TTC after Miscarriage or Loss ~ October 07

[missbelinda77]

Beaksie - do something to take your mind of it for today and retest with FMU tomorrow. And if that test is still not clear, and AF hasn't arrived you should go and have a BT on Monday - because where is AF? She should be here by now.

I have a good feeling for both you and Lee this month, in fact this thread is going to be empty within a few weeks and they will have to close this thread off due to everyone gettings BFPs!

Is everyone in the TWW at the moment? Sure feels like it lol

[kaib]

Hi all!

Starrysky - thanks for the prompting to write! This is my third cycle TTC after m/c in July - have been charting temps daily for all 3 cycles since m/c, and have used OPKs for last 2 cycles. I don't have anything to compare against, as I wasn't charting before I fell pg the first time - so I'm still trying to work out what's relatively normal for me. I have pretty rampant PMS the week & days leading up to AF, most of those symptoms mimicking early pregnancy symptoms, so I have been 'fooled' each month thinking I'm pg but then AF arrives. I started taking vitex this month under the guidance of my naturopath, and my boobs haven't been half as sore as they normally would be (I'm in the week leading up to AF now). If you don't mind me asking, has your slight bleeding stopped? Sorry for upcoming TMI, but I have had brownish bleeding for last 24 hours, along with subtle AF type cramps today - but the bleeding is not heavy enough to need a liner, only visible on tp. I've had a continuous sore throat for the last week too. I promised myself that I wouldn't read symptoms this month, given my track record of being fooled! I really hope this bleeding for both of us is a good sign. When are you due to test?

Satya - just a quick 'hi' and also a very big 'congratulations'! I've heard so many other instances of women falling pg when they had 'let go' or stopped actively TTC - I know a number of people closest to me have kindly said to me I should stop obsessing over it; I obviously don't say anything to their faces, but I sure want to. I know in reality it's probably true, but people who haven't ever experienced difficulty TTC will never know that it's practically impossible to 'let go', and no amount of advice-giving will make this any easier for us. I'll stop my ranting now. But it is so great to hear that you are pg, especially in view of all the heartache that you've gone through in recent months - I'm glad things are a whole lot brighter for you as you deserve it.

Got to go; DH & I are packing to go to Sydney for a week, so need to keep progressing with that! I look forward to seeing a myriad of BFPs by the end of the week!

[satya]

Hi everyone.

Beaksie - hold off for a couple of more days and try again.... good luck.

I've been feeling really tired today and even had to have a nap, then again we were out til 2am this morning (no I didn't have even one drink, we were just at a relatives house and of course I was designated driver). We went out for brunch today and I ate like a horse. I am starting to get a little cramping now so hope that's all for good reasons and not for bad ones. Still no sign of spotting.

I'm hoping because this is so badly timed that this will be the sticky one. Also my DF is sworn to secrecy until 12 weeks (if we get there) as I'm hoping by then everyone will have forgotten when we got back together and wont realise the baby was conceived before we were officially back together. I'm thinking that seeing the implantation dip was earlier than the last one that I've got a better chance for a sticky one too... they say the later the implantation there is less likelihood of it sticking.

Anyway, better get going now. Fingers crossed for BFPs for Lee & Beaksie when they do test & for everyone else as well later this month.

[Sharon19270]

Satya thought I would pop in over here and give you my congrats, and wishing you the stickiest of pregnancies.

Also a quick hi to everyone else here, hope you all migrate over to the PAML thread real soon.

to all.

[mammal]

Congratulations, Satya!

[Lee]

Morning lovelies,

Well, I tested and I don't think I can give you a definitive answer. I woke at 2am and had to pee, so tested then........ held back for a few minutes before giving the strip to DH - he stared blankly at it with squinted sleepy eyes (sometimes men are so clueless!! lol), so I grabbed it off him and really only saw one line. Couldn't get back to sleep, and checked it again a while later and there is a faint 2nd line (very faint!! but DH can see it too). I used this same test the other week and got a very clear negative, and to this day that one never produced an evap line. So, at 8am I used my last test, and same thing again, a very very faint line - which probably doesn't appear within the required timeframe......... so I dunno

My last pregnancy - I didn't O until CD17, and didn't get a positive hpt until 14dpo (or CD31) - I'm only on CD28 today - and I really don't know when I o'd - so I guess I'm still in with a chance. If AF doesn't show by CD31, I'll wait and retest then.

Why can't us women just wait until AF has been a week late, it would save all this psycho analysis lol........... my bb's are really tingling today, whatever that means. I feel fine either way, and happy to still have a tiny bit of hope

We are off to CATS today, so pretty exciting for the kiddies.... hope you are all having a great weekend with plenty of SLEEP and fun...

Sorry I couldn't be a bit more specific!!

Beaksie - any news??????????

Satya - you were on my mind through the night, I'm constantly sending you good vibes...x

Lee xo

[kaib]

Oh my gosh Lee, I can completely understand where you're coming from when you queried why can't we wait a week after AF due before testing? !?!? I tested early this morning with FMU too, around 4.45 am, and exactly the same thing happened with me (just posted this on TWW thread)...I went back to bed without reading the result within the recommended 5 minute time, but when I went back to throw it out a couple of hours later, I noticed a very faint pink second line. And same experience as you, I've never had an evap line show up on these ever before (the ultrasensitive midstream tests from LC). AF not due for me until Thursday, so it's still early on for me, and DH & I are still wanting to be 'cautious'. But I really do hope that our second lines for the both of us are the real deal. I won't be testing again until tomorrow morning with FMU. I wish you all the best with a bigger & darker BFP for you!

[Beaksie]

Hi girls- Lee & Kaib, goodluck with retesting,it sounds really positive for you both. I'll definitely keep my fingers crossed!!!
By the way, waiting a week doesnt always help!! Look at me, for goodness sake. Day 10 and still no closer to having an answer. Didnt test today, Im just too over it, but may tomorrow. Actually feeling like AF is going to come (I know Ive said that all week ) but I've got a big blind zit on my nose, and this is a notorious sign for me. Im really struggling, just feel so sad and desperate.
Realistically, it could just be super long cycle cause of MC in May, cause bear with me here:
-took 6 weeks to get af after D&C
- went straight on the pill for 2 months after 1st AF
-first full cycle after pill (last month) was exactly 28 days
But that doesnt mean I had gone back to regular afs does it? May still be settling down. And just cause I O'd late doeasnt mean I conceived, just means that af will also be waaayyy late. Right???
Im sorry. I know Im being such a drag, but this is beyond a joke now, and I dont have docs till Thursday.
Just want to thank you all for supporting me, and putting up with my crap. Wouldnt have survived without your help.

[STARRYSKY]

hi girls,

firstly I am so happy for you satya!!
I really hope and pray that this will work out for you.

beaksie, lee,kaib, OMG!! This really will be a clear out by november wont it!?!
miss belinda it sure does feel like everyone is in the tww, i am once again, am quite a bit positive about it this cycle, I really think i may be in with a chance.

I saw satya, lee, kaib and beaksies news and had to come say congrats and fingers crossed for everyone!!!
I still have so much cleaning up to do after last nights party, I would advise all and sundry, dont ever do a lamb on a spit, it is more trouble than it is worth!!

talk soon,
xxxx

[Dawneee]

Hi just popped in to see where everyones at:
Satya: Congratulations.
Lee:That seems positive for you a line is a line Goodluck I am sending you all the vibes
Beaksie: you poor thing! I'd be very frustrated if I were you Hang it there chicky!
Kaib: It so looking good for you too Goodluck!
Everyone else I've missed Goodluck!! wishing you all BFP's soon.....
I am doing okay.....M/S has really kicked in weird it's starting to get as bad as it was with all my pg's that I carried and had healthy Bubs.....The two M/C's I didn't get sick at all.....I really believe that tells me this one will be ok I am having an U/S next week so we'll see then but this constant nausea and heaving is so familiar!
anyhow gotta go Big hugs to everyone!

[AnnaBelle]

Hello girls,

I cant believe how busy this forum has been and exciting developments too!!

Satya CONGRATULATIONS!!! YOU ARE AN INSPIRATION TO THE REST OF US !! WELL DONE & I HOPE THAT EVERYTHING GOES REALLY WELL FOR YOU XO

Beaksie , Lee & kaib !!!!!!! I think you three are going to graduate to PAML I agree with STARRYSKY (HELLO THERE!!) it is going to be a massive month here for our group.

Beaskie - just hang in there we are here with you counting down the days until you see your doctor - hugs to you
STARRYSKY - How are you going?? I will still be here to do the tww with you and
missbelinda too and of couse anyone else out there!! I hope the lamb on the spit still tasted nice and was worth all the cleaning up!!

Me - I am fine just getting the hang of this temping business - first month trying it and this morning my temp went from 36.5 (past two days) to 37 deg (this morning) and i am mid cycle so this could mean i have O'd already - anyway will see what tomorrow's temp will bring.

Well this excitement is just great - bring on those darker

AnnaBelle

[satya]

Lee - It's sounding promising for you if you used the same test before and didn't get an evap line. Good luck when you test again. I was relieved when I tested as I could see a faint line within 3 minutes and it said to read it at 5 minutes but not after 10 and at 5 minutes it was quite clear. So much easier when it works that way. Faint lines just do your head in, I know that feeling well.

Kaib - I reckon it could be good news for you - I use the same tests as you and I've never seen an evap line on them and I've never heard of anyone getting one either. I've only had a positive result on them at 12DPO (this time) and 13DPO (last time) if that's of any help to you.

Beaksie - AF's after m/c can be quite erratic so it is quite possible to end up having a longer cycle even a few months after having one.

Dawneee - YAY for the m/s. Good luck with the ultrasound.

AnnaBelle - that does sound like you have O'd but of course you have to see what the next two temps do to know for sure.



I'm feeling really positive so far. I had a headache last night and it's kicking in this morning again too. My nose is still stuffy and I'm really tired. With my last two pregnancies the nose thing had gone away by now and I wasn't getting headaches either so I'm hoping that it means things are going well this time. BBs are just a little uncomfortable and my bra feels a little tight. If I don't eat at the regular times my tummy rumbles something chronic. Not sure when I will visit the GP. My DF wants me to wait until Saturday but something tells me I will go one night after work just to get the slip for a BT then I can go get it done one lunch time. People hang out the doors of those pathology places on Saturday's, I just don't have the patience for that at the moment.

Hi to anyone I've missed.

[hj1981]

Girls can i ask a question - i used a OPK this week - it came up positive on CD19 - DH and i BD'ed on CD9,16,18,20,21 - does that sound like i covered my bases? am i in for a chance on a BFP at the end of my TWW??? im worried that cause we didnt BD on CD19 i may of missed out this mth?

[mammal]

HJ1981-- looks like your bases are covered. Good luck in 10 days!

[hj1981]

thanks heaps mammal!

[pash]

A huge congrats to Satya. You deserve all the happiness in the world. Wishing you a happy & healthy pg.

Lee!! Congrats to you my gal! You are just to cool and calm about it all! What are you on, and can I have some to calm my nerves? All the best to you and DH. I wish you all the joy in the world.

Kaib, looks great for you, congratulations!

Beaksie... I'm sure there's a BFP just around the corner. Just a couple more days. But geez, what torture! I don't know how you're keeping sane

Dawnee, if you're lurking, the m/s sounds v comforting (strange isn't it). All the best for the u/s and hope that it puts your mind at rest.

Nothing new from me. Still waiting for my HCG to go to 0. Its now more than 5mths since my last D&C and HCG is still lingering at 13 I never knew what frustration was until now. Its been dropping by 1 over the last few weeks, at this rate, I'll get to 0 by Jan then ttc by July 2008! But I doubt things will even go that smoothly.

[bunny's mum]

Satya - big congratulations to you - i really think it was suppose to be you urn for a positive result. Well done!!!!!!!

Girlies i have a question, my last cycle was 24 days and the previous one was 26 days, what day should i start using the opk? I am temping and lookin' for cm, but i'm very new to that too. I just want to maximise our chances this month. It is so confuising when my cycle is so irregular now post the mc. Any advice would be appreciated. Also, how many of you just bd every second day to cover all possibilies?

Thanks heaps

[Beaksie]

Hi everyone. Just a quick one from me, cause Im still feeling feral. Now 11 days past AF and no BFP. I seriously think Im out now. I dont think it took this long to show with dd. Im actually a bit worried somethings wrong with me, cause this has never happened before. I guess it might be because of my MC, I just don't know. Do know I wont be testing any more, and after this month Im OUT. Im not going to actively try anymore, will just stay off the pill and see what happens. As much as I love all you guys, I really dont think I can go through this again, and though I will keep popping in to support you guys, Im not gonna do this obsessive thing anymore. Ive still got my docs appointmrnt Thurs and will get a BT done if no AF by then. BTW, great to see you back PASH, we've missed you!