonderful women who have helped me personally through some very dark days.

Angel babies - please ask your chinese med practioner about the herbs and what it is called. I could then ask my naturopath about taking them. I am keen to take anything that has 'anti-mc' in the description. I also take a heap of herbs and tablets each day - it is amazing how it just becomes part of the morning and evening routine. At least we know that we have been taking care of ourselves pre-conception. Well done on the weight loss. I was hoping to lose some weight before the BFP but guess that will get put on hold - such a shame

As for when to BD in the lead up to O - well I went every day. I thought about the every 2nd day thing, and decided to just try every day - and well it seemed to work. Or like my mother told me - 'Kate you need to be like newlyweds'! I never thought I would have that conversation with my mother.

I hope everyone is doing okay. I will send you all a as we can never have enough of those. Also, for those in Melbourne - Frances Perry hospital run a Subsequent Pregnancy Support Group. It is for people who are considering TTCing after a loss, and for those that are pregnant. It looks like it offers both group and one on one sessions. It is run by a midwife at Frances Perry. So if that is where you will deliver next time, then it might be worth looking into. I called today and they are going to send me more info. It is on their website under 'Educational Seminars' or something like that.