TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ March 08

[plc1805]

tina - I know how u feel - a mother from mother's group (not the one prev mentioned) but the 1st one to have the 2nd round of bubs was a couple of weeks ahead of me before I had my 2nd m/c. Everytime I saw her and how big she was getting, I couldn't help but think she was living my dream and I was a failure. Also, she knew she was having a boy and the pathology found I had m/c a boy (even tho, like u, I had a blighted ovum and it was so early, they could still find out that info). I just put on a brave face and didn't give her the satisfaction of knowing I was affected in anyway especially cos she kept asking, in a pity-like manner, how I was going. I just said "Yeah fine" and smiled. I didn't want her pity when she was holding the goods and I wasn't. I didn't want to give the impression of "poor her, she is having problems" esp as this was my 2nd m/c - it was no one's business but mine and DHs. Get's me a little angry to think she could do it and I couldn't but I think she is the sort of person that makes me react like that. Anyone else - I still have been brave with but not as defiant, if you know what I mean. Tina - you'll find out what works for you but I just couldn't stand people pussy-footing around me and that's why I have chosen to show strength even when I want to scream out loud for having gone thru this injustice. GL hun - I really mean it.

[plc1805]

katie - am thinking of you and sending you express positive vibes for 3.30 (even tho we are both in melb but I want to make sure u get them ) - u will be fine hun and ur a strong cookie.

natty, AJC, berecca, katie, tempus & tina - thx so much for ur kind words

Hi and hugs to everyone else - what's bday buddy up to while in her TWW?

[Jodsan]

Hi everyone,

I think I am officially in the 2WW. I had real trouble pinpointing O this month as I had constant pains for a week. I had a low hormonal drop on Saturday, then Sunday my Cervix was still open and soft but today it is closed and hard. So I assume I O'd either Saturday night or yesterday, assuming cervix probably takes 24 hours to close again? I am going with 1dpo anyway?!? Our cut-off to TTC a girl was Friday morning, so we are probably in with a good chance of conceiving this month still This has to be my month, I'd love a little Sagi girl (or boy if that's the way nature intends it)!!

Berecca - Congratulations hun! Sending you

Katiegirl - good luck with scan. 6 weeks is apparently the point where they should be able to see something, but it will probably depend when you O'd.

Tina - I wish I had some words of wisdom here. It's really hard in these situations. Maybe you can just go into it hoping that her will rub off on you!

Tempus - good luck tomorrow.

Bettyboop - where are you hun, don't leave us?

[plc1805]

Tina - Actually Jodsan reminded me that that was my recent thinking too. All these people getting pg around me, gotta mean there's a helluva lot of babydust out there ready to settle on me. It's a lot easier than "all these ppl getting pg around me, they're all doing it on purpose just to spite me or they are just shoping off" - good one Jodsan, take care Tina

[AJC]

Tempus - good luck tomorrow. Sending lots of positive vibes your way.

Jodsan - good luck for the tww. I'm almost at the end of mine.. *sigh*

plc - I know what you mean about the 'pity the poor girl who had a m/c'. I'm the same, I try to make sure I have a smile on my face and pretend it's the furthest thing from my mind (even tho it's the only thing on my mind most of the time).

Kategirl - hope all went well. I went for an ultrasound at 6 weeks last pg and we saw the little 'flicker'. It was one of the most beautiful things I've ever seen. Sending positive vibes anyway - your appointment is probably over by now but

Is it just me but has anyone noticed the baby boom??? I have never seen so many pg people or people with newborns lately. I went shopping today to cheer myself up and saw so many pg or recently pg people I got depressed and came home. I know these people may have gone though a heap of crap to have their bit of happiness too but it feels like I have some cosmic sign above my forehead saying 'not pregnant - rub it in'.

[STARRYSKY]

CONGRATULATIONS BERECCA!!!

[Canary]

Hi Girls,
I'm just popping in for a quick catch up. HUGE CONGRATULATIONS to berecca and Brockstar. The laptop has decided not to cooperate this evening, so I am using an ancient machine and therefore wont add any emoticons as I'll be here all night if I do!
Berecca- try not to panic. (easier said than done) Probably just a bit of a bleed because AF would have been here. Remember that you are doing everything humanly possible to make this little bub as healthy as can be. Have lots of sticky vibes and baby dust, I'll be thinking of you with my fingers crossed.

AJC- I just want to send you huge hugs. xx Someimes, the world seems to be pregnant, doesnt it! I am so sorry that your trip to the spa was not as mind- clensing as you had hoped. Grit your teeth and you'll get through this tough spot, we're here to help you along too. ** Hugs. **

Tina- So sorry about your SIL. Cant believe that she would be so insensitive. IKWYM about being reminded of sad times. This weekend, I put on a bath robe (of all things!) and immediately remembered that the last time I wore it was when I was in hospital following the m/c. Now I know that your SIL will be a bit more of a reminder than a bath robe, and you cant really take her off and put her back in the cupboard, so I hope that she is a bit more understanding. Maybe you could have a word with your Bro and ask him mention that this visit will be tough for you?

Hi everyone else, I hope that you are all doing OK and looking forward to a fab easter.

[Katiegirl]

Hi everyone - up early as I have to fly to Tasmania today for a meeting. Very tired after yesterday. Would love to be sleeping in.

Berecca - if you are concerned about the bleed, give your doctor a call. With my last preg I always ummed and aaghed about calling my dr, but this time around for my own piece of mind I plan to have him on speed dial (it also doesn't hurt that this new ob is very understanding). I am sure the bleed is implantation, and generally I believe it is only a concern if it turns bright red, but it never hurts to ask a dr. I will send you some sticky vibes as I know how stressful and sign of anything out of the ordinary is! Stay strong.

Tina - I am so sorry that you are going to have to face your SIL. I think you need to be kind to yourself, and if at any time you find it too much then just get up and walk away (to the kitchen or something). You need to be a little selfish and put yourself first - actually at this stage in your life it is not selfish at all. So do whatever you have to do to get through it. If your SIL does not understand, than that shows she lacks empathy. Take care and I hope it is not too difficult for you. Also let your DH know that you will find it tough, that way he will be prepared for what you do.

Ok, I had better stop typing and get ready to catch this plane. How lovely it would be to miss it....okay enough daydreaming. It is so hard to go to work or do work when my mind is on far more important matters.

Have a good day everyone.

[plc1805]

Katie - so happy about the healthy hb on u/s. That is my ultimate prayer - more so than the BFP really. So very very happy for you hun!

Berecca - I'm with Jodsan - if it goes pink it's a good sign! Keep strong hun!

Hope the other ladies with recent BFPs are doin ok - and that each day is marching along nicely.

to the rest of you lovely girls - one day our huge pg bellies will join the mass epidemic of pg women out there!!

[tina_k]

tempus: good luck for your appt today

Katie: so happy to hear all ok with OB, i cant imagine how wonderful it would be to see that heartbeat, i didnt het that last time...

plc, jodsan, canary, seenabeena, and katie girl, thank you for your words of wisdom re my SIL today. I have spoken to DH about how difficult this is going to be for me, and he knows that i am doing this for him, and is very understanding...

i soo understand the baby boom thing! every female in the world around me seems to be PG or with bub right now...i like the baby dust theory!!! thanks Jodsan and plc!!!!!!

hope your all well and feeling positive

[Katiegirl]

Hi everyone. Thanks for all your positive vibes....they paid off! We saw the heartbeat and it was such a relief. I feel so much calmer knowing that our baby is okay. He said that it looked like a healthy pregnancy, so all good.

Thanks again!!! Now I can breathe a little easier.

[seenabeena]

berecca623 - Congratulations. Wishing you a strong healthy pregnancy.

TinaK - Your SIL sounds very insensitive. I hope seeing her isn't too hard on you. My SIL is pg too and would have been 2 weeks behind me, but I see her regularly and she is really really lovely and thoughtfull about the situation. I hate that I don't always feel 100% happy for her (because obviously I am happy for them), but I cannot help feel jelous and envious. I get really sad about it at times when she is talking about scans and stuff, but like every other *****ty feeling you get after a mc I get through it and for the most part and happy and excited for my bro and SIL.

Jodson - Fingers crossed for the 2ww - - - sending you lot's of pg vives.

I've had 3 friends give birth in the last 10 days so there are babies galore in my life . . . hard not to think of your own when you are surrounded by newborns. Tomorrow will be a brighter day

[berecca623]

Tempus - Good luck for tomorrow, I am keeping EVERYTHING crossed that it will be OK!

Katie - Glad that ur ultrasound went well and that you are feeling better.

Thanx to everyone for their congratulations, I still can't believe it!

Ok girls now I need some help and calming down, so Angel wherever you are I am thinking this is your domain!

Today I have been cramping a bit and then tonight when I went to the loo I saw some bright red bleeding. I went to the toilet an hour later and now I have a light pinkish stain, like it is going. OK so I know about implantation bleeding and as I O at CD16 this could be it, but this morning my temp dropped 0.1 as well, although I didn't get much sleep. Please someone reassure me cause I'm in a panic and couldn't handle AF after two albeit faint![/COLOR][/COLOR]

[Mel A]

Well AF turned up today exactly 30 days after my m/c. So were back on the trying wagon. Charting, CM, ferny saliva. DTD every 36hs day 10-18.

[AJC]

Fiona624 - nice to meet you! I LOVE the low GI diet, I am so glad I have met someone else who is happy with the diet. I have always suffered terrible acne, while I was not ttc and on the pill my skin was fine. Since I stopped taking the pill I was feeling like a teenager again. After 2 unexplained x m/c my ob/gyn suggested that maybe I have insulin resistance or PCOS (which blood tests confirmed I don't) but I started the low GI diet anyway as it just seems like the way to go for general good health. After 3 weeks I noticed the redness and puffiness in my skin's appearance had eased, after about 10 - 12 weeks I had really clear skin and continue to. I do get little break outs around af time but just tiny little ones that go away overnight. It's funny now when I eat something really bad (like a big slice of cake) I always get a nasty pimple approx 3 days later then it takes another 3 days to clear. Amazing - I swear by this diet. I also lost a bit of weight since starting the diet too. Hopefully my new body will carry next bub to term.
There are some great low GI cookbooks - I love to cook so have been enjoying trying new things. Good luck hope you get your BFP soon ! ! !

Pash - he he he, re: mile high club. Imagine that story at bub's 21st - 'it was on the long haul to London all those years ago when it all began'...... Good luck whatever you decide!

XMuginsX - congrats on the BFP, wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy.

Emmylou - Welcome. I'm sure you'll find lots of support in here. I hope you get a BFP soon.

LJ - Here's hoping that the easter bunny will bring you a BFP!

pbstar - am sure you'll be all relaxed without the temping and other crap. Hope you end up with a BFP and relaxed uneventful (other than all the happy fuzzy moments) pregnancy to go with it.

Bettyboop - how you doing?

Hiya everyone else - have a lovely Easter (if you celebrate it). Have some catching up with family and friends planned so am looking forward to that. Am actually excited about our friends coming with their 12wk old now, was nervous at first (worried I'd get upset) but now I'm excited so I hope that mood sticks. Af came in full swing this morn so am now on cd1. Starting clomid tomorrow.....nervous but hoping that am doing this for the best.
and Easter Eggs for everyone.

[Natty]

Hi Everyone

Firstly Happy Easter - may the Easter Bunny bring all of us no calorie, no fat delicious easter eggs and BFPs!

Tina - its hard to BD when you feel flat. You just need to remember that first and foremost you BD to have fun and because you love your DH. Last week I bought an 'outfit' for DH and we had the best laugh ever. It was so funny - not the sexy image depicted on the packaging at all but the endorphins from laughing put us both in such a good, happy loving mood that one thing lead to another....Or maybe dont put any expectations on yourselves. Just cuddle and kiss and if one thing leads to another then good, but if not then at least you are relaxed and feel good about each other. :hugs:

LF - sounds like implantation

Canary - I am with you on being anxious the TWW. Trying to fill up the day as much as possible at work and then focussing on DD and DH at home works for me....

Angelbabies - thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with us - what a wonderful perspective!

Emmy-Lou - So sorry for your loss but welcome. Hoping for a BFP for you soon.