Trying to Conceive after Late Loss, Still Birth or Recurrent Miscarriage April '08

[jo76]

hey katie!
I am sure it was you a few posts back asking about a good nights sleep etc. Look into the future to you growing a nice big belly,heres a thought, i have one of those body pillows. it was given to me by one of the girls at work for preg #1 and was fantastic as you can lay your body weight into it any way you like and you feel supported. I saw k-mart has them on sale as of today so just thought i would mention it!I have used it in between as a really great long pillow to go along my bed as a decoration as i have a satin pillowcase on it!
x

[Katiegirl]

Hi Jo - thanks for the info. I am thinking of getting a wrap around pillow as I seem to roll onto my back during the night and wake up uncomfortable. I will look at the body pillow as well.
I can not wait to hear your news after the 12 week scan. I am sure it will be good.

Hammi - I think it is reasonable to ask for whatever you need to help keep your sanity during a preg. I know weekly scans would not work for some people, but for DH and I they are what helps us a the moment. Once we get past 20 weeks I am not sure what we will decide to do. It was actually my ob that first suggested the weekly scans, and once he said it we decided that would work for us.
You know, I was very scared of adding a ticker, but once I got the courage up to do it, I now also love watching it move forward. For me, each week now after 15 is really a new experience. As Nathaniel (unknowingly) passed at 15 weeks, it means that from here forward I will experience new things, which is quite nice.

As for me, I am feeling okay. i have had a lot of stretching pain low in my pelvis which is to be expected, but I have also been (TMI) constipated the last 2 days, so the pain has been a bit worse. Rationally I know why this is happening, but I still find myself analysing the pain and worrying! Aaaghhh so I am going to eat cereal with extra fibre sprinkled on this morning! I hope that helps. I am also flying to Brisbane tonight to visit my family and DH won't be coming as he has to study for an upcoming exam. We are both quite clingy with each other about it, and I have actually gotten anxious about leaving him! Considering that he and I did a long distance relationship for close to 2 years, this is quite unexpected. I think it is the idea of me being pregnant and being so far away from each other. It is also in the back of my mind that last time I went to Brisbane I was 6 weeks and had a small amount of spotting. So fingers crossed all goes well and is an uneventful trip.

[jen805]

Katiegirl--We must have been posting at the same time! Enjoy your family and your trip to Brisbane! Have a safe flight!

[Katiegirl]

Hi Jen. Wow a 3WW! Actually I made myself a 3WW wait as I refused to test...I can't wait to hear what the outcome is for you. I honestly believe that these babies come to us at exactly the right time, and we may not even acknowledge that as we want them immediately, but I think there is some reason for the timings. So your baby will come to you when it thinks the time is right, so fingers crossed that it is now!
As for the sex, we don't know yet, but we have decided to find out at th 19 week scan. Last time we didn't want to know, but we have decided that this time around we want to know our baby as much as we can. I am a little disappointed that we will find out, but at the same time it will be nice to know. DH thinks it is a girl and I am thinking a boy - so we have a bet that whoever loses has to give the winner a 15 min massage for a week. I really hope I don't lose as I hate giving massages (but love receiving them). DH said we won't tell people once we know the sex but I don't know if I can keep it a secret. Plus my sister has saved all her nice baby clothes for me, and said if I tell her it means she can send them ahead of time! I think it is her just trying to find out.

Also forgot to add that the other day I had a dream that I gave birth (well they actually just appeared) to twin boys! One had a full head of dark hair, and one was unusually a red head. My DH has also had a dream that I gave birth and he was holding and cuddling a baby boy with dark hair. Sometimes I wonder if this is actually Nathaniel, but it has furthered my resolve that this is a boy. But then again...I could be wrong!

[jo76]

hey guys!
i had a surprise phone call from the hospital today. Amanda who i have mentioned previously as our wonderwoman at the hosptial (she is head of the loss and miscarriage unit) left a message on my phone while i was working to say she was thinking of us in this pregnancy (not sure how she found out, has obviously come across our admission somehow) and was wondering how we had been since we lost Jack and looked forward to seeing us down there when we have our ultrasounds etc. She said she was there any time we needed to talk to someone in this pregnancy and hoped to see us in a few months time. It was a really nice thing to do and when i told mum she said she has almost gone out of her way and job requirements to keep the folllow up going. Its a comfort to know we can lean on her if we need to.
katie - TMi shared -don't even mention constipation to me, i am sure i am the queen of it! And my belly has'nt become rounded as much as i thought -its just my poor bloated belly! ha! But like you, i take it as a sign that things are going as they should, despite my discomfort! I am excited to find out what you are having! I found out with josh and emily and would have at the 20 week with Jack. This preg i am thinking i may do the opposite and wait, but it is early yet and my impatient mind will change i am sure. i felt i could really bond with my baby more when i knew the sex as it it made it so much more personal for me, but thats just my thinking. You do what you want to do and don't let anyone tell you otherwise! (cos trust me, you'll have your negative people!) I so hope you win that massage -fab, fab, fab idea!!!!
jen - i know what you mean by wanting to wait for testing. i got told by my physic i was pregnant and at that stage was a few days late but had'nt wanted to test yet.(we like to drive ourselves crazy by dragging it out!) This 12 week scan will be my 2nd one this preg as i had an 8 week one. I am already feeling very emotional about it so we will see how it all goes. Sunday night will be very sleepless and they had better be running on time!!!!!
hammi - day by day -just remember! ok?!? And we are here always, so take care!
barbara - hope you are well and baby evie is doing even better!!!
tm - still think about you!
take care everyone!
x jo

[Katiegirl]

Hi all - been away visiting my family in Brisbane for the weekend, and got back last night. I hope you all had lovely and relaxing weekends.

Jo - I think we will find out the sex as DH feels that he wants to know as much about this baby as he can. I am not sure if that makes sense but after what happened with Nathaniel, DH wants to make each day count. That is wonderful about the midwife - what an amazing woman. It is so wonderful to hear that some hospitals has support in place for people like us. Frances Perry have the Preg after Loss support group that Simba and I go to - and it is led by a midwife as well. And luckily my constipation appears to have eased!!! The joy!

I have a lot of work to get through so had better get back to it. Will do more personals later. I also have another scan tomorrow - and for some reason I really need this one (I say that every week!). I think going home and seeing so many people and my pregnancy being so public has got me spooked. I get quite scared when it comes to telling people, as the crazy woman in my head starts to panic. So it will be good to have the scan and put my worries and irrational thoughts aside for a few more days.

[sryan]

Hi all and goodmorning ,

I am not new to this website, but new to this chat area and I wanted to introduce myself and give you a little history.

My name is Sue and my DH (Clayton) and I have had 3 miscarriages in a row. We unfortunately do not have any live children at this stage.

My third M/C was the hardest, as it was a IVF bubs and I had a scan at 7 w 4 days and had a beautiful strong heartbeat and perfect size. Unfortunately my beautiful little angel stopped growing around 8-9 weeks (My gut feeling is that my FS asked me to stop Metformin at this stage!!!). I ended up miscarrying at 12 weeks naturally.

I have a thyroid and high insulin problems and have been seeing a fertility clinic in Adelaide called Repromed. My Professor at Repromed has finally agreed that my thryoid & high insulin could be the reason for my m/c and he is sending me to a hormone specialist.

Finally!!! I have been given more testing and are awaiting on my results. I am also just started see a natural therapist and so far she has totally amazed me, she picked up my issues straight away and we are working on them.

I am currently awaiting for AF to arrive (after miscarriage) and then set some goals for the future. We are having a few months off, and start again, hopefully naturally or by IVF.

I look forward to getting to know you all and wish you all the best in TTC.




xxx Sue xxx

[jo76]

heyall,
well i had my 12 week ultrasound this morning and i am very happy to say there was a heartbeat! I think i freaked the girl out (she prob would have been the same age as me) as when she asked me to hop up on the bench thing i burst into hysterical tears and she was left wondering what she had said wrong. Thankfully DH was there and did the quick explanation for me and she raced off to get a box of tissues. So as for getting weekly scans Katie, i really don't know how you do it! i was so stressed the whole time throughout this one againand even asking her not to turn the screen on until she saw a heartbeat, which she generously did. Then she made a point of picking out everything for us so we saw our babys body parts etc and that helped. I really think it helped Dan being there also as i think this baby became "real" for him. In previous pregnancies our babies have been real when he has seen my belly grow or felt movement. Then i asked to book in the 17 week scan as that will be the one purely to ease my stress and the receptionist went and got the sonographer as obviously the next appointment is normally the 19-20 week scan. So by then i'm in tears again and the sonographer asked if it was a viablity one (THAT WORD AGAIN!!!! hate it!!) and i said yes. ARGH!!! So until about an hour agao i have just felt on edge! My stress levels were so high even though i have nothing to stress over as i have a happily moving bubs! deep breath!....
sryan - you are welcome to join us here! I am so sorry to hear of your loss but know we all very supportive of each other here! I am really happy to hear that you have a supportive medical (can't think of a better word!) network around you as i think that really helps us all on the other side of family and friends. Waiting for your next AF is always hard but please try and take care of yourself throughout all of this and know we are all here also!
katie - hope your scan goes well and it relieves some of your stress too! These babies must surely know how much love is already carrying them through our hopes for the future! Our news is still quite under wraps, my irrational fears also, so don't worry! You are not the only one out there!
Barbara -hope you and evie are going ok!!!
simba -how are you? Hope you are well and truely over your MS and feeling the happy effects of preg now!
jen- any news? how is everything with you?
hammi -hope you are taking care of yourself too!
x jo

[Hammi]

Congrats on your scan Jo! Time to add a ticker soon!

I can imagine that I'd be exactly the same as you at any future scans. Just imagining walking into one of those rooms is enough to bring on the tears and panic attacks for me. But your bub rewarded you with that ever wonderful beating heart... so happy for you!

Hi to everyone else!