Trying to Conceive after Late Loss, Still Birth or Recurrent Miscarriage April '08

[jo76]

hey everyone -
this is a early morning visit to catch up on everyone.
Katie -i thought you had another scan coming through so i am glad it was yesterday and stopped me wondering. I have my 12 week scan (which will be closer to 13 weeks) on monday and if all is well i will add my ticker then. (if i can, i am USELESS at computers!)
Glad your bubs is going well and continuing to give you comfort. you will miss the ultrasounds when they are'nt weekly anymore! I am 12 weeks today and nothinbg terrible to report so i am slowing growing a bit of hope! Alomost throught the first trimester - seems so strange! I feel like it has gone so slowly but so quick! I so agree with the 20 week mark -i think in my mind that has more importance as it is the halfway mark. It will be past when we lost Jack and I think will be a very postive move forward for us all.
Barbara -yay! another step forward, i am very excited for you and hope this is bringing you alot of peace of mind. I hope the spotting stops for you! please take care and rest up!
jen - keeping fingers crossed for you and sending you loads of hugs!
hammi -really hope you are ok!
simba -hi to you too! have'nt lurked at the preg forum lately so will have to see if you have posted there!
take care guys!
xx

[Hammi]

Thank you for all your hugs and warm words. You are all such a comfort to me. The feelings I express here I can only do so to you guys and DH. Sometimes I tell my family or close friends but I don't think you can understand what this feels like unless you've been there... and I hope to God no one else I know will have to go through this.

Katie, I think I will be as "crazy" as you. As soon as I heard that you were doing weekly scans, I thought that's what I'll ask for too. That's very reasonable of your ob not to charge you extra for the weekly consults and scans. I love looking at your ticker and seeing the weeks getting on.

Jo, I'm looking forward to seeing your ticker next week. Oh gosh, you must be holding your breath waiting for your scan. Will you scan in your pict to share with us?

Barbara, I hope your spotting behaves itself so you can relax more into your pregnancy and enjoy being mummy to Evie. What you said makes so much sense... I just hope I have the sense to take your advice and listen to my body and mind.

So Jen, are you still in your 2WW? Any feelings about how you're going? You are such a positive person, I'm glad you found this forum so I can benefit from your support :-)

Hi Flowerchild!

[jo76]

hey katie!
I am sure it was you a few posts back asking about a good nights sleep etc. Look into the future to you growing a nice big belly,heres a thought, i have one of those body pillows. it was given to me by one of the girls at work for preg #1 and was fantastic as you can lay your body weight into it any way you like and you feel supported. I saw k-mart has them on sale as of today so just thought i would mention it!I have used it in between as a really great long pillow to go along my bed as a decoration as i have a satin pillowcase on it!
x

[Katiegirl]

Hi Jo - thanks for the info. I am thinking of getting a wrap around pillow as I seem to roll onto my back during the night and wake up uncomfortable. I will look at the body pillow as well.
I can not wait to hear your news after the 12 week scan. I am sure it will be good.

Hammi - I think it is reasonable to ask for whatever you need to help keep your sanity during a preg. I know weekly scans would not work for some people, but for DH and I they are what helps us a the moment. Once we get past 20 weeks I am not sure what we will decide to do. It was actually my ob that first suggested the weekly scans, and once he said it we decided that would work for us.
You know, I was very scared of adding a ticker, but once I got the courage up to do it, I now also love watching it move forward. For me, each week now after 15 is really a new experience. As Nathaniel (unknowingly) passed at 15 weeks, it means that from here forward I will experience new things, which is quite nice.

As for me, I am feeling okay. i have had a lot of stretching pain low in my pelvis which is to be expected, but I have also been (TMI) constipated the last 2 days, so the pain has been a bit worse. Rationally I know why this is happening, but I still find myself analysing the pain and worrying! Aaaghhh so I am going to eat cereal with extra fibre sprinkled on this morning! I hope that helps. I am also flying to Brisbane tonight to visit my family and DH won't be coming as he has to study for an upcoming exam. We are both quite clingy with each other about it, and I have actually gotten anxious about leaving him! Considering that he and I did a long distance relationship for close to 2 years, this is quite unexpected. I think it is the idea of me being pregnant and being so far away from each other. It is also in the back of my mind that last time I went to Brisbane I was 6 weeks and had a small amount of spotting. So fingers crossed all goes well and is an uneventful trip.

[jen805]

Katiegirl--We must have been posting at the same time! Enjoy your family and your trip to Brisbane! Have a safe flight!

[Katiegirl]

Hi Jen. Wow a 3WW! Actually I made myself a 3WW wait as I refused to test...I can't wait to hear what the outcome is for you. I honestly believe that these babies come to us at exactly the right time, and we may not even acknowledge that as we want them immediately, but I think there is some reason for the timings. So your baby will come to you when it thinks the time is right, so fingers crossed that it is now!
As for the sex, we don't know yet, but we have decided to find out at th 19 week scan. Last time we didn't want to know, but we have decided that this time around we want to know our baby as much as we can. I am a little disappointed that we will find out, but at the same time it will be nice to know. DH thinks it is a girl and I am thinking a boy - so we have a bet that whoever loses has to give the winner a 15 min massage for a week. I really hope I don't lose as I hate giving massages (but love receiving them). DH said we won't tell people once we know the sex but I don't know if I can keep it a secret. Plus my sister has saved all her nice baby clothes for me, and said if I tell her it means she can send them ahead of time! I think it is her just trying to find out.

Also forgot to add that the other day I had a dream that I gave birth (well they actually just appeared) to twin boys! One had a full head of dark hair, and one was unusually a red head. My DH has also had a dream that I gave birth and he was holding and cuddling a baby boy with dark hair. Sometimes I wonder if this is actually Nathaniel, but it has furthered my resolve that this is a boy. But then again...I could be wrong!

[jo76]

hey guys!
i had a surprise phone call from the hospital today. Amanda who i have mentioned previously as our wonderwoman at the hosptial (she is head of the loss and miscarriage unit) left a message on my phone while i was working to say she was thinking of us in this pregnancy (not sure how she found out, has obviously come across our admission somehow) and was wondering how we had been since we lost Jack and looked forward to seeing us down there when we have our ultrasounds etc. She said she was there any time we needed to talk to someone in this pregnancy and hoped to see us in a few months time. It was a really nice thing to do and when i told mum she said she has almost gone out of her way and job requirements to keep the folllow up going. Its a comfort to know we can lean on her if we need to.
katie - TMi shared -don't even mention constipation to me, i am sure i am the queen of it! And my belly has'nt become rounded as much as i thought -its just my poor bloated belly! ha! But like you, i take it as a sign that things are going as they should, despite my discomfort! I am excited to find out what you are having! I found out with josh and emily and would have at the 20 week with Jack. This preg i am thinking i may do the opposite and wait, but it is early yet and my impatient mind will change i am sure. i felt i could really bond with my baby more when i knew the sex as it it made it so much more personal for me, but thats just my thinking. You do what you want to do and don't let anyone tell you otherwise! (cos trust me, you'll have your negative people!) I so hope you win that massage -fab, fab, fab idea!!!!
jen - i know what you mean by wanting to wait for testing. i got told by my physic i was pregnant and at that stage was a few days late but had'nt wanted to test yet.(we like to drive ourselves crazy by dragging it out!) This 12 week scan will be my 2nd one this preg as i had an 8 week one. I am already feeling very emotional about it so we will see how it all goes. Sunday night will be very sleepless and they had better be running on time!!!!!
hammi - day by day -just remember! ok?!? And we are here always, so take care!
barbara - hope you are well and baby evie is doing even better!!!
tm - still think about you!
take care everyone!
x jo