TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ October 07

[Wowzer]

I am out for this month. Flo is here Did anyone else's periods change in length after m/c mine went from 28 days to 25days. I knew she was coming too as my weight went up

[Beaksie]

Hi everyone. Just a quick one from me. Am feeling miserable. I have been pretty crappy most of the day, have a face full of zits, and s?)(**ty with the world. All this can only mean one thing...AF is coming. Due tomorrow, and if it doesnt arrive dead on time I"ll be surprised. Sorry no personals, really not in the mood to be social. Will pop in tomorrow. Take care

[littlescottishboy]

Beaksie and Wowzer - to you both. So sorry that AF came for you Wowzer. And Beaksie, there's still time for her not to come - hope she doesn't arrive. Wouldn't it be nice to be able to buy her a passport and just say "Here, go on a lovely holiday, Aunt Flo, for about... ohh, nine months, that should do it". Big hugs to you both.

[Beaksie]

Thanks LSB- Still waiting for AF. Have a feeling I miscalculated and actually due tomorrow, as I counted my first day when I started spotting. Dont think thats what you're meant to do. Anyway. Still waiting, waiting. Have had loads of cm so figure this means AF is nearlly here. Just want this month finished. Am so over this. Hope you're doing OK.

[mumstar]

Hi everyone,

Well, still waiting for AF to arrive (9weeks post d & C), i did a OPT and had a positive last thursday friday, saturday, sunday and monday. So who knows whats happening or I actually ovulated, if so please please let me catch the eggie!! I did get EWCM starting on wednesday. Have to wait and see.

Good luck everyone.

[satya]

wowzer - my cycle went shorter after my 2nd m/c and it's mostly stayed that way since. Mine of course could have been caused by age.

Beaksie you start your count from the first day of full flow and I think only if its full flow before lunch time (not sure on that bit though). Lots of CM is a good sign so you never know.

[STARRYSKY]

hi guys,
wowzer I have just calculated today that I waited five weeks to the day for af after my mc, this is my second cycle and was only 26 days, before the mc I was as regular as clockwork dead on 28 days each and every time, I am hoping this is normal, only 2 days but im a teensy bit worried....

beaksie hi sweetie, you know its not over till the fat lady sings (damn aunt flo) fingers crossed, am thinking of you, be buggered if I can ever catch you on here.....

bw Wishing you the best of luck with everything, sending you lots of hugs and encouragement, For me, I find it hard enough to imagine how I will cope being pg again after my mc, I can only imagine what you and your dh are going through, my fingers are crossed and I am mentally sending you lots and lots of sticky vibes ( that goes for mammal and dawnee too)

mumstar good luck chickie!

bunnys mum hello! welcome, I hope you arent here long, I am glad we have been of some help to you. Its nice to know.

lsb thankyou, I am doing just that, and eating salami and camembert and all those naughty things I so dearly love.hehehe!

satya, kiwigirl,charlie 23, treelo hope you are all well, sorry for not doing more personals but I am stuffed from working two full days (yes, poor little me) I am just not used to it anymore.
lizjessie and kbowman are you still around? I miss you.......
xxxx

[Beaksie]

Hi Miss Starrysky- Im starting to think you are the phantom girl! You're never here when I am, but FYI just cause it says im online, doesnt mean I am. Ive forgotten my password and so dont log out. Just wanted you to know Im not avoiding you chickie! Hope youre good, and enjoying all those illicit foods.
Satya - Hi. Hope you're doing OK. Goodluck with the TTW, I sincerely hope you get want you want, either way iykwim.
As for me, still waiting. Seems I did miscalculate, so can expect AF tonight or tomorrow. Am getting the odd AF style cramp, so BRING IT ON i say. May as well get it over with-then I can have a beer to console myself-hehe. I'll drop by tomorrow---and let you know.

[sweetpetite]

Hi All-

Feels like I've been away forever! At the beginning of Sept my DH had to work a lot and that made my life extra busy and time just flew. Anyway, just
wanted to pop in and say 'Hi' to everyone. I see congrats are in order to Dawneee and Mammal! Congratulations to you both! Wishing you H&H pgs.

Treelo: Belated b-day to you. Sorry you didn't get the present of a vacation for AF this month. Hopefully her birthday present (of taking about a 9mo vaca!) will come to you soon!

Welcome to BW & Bunny's Mum. I hope your stay here is a short one with a very happy ending.

Satya - glad to see you're still lurking about. I'm sorry you've had such a rough patch (like sandpaper actually!). You don't deserve it. Stay strong - I hope all
your dreams come true.

LSB: Sorry AF reared her ugly head. Good luck with the FS - it's great your DH is willing to go.

As for me, AF FINALLY showed up about a week short of 3 months from my D&C. It was forever! But I remember it took 3mo after I had my DD so I shouldn't have been surprised. This past weekend I practically had a breakdown. My DH says he does not want to try again - he is good with the one we have. He had all kinds of reasons as to why not but I just can't accept that. After some tears, I was able to get him to agree to try again but there's all
these hanging stipulations like none of this every-other-day for a week stuff, and no FS. All I could get him to agree to was not using protection. So
pretty much it's going to be a lot of luck for me. Sept was out because he was so tired from working all those extra hours he 'couldn't imagine bringing
another kid into the mix'. I don't know...it happened last time under these same circumstances (i.e., just some well-timed BDing) but I am so afraid it's
not going to happen when I so desperately want it to. On the other hand, I was able to get pg last time so maybe...? It's all very hard to think about and sometimes reading in here makes me more anxious. But the support in here is so great it's hard to stay away. I still haven't been able to see my friend who was 6wks ahead of me (and, unlike me, is still pg). Friday she IMed me we should get together (before she goes on maternity leave - like I needed the reminder) and I just didn't answer. Then today I skipped a meeting partly b/c I was afraid I'd run into her. Turns out I got an award for some work I'd done and I probably should have gone. Oh well. I can't believe it's been 3 mos and I still can't bring myself to see her but I've m/c'ed during both her pgs + 1 so it's just so upsetting to have to deal with. I know I should just grow up!

Anyway, 'Hi' to all I missed. to all!

[mumstar]

Hi

Starrksy - thanks for the support
Mammal - I had a blood test done on the thursday and had a -ve for pregnancy, i did a test tuesday (slightly obessed) and still -ve. Obiouvsly, if i did ovulate on the weeked it's still very early days to test. I have been to pee on a stick.

Fingers crossed for everyone

[kiwigirl]

Zionsmom, are you still around? How are you doing?

[AnnaBelle]

Hello you lovely ladies,

I would like to join you all in your journey to mummyhood!!
Hi there!! My name is AnnaBelle and I have been lurking for quite some
time after my missed mc in august. I had my very first scan and was so excited
to see my baby for the very first time - but not to be - no heart beat - no baby -
- just an offer for a procedure to take my little one away two days later - what a shock.
I almost went to that very first OB appointment on my own but thank god my dh got out of
work at the very last minute to be there and was by my side when I was told my baby was not
viable - dh had to be helped by the OB to sit down as he was about to faint (I love him so much)!!
Anway after that appointment somehow I went back to work that afternoon and got though the day
and somehow my colleagues had no idea i was falling apart on the insidecoping is such a strange thing - and that is i guess what we girls just do)!!
Right now this is how i feel: Weird / Strange / Empty / Anxious/ I could go on and on..
It is so weird now because next time i fall pg (fingers crossed) the innocence of my first pregnancy
will be gone forever - it will be different - that naievity (spelling) will never be there again cause it will be different IFYKWIM - I am sure you all in this group know exactly what i mean!! But that is OK I have come to accept that next time round will be different - for me and dh and we will just take every day as it comes - so if you are all up to it - i would cherish your support in this next part of our journey x
So now I am in the midst of AF nos 2 after my D & C 10/8/07 (9 weeks) and in the frame of mind to get busy and bd the month away.
Thanks for listening
x
Anna

[butterfly_warrior]

Welcome, AnnaBelle. Yes, it is very sad that so many of us know exactly what you are talking about in losing the innocence of pregnancy. My story is so similar to yours - missed miscarriage discovered at 8 weeks and 5 days. The heartbreaking part of it is that two weeks earlier we'd had a scan with my FS and everything was fine... I'm in the process of preparing for another embryo transfer soon, and just like you am choosing to believe it will be very different this time round. However, because of the fact that we're doing IVF, we had all sorts of tests done, and we do know a reason for losing our first bub. I'll be taking lots of medication this time, but it still doesn't take away the fear.

BW

[Beaksie]

Hi everybody. Just another quickie from me, not in the most sociable mood ATM. Well AF is at least 1 day late, but alas no BFP for me. Pretty sure she was due yesterday, so I tested today. At the moment she still hasnt shown her face despite getting heaps of ewcm earlier in the week, so unfortunately my wait continues. AF will probably arrive the next day or so, but if not, I'll test again Mondayish. I guess there's a small possibility that I O'd late, but Im thinking it's probably just a longer than usual cycle. Either way, should know soon. Hope you're all great. Sorry about lack of personals. I'll pop back in over the weekend...

[AnnaBelle]

Good morning girls,

Thank you for lovely reply butterflywarrior it does sound like we had very similar experiences - i think with a missed mc you are blissfully thinking things are fine and don't have a worry in the world and actually look forward to a scan - so I am sure scans will be a little different in the future.
you said you had a reason for your mc - i was told it was just one of those things and probably a chromosome problem with the baby..

STARRYSKY & bunny'smum Hello to you both - I too had my mc in august - 8/8/07 (told of my missed mc) & later had a d&c - I was 9 weeks. So hello and I hope you are both feeling better each day.

Wowzer - Hello there - Yes I agree our cycles are a little different after mc - after my d& c my 1st AF was exactly 28 days and now my 2nd AF started about 32 or 33 days - before mc I was around 26 or 27 days. Most of the advice I am getting is not to worry and try to temp and check CM for fertility signs if your cycle is a bit haywire.

To everyone hello and thanks for having me join in. to you all xo

AnnaBelle

[butterfly_warrior]

AnnaBelle, they told me the same thing. ButI have a weird, unidentifiable arthritis condition, which always worries me, especially knowing that autoimmune conditions can be responsible for miscarriages. Despite having two specialists and my GP assure me it wouldn't be a problem, it just niggled at my mind too much. We sought out a reproductive immunologist and had all sorts of tests run, which do indicate that I have an autoimmune condition thing happening. It's probably not enough to cause problems on its own, but when combined with my PCOS, it's just not worth taking the risk again. I was actually on both medications used to treat me this time around, but at the time of the miscarriage, I wasn't on enough of either of them. I'll be taking higher doses for longer this time, and keeping my fingers crossed and praying heaps that it will all work out. I think in most cases, it probably does come down to a random chromosome problem, but I've got too many other health problems to be able to let things go at "just one of those things".

BW

[STARRYSKY]

hello everyone,
annabelle how are you? yes we were pg at the same time and could have been belly buddies, sadly we are mc buddies, sorry for the negativity Welcome to the thread, hope you are not here long!
I am feeling rather strange of late, I started to feel like all was ok with me and the world, 2 nd cycle post mc etc, then 2 days ago, suddenly it hit me all over again for no apparent reason and I was a sobbing mess for about an hour.
I am ok again now, but have noticed I am a lot more highly emotional than I ever have been lately.
beaksie Thanks for your reply chickie! I love your photo in your signature, what a cutie!! hope you are feeling better.

BW I hope you are not stressing out too much, I am thinking of you and hoping and praying that all will go well.

mumstar any good news yet? fingers crossed for you.

sweetpetite hello !! I was wondering what had happened to you.
it is totally understandable that you would feel that way regarding your friend, it makes things hard, doesnt it? gluck with the bding.


big hellos to kiwigirl, satya, wowzer, bunnymum, lsb, lizjessie,treelo and charlie 23
On thursday I had aphonecall from my boss in tears, the girl they hired to replace me has quit and none too nicely! had some choice words for my boss and also said that all I and my colleagues do is stand around and ***** about her!!
so then I had to go in early and calm things down
hopefully I dont get any hours this week!! I dont want to work!!
beckxxxxxxx

[littlescottishboy]

Annabelle - hugs to you hun. Welcome and lean on us anytime you want! I too had a missed m/c; mine was at 12 weeks. (i have had 3 m/c's and one beautiful live baby boy - so i have hope that it will happen again someday). I know exactly what you mean about losing the innocence. In some ways though, it means we are wiser and will appreciate our little ones in the future so much. So our future bubbies will be very special indeed.

StarrySky - how 'nice' to be the peacemaker at work!! Sound like you have your hands full there! At least the trouble-maker will be no more.

Butterfly Warrior - was wondering about your auto-immune thingy... have you tried taking fish oil capsules? I am sure you will be getting all the proper medicaitons but just wondering if you have heard about this natural option to take as well.

Beaksie - sorry you have been in a crap mood hun. Hope u feel better now. Love the piccy.

Mumstar - how are you matey?

Satya - how r u? Any news?

SweetPetite- so sorry your DH is being a tool. It must be a man thing; i think all men go through it sometimes! You know, i have discovered sometimes it is better not to discuss the planning/details with my DH. He tends to get really disintersted and we fight heaps when i try to discuss the ins and outs (excuse the pun!!!) of when i am ovulating, so we must do it now, etc etc. I think the man gets more interested in BDing if they think it is for 'fun' and not for pressure IYKWIM. I'm sure he'll come round eventually hun.

Big hugs and hi to eveyone i've missed.

As for me, Day 14 today, and we have BD'd on Days 8, 10, 12 and this afternoon! (much more fun in the arvo than at night when we are so tired! Lucky our little fella had a good afternoon sleep today!). Am still taking the chinese herbs and they are pretty strong! (Feels like i've eaten ten tonnes of bakes beans!!! so much gas! Sorry for TMI!). I hope they work cos the gas is something i can live without! Had acupuncture again yesterday and she focussed on drawing the energy towards my uterus to help blood flow to the area. All very interesting.

Anyway kiddies time to go to beddybyes so take care and chat soon. xoxo