Trying to Conceive after Late Loss/Recurrent Miscarriage/Stillbirth ~ March 09

**MistyFying** · March 17th, 2009, 01:21 PM

If you have found yourself in this forum you no doubt have had a painful journey. TTC after recurrent miscarriage/stillbirth or Late Loss takes special courage and support. The aim of this forum is to provide a place where women who have endured loss can share their stories, friendships, treatments and triumphs!

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**MistyFying** · March 17th, 2009, 01:25 PM

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**Miss.B** · March 17th, 2009, 09:05 PM

Hello my lovely friends,

New thread already?????!!! Wow, how the time just flies....

Dee, I'm sorry AF finally arrived, was so hoping for a good outcome for you. You know I will cross my fingers and toes for you for your April transfer

Your DH is sooo sweet. It's really nice to spend some good quality time together.

Megan, may the next cycle be the one hun!!! Maybe you and Dee can be pg belly buddies soon and then me and Teagz will follow! LOL.

Teagz, I don't know which would be harder, a friend telling you herself she is pg or hearing it through someone else. Either way, it's hard, although I have told myself from now on that I will feel happy for anyone close to me that gets pg next, as I hope they will be happy for me when my time comes.

Diana, I hope you're not working too hard sweets! Always sending you and your little embie strong positive loving vibes

Nae & Jas, you look after yourself girls and I hope your pg symptoms are not too bad.
Hope your little ones are very sticky & healthy little bubies

Hi to our pg mummas and lots of

and

for all of us TTC

Love and hugs
B xxxx

**dee81** · March 17th, 2009, 09:53 PM

Thanks beata i wouldn't swap him for the world. it would be a dream come true if we all got our bfp in the next couple of months and i'm sure with all the prayers that are being said it will finally come true for us all.

**Miss.B** · March 17th, 2009, 10:01 PM

Dee, I agree!! It would be sooooo awesome for all of us to get our long awaited BFP's soon!
I'm always

for us all TTC and I know we'll get there hun, we just have to have patience and determination, and we can't ever give up!!!! It will happen hun!!!!! Just you wait!!!!!!

**helle** · March 18th, 2009, 07:41 AM

I was wondering when they were going to kick up a new thread... I think it got left a little longer than usual?

Beata, Hopefully your little plan ther ehappens hehe! June isn't far away! We go on a holiday towards the end of May for 3 weeks up to Exmouth... (dunno if you know where that is?) which I realised last night will make time fly. Hopefully I'll be in good bonking order when we get back XDD We decided last night as well that we're going away for Jayvan's birth day to a place DF and I stayed at one chrissy when we had just gotten together. Can't wait, it should be nice and relaxing! (if not a little windy...) Anyway, I'm rambling... again
As for my friend, i just didn't really like being singled out, iykwim. From what I gathered only me, her and her husband know about this little bub. I have gotten over my spat though, and am excited for her! She's going to have her hands full though because she already had a 10 month old!

Dee, what is a gund teddy bear?? **googles madly** N'awww!! They're so cute!! How adorable, makes me want to snuggle up to one.. they look nice and squishy.

Well I should go get ready for work... *sigh* I'm trying to wrack up some extra hours so I can have a few early knock offs. Fun fun!

Love to you all xxx

**AngelLukesmum** · March 20th, 2009, 03:38 PM

Just checking in to see if Diana had any news for us yet on how her u/s went today... Hope the rest of you are keeping well x

**cindee** · March 21st, 2009, 04:38 AM

hi everyone we got transferred back to taree this week. miranda has reached 1.4 kg so far. shes getting so big now

she'll be in hospital for maybe another 3-4 weeks. untill she gets the sucking thing working good.

im loving all the new baby stuff in the shops atm. i cant help myself i keep buying stuff.
anyway better go gotta get some sleep gotta go up in 3 hrs for next feed.
talk soon.
love cindee ......xxxxxxooooooo

**NaeNae** · March 21st, 2009, 07:14 AM

Hey Ladies,

sorry been MIA - things not so great with my beanie baby. I had some staining on thurs night and spent all day yesterday being poked and prodded at my local gp and then at Latrob regional hospital.
The verdict is the the DR is expecting me to start mc within the next week. I had a US and the SAC was approx 5w4d there was a teeny yolk sac within that we nearly missed but no foetal pole was detected, bloods revealed 8000 hcg which is consistant with the sac. US man said not to give up just yet it could be too early still so I am heading back to my GP on monday to organise another blood test and another US.

Usually I have a gut instinct on these things but I come up with nothing. MS symptoms are still strong but I know these can fade quickly too.

So if beanie baby flies the coup I will be starting the investigation side of things which is good I s'pose but in way I hope they find nothing wrong.

I think if things go pear shaped and I start that human guinea pig journey I may just be away from all BB and all baby related things as I am finding this very difficult to deal with.

Please send me all the sticky vibes you can muster and I am hoping for a happy outcome but have learned to not hold my breathe.

Will let you know

Nae x

**Loops12** · March 21st, 2009, 08:35 AM

NaeNae - Hang in there bud, I will be

for you for the week. But if it doesnt work out I have strong hopes that you will get there soon. Other people have had numerous MC's but got there in the end - you will too.
I think that is an excellent idea to do some investigations as painful as it will be at least you may get some answers.
But I really with all my heart hope that beanie sticks.

Thinking of you honey xoxo

All the best
Much love me

**Miss.B** · March 21st, 2009, 08:53 AM

Nae sweetheart, I'm so sorry you're going through this uncertain time, but as always I am keeping everything crossed for you and your little beanie and I hope and pray everything is OK.
Sending you all the sticky vibes in the world and keep praying for you hun

for your little beanie baby.

I pray to God all is well, don't lose hope yet hun

.

Love always
Beata xxxxxxxxooooooooooo

**AngelLukesmum** · April 4th, 2009, 04:12 PM

Hi everyone

I haven't posted for a while, sorry, but I have been checking on you all every day! Teagz you got me intrigued about Nae so I had to search the forum in case there was something somewhere and I found it

Very happy for you Nae!!

I am so tired this afternoon so won't write much plus I am a bit lost where everyone is up to.

Diana, did you have another scan today? If so, I hope it went well!

Teagz, hope your day has gotten a bit better luvie. We all have those moments/days where it all just gets you down but you know you'll get through it and Jayvan is so proud of his beautiful mummy and her strength.

Nothing much to report from me; we are on the countdown to stitch removal day...14 April so just over a week to go (unless I go into labour earlier). My ob will make a decision on that day whether he will also induce me, but it all depends on how low she is sitting and whether my cervix is favourable etc so who knows? I am okay with being sent home to wait it out (although it would be GREAT to meet her that day!) so we'll just have to see what happens. I'll have to let you know Helen and Diana how the stitch removal goes as I have a sneaking suspicion that it is going to be more painful than labour

Take care everyone and I'm thinking of you all and hoping for all your BFP dreams to come true ASAP xx

**Miss.B** · April 4th, 2009, 04:59 PM

Hello girls,

Nae, I've been praying so hard everythinkg is OK with your little bubba and I haven't been able to find your thread with the good news, but it sounds like the news is good so I am just so happy for you hun!!!! I'll check in tomorrow, hopefully you would have updated us.

Teagz, I just want to reach over the screen and give you a huge hug

I know the feeling so well, and I wish it could be different for us but we have to be patiens as I'm sure our turn is just around the corner hun xxxx
And a big cry sometimes it actually really good hun, so don't hold it in

.

Diana, I hope your scan went well hun. Sending you big hugs and big belly rubs for your bubbie xxxxx

Jo, can't wait for your announcement soon hun. I hope removing the stich is not so bad, and I'm sure you'll forget the pain the second you meet your little princess

. This is so exciting now isn't it?? Big hugs hun xxxxx

Hello to everyone else, sorry for the quick post but I just wanted to check up on Nae and I'm so glad I did as I now know all is well, thank goodness. I will come back tomorrow and do the rest of my persies

Lots of love and big hugs
B xxxxxx

**Chez67** · April 4th, 2009, 07:35 PM

Hi everyone

While I have been a BB member for a while now, I am new to this thread and wanted to quickly introduce myself. DH and I were married 5 weeks ago - 2 weeks ago we buried our little miracle, our son Ryan. The results of an amnio showed he had a chromosonal abnormality and, one week later, at 18weeks I was induced. 36 hours later our little boy was born sleeping.

The last two and a half weeks have been very hard. DH and I are working together to get through this day by day; we have seen a counsellor and will probably keep doing so for a while yet. I don't have the courage the return to work yet - maybe sometime after Easter.

While I am not physically ready to start TTC again, I need to start thinking about it because I don't have time on my side (I am 41) and we found it so hard to conceive Ryan that I don't expect anything to happen quickly, or possibly at all. I am seeing an AP/herbalist who wants me to wait at least 2 months before TTC again, which sounds reasonable to us.

My question is, how long physically should it take my body to heal? *TMI alert* I am still bleeding and in the last few days I noticed I am now passing pieces of tissue (endometrium?). Is this normal?

Sorry for the lack of personals, I will try to catch up on everyone's posts over the next few days.

**NaeNae** · April 6th, 2009, 07:29 AM

Howdy All,

Firstly, Chez67,

I am so sorry you have found your way into this thread and for the passing of your son Ryan. I don't have any answers fr you about when to start TTC my journey after Nikita was a little different and we were told to wait 6-9 months before we start TTC because she was born via emergency C sec. I am glad you are seeking help too, it is a very personal journey that you are going through both you and your DH will come along in different stages and the grief will be different for both of you as time goes on. You will find a lot of support in here many wonderful women and lots and lots of different stories.
I guess if I was to offer any advice it would be to start TTC when you and your DH both feel that the time is right because it can be different between you both.

Sorry I have not been in here since my post in my beanie baby thread, I had to download the updated version of my virus prtection program and because I am on crappy old dial up it literally took all day to do 9hrs just to get 69mb

then yesterday I couldn't get on to BB at all think it may have had something to do with DLS? maybe the system needed to wind back the clock or something - so I sat and watched all of the matrix movies *sigh* Keanu

Well as some of you already know, we had happy news on friday and I was a blubbering mess. Beanie measures 8 weeks old and had a 154bpm heartbeat, we're expecting to pop around 13th Nov so we should have our first real family christmas this year. I have my first Ob appointment today, it was soo funny because I din't even make it. Mr GP rang my Ob to tell him what has been going on and my Ob went out to reception made an appointment and told then to ring me and let me know I was expected today - god love him. He is an awesome Ob I guess in some respected we got to know him a fair bit last year when I was in Warragul hospital aside from the fact that my DH taught his daughter when she was in the choir. Thats the best thing about living country I s'pose

Hey Beata - wanna know something - I spoke to a Beata on Friday (I think) for my job. DO you know until I met you I never knew another Beata and then I get a call from one at my work - how funny.

Teagz - big super dooper hug hun, those days are aweful aren't they. I am getting a few more of them lately as we draw closer to Nikita's first birthday and 1st Angelversary. We need to have a big cry every now and then - its healthy. While I am absolutely thrilled about finally getting past the 8 week mark I am packing dacks at the same time especially when I have little bleeds. Your time will come honey, just be patient when its the right time things will work out for you.

Hi to everyone else.

Much Love to all
Nae x x x x x

**sryan** · April 6th, 2009, 09:34 AM

Dear NaeNae,

I am so happy to hear your news. I have been checking over the weekend.

Congratulations and I wish you a safe and happy pregnancy.

xxx Sue xxx

**AngelLukesmum** · April 20th, 2009, 10:07 AM

Hi girls

Thanks for all your well wishes

Just quickly to answer Helen -

Hey Jo, will they try to get the stitch out later or do they just leave it?? Jeebers I hope mine comes out!

Excuse the TMI, but basically my ob thinks it came away during labour and let me tell you, he had a mighty good hunt around in there looking for any trace of it once she was born (ouch!)! He couldn't find any trace of it at all. The problem was that my cervix had totally grown over the stitch and adopted it as part of my body and because my cervix was already dilated and completely short when he went in to retrieve it, he compared it to the hem at the bottom of your pants. It was sitting right at the edge which was good as he could get to it to cut it, and now the hope is that like a thread in a hem when cut, hopefully it then makes its way out of its own accord. But at my 6 week checkup he will once again have a good look and feel for it just to be sure. I trust my ob so much and he is certain it is nothing to worry about and that it came away with all the labour mess so lets hope he is right! It certainly did its job though and that's the main thing

Sorry, have to run. I am so tired today and think my little monkey is about to wake up for more food. Love to you all x