Ooh Sue your temps do look good. I hope this is it for you!
Jo, I don't have a funny to share with you but I'm ready to cry with you. I called my ob's office to ask if they've had any news on Hamish's full autopsy results and still no - two months on. It gets better though, the receptionist went on to tell me that the last time they ordered an autopsy, it took NINE MONTHS for the results to come back because only one hospital in Sydney does them and they're overloaded. I said so I have to wait that long to TTC again and she said I should.
So I booked in to see my GP right away and she had received a letter from my obs just summarising what happened to me and Ham and that it would take about two months to get his full autopsy results. My GP said that the receptionist sounds like she was just brushing me off and not inclined to chase the results at all. She said to get the hospital details and she will chase for me.
I'm too upset to call the ob's office again. Every time I call I feel like I'm begging for charity. I'll write instead.
I am so sorry you had to deal with that. I think sometimes that people who work within "baby industry" get immune to the fact that people have feelings!!! Or they don't understand or don't know how to speak to somebody who has been through a tough time.
All I can say is that you have a right to know the answers and if you want to ring everyday to see if the results are in, do it!!! Dont ever feel that you should ring....
I wish you all the best in finding out the results soon.
hi everyone!
thanks for al your messages! I do feel alot better today and for some reason have a totally different feeling (of excitment) for next weeks ultrasound. This may change as it gets closer but i think it also has something to do with the fact i am going to the other ultrasound place. (i have been going between 2 depending on appoinment avaliability) I think i will feel alot more comforted there and their style is alot more gentle AND less questions. When i rebooked i did'nt get asked once why the odd ultrasound. I agree Katie -i don't understand why they have to question so much, esp when my referral is from a specialist OB who uses that hospital (everyone knows him) and all my history is there! ARGH! I really hope you are feeling better soon, some horrible flu has just been going around and around, thankfully it has passed through all the girls at work so i should'nt get it again, esp after my 3.5 week stint! rest up - you deserve it!
hammi - i am so sorry for your wait, when i had jacks autospy done it took a week due to the nature of his death. You have a right to follow up the results, 9 months i am sorry is ridiculous! Surely there can't be that big a backlog? keep on their case, don't let them be slack, this may be a matter of numbers and effort for them but you are dealing with losing your child. At least your other doc sounds like they will help you a bit more so i am happy you have more support from them.
sryan - good luck with next weeks appointment. Those charts are unbelieveable! there is a whole world i was too lazy to visit and thank goodness after seeing them, i would have been obsessed!
jen- i'll be thinking of you in the next 2 days. fingers crossed for you!!!!! for us all!
take care guys!
jo
This morning, got out of bed and went to toilet (of course after did temperature!!!) anyway I had a some brown blood in my underwear - not enough to seep through to nightwear, but quite a bit in underwear.
Anyway I am 7 dpo and I am hoping it is implantation, but I really don't have a lot of hope for that.
Why I say that is because on my first cycle after M/C I spotted nearly all through the cycle, but I thought that with having my period, would fix all that.
My temperatures are still high (36.80), so I am a little confused.
I still have brown blood when I go to toilet and wipe
Hi girls, I'm finally back after way too long a time. Now that it's summer, I hope I have more time to read and post.
Anyway, I'm still seeing my FS, but the clomid cycles didn't make me pregnant, so he wants to put me on menopur. which is $700. a month. after the insurance takes care of the copay/deductable.
We definitely won't be doing that step. I hope he keeps me on as a patient after I tell him that.
Katiegirl--Hope you're feeling better! Big to you and your baby girl!
sryan--Temps are looking nice and high! the spotting is implantation!!
Hammi--So sorry there's so many inconsiderate people in the world! you get quick autopsy results. Sending lots of big
jo--Glad to hear you're feeling excited about your upcoming u/s! I'm glad you rescheduled, you sound like you're in a much better place within yourself! Can't wait to hear about that
tempus-- I feel like I've said this a lot lately, but I'm really glad you're back! :goodluck2: with this cycle!!
Hello there... I'm poking my head in here in hopes that I might find something to ease my worried mind.
I don't live in Australia, but in Sweden. On April 28 I spntaneously lost my first and very much planned and desired pregnancy in the 17th week. Everyone keeps telling me that "it'll be fine next time," and aside from the fact that that comment verges on infuriating by now, it always seems to be based on the idea of a miscarriage being something that happens week 8, week 9, week 10... when I start looking around for success stories after a late loss, I'm coming up empty handed.
I will not bombard you with all the details of what happened to me now -- but I will add that I sympathize with those of you who are having struggles with insensitive doctors, nurses, recptionists, etc. The way we were treated during the pregnancy and in the emergency room has been just as hard for me to deal with as the loss itself, and it has made it so that I'm still not fully back to work as I have panic attacks when I am around people. But what I really desperately need to hear is... is there ANYONE who can give me a story of success after a late loss? And hopefully one, if you excuse my clumsy formulation, that didn't require IVF or medicine or anything like that but rather that was "all natural" and gives any creedence to the doctors telling me there's nothing to worry about and that they don't do any investigations or provide any medical/unusual help until I've had 3 miscarriages, even one this late?
I'm just sick of hearing statistics right now since the statistics are all skewed toward early miscarriages, and I am having a hard time believing their insistence about how it'll all go just fine next time around if I can't find anyone else who has had such luck.
Hi all
I am so happy I finally got my period back yesterday...YAY... So will now see if my temps settle down and start ovulating again, they have been all over the place since Cooper's birth. It has taken 91/2weeks, was starting to think AF had gone into hiding and wasn't coming back! My cycles can be very irregular so it will be interesting to see what lies ahead, if they prove to be difficult again I think I will head off to the natropath.
Sryan - how is your spotting?? If your temps are still high it could very well be implantation bleeding, and your chart looks great, fingers crossed.
Hammi - I can't believe the doctors receptionist told you that!!! I would be having a HUGE whinge and pushing the issue a bit more you need answers NOW, it has been long enough!
Jo - good luck at your scan, I am glad you are going to a nicer environment, I have come across people just like you mentioned, they have no idea what they say sets off a time bomb of emotions they have just lit the fuse on
Katiegirl - Congratulations on your baby girl, how are you feeling now that you are past the 20 week mark?
Jen - Where are you up to? have you tested yet?
Rozzi - I am new in here too! Welcome
Sorry if I have missed anyone this has just taken me 10 min of going back and reading where everyone is up too, so if I have made a crappy mistake and swapped any of you around, I apologise!
Yesterday I had a bit of spotting. It's been two and a half weeks since AF started (my first one since birth) so i thought maybe it was implantation bleeding, but today it was quite heavy, almost like AF starting again, though it seems way too soon.
Did anyone else have weird bleeding after births? It's been almost 10 weeks since I gave birth and I thought the hormonal bleeding was over... Have been really upset because I was doing OPTs all last week and never seemed to ovulate. I really want to be pregnant again but am feeling pessimistic now.
Rozzie - sorry I am of no help to you about the bleeding. I would suggest you call your Dr and ask what they think - it doesn't hurt to ask for their opinion.
Hgirs - glad to hear AF has arrived. I hope your cycle evens out for you. Well done on covering everyone.
Tempus - so glad to see you back. I hope your FS can offer some other options that suit you more.
Jo - good luck with the scan this week. I know this week will be difficult but hopefully the scan will help you move past this milestone.
Jen - sorry AF showed her ugly face. Hopefully this cycle will bring some good results.
Hammi - I second what everyone has said - the receptionist had no right to brush you off like that. Sometimes I think Obs and their offices are more equipped to deal with live babies and fall short in the support they offer to mothers of angels. I am lucky this time around to have a better Ob who understands the heartbreak. I really think you need to insist that they chase the results - or else ask them for the contact details and do it yourself. You have the right to know what the results are and shouldn't have to wait that long.
As for me - as asked by Hgirs yes I am glad to move past 20 weeks. I had a scan on Friday and it was a good result again. In face the scans seeem to get a bit easier each week. I have to wait until the 15th now until next scan as my Ob is on holidays. I am going to try and not freak out and trust that all is well. The hard thing is I have been sick and I started to feel better on Sat, but I woke up yesterday morning at 5am feeling sick and then it just got worse. I thought it was indigestion but I ended up vomiting (TMI) and then felt sick and nauseous for the rest of the day. I was finally able to eat some dry crackers last night. I don't feel nauseous today but headachey etc which is how I felt last week - so I am now having Day 4 off work! I am going to the GP this morning. Whilst I know this can't effect the baby, it is hard not to let it worry me. I will just wait to feel the baby move and hopefully that will give me a boost.
Helen--Congrats on AF--sounds unusual to say around here! Your body is now refreshed and ready for a new try! I wasn't quite as happy with her visit with me--I'm CD 3, and she's sharing some nasty cramps with me! Praying your cycle and temps behave, and you're blessed with a quick BFP!!
Rozzie--I know that many of the women in the other thread I belong to have had irregular bleeding during their cycles, especially if it's the first or second cycle after m/c. I think it's probably best to call the dr. just in case... you find some answers!
Hammi-- you get quick results on the autopsy! Like you, I'm a very un-confrontational person, I tend to find things much easier to handle through writing than vocalizing. It's a shame that considering all you've been through already, you would have to be calling and chasing answers from them! Sending you lots of strength and
Katiegirl--Glad to hear about another great scan! for a quick 2 weeks for you until your next scan! I hope you begin to feel better, it's bad enough being sick, but to be sick while pg. is unbearable! Sending lots of get better vibes!
jo--Yes, jo, where is your ticker? You're long past overdue for one! Good luck with your upcoming scan!
Sue--How's the temping coming along? Haven't seen today's numbers, but your temp's still nice and high!
Well temps are still up and the spotting has stopped (only went for a day). So fingers crossed.....
Though it probably isnt a good month as I have been off Metformin as my Dr wanted me to have another GTT (which was today). Now I am too scared to go back on just in case it upsets my levels......
Katiegirl, so good to hear that your scan went well. Positive vibes for the rest of the pregnancy.... Sorry to hear about the morning sickness, hope you are feeling better.
Hammi - I so hope you get your results soon. It must be so hard waiting!!!
Rozzie - so sorry to hear about the spotting.... Hopefully you get some answers... though I think it is your body trying to get back to a normal routine.
Hello Tempus, welcome - hope to get to know you better.
Hello Friends,
I am new to this forum but thought I would jump in and introduce myself to you all as I will be joining you soon on your TTC journeys.
I have just posted my story on the "Your Stories" thread if any of you would like to check me out!
After 4 losses I am determined to enlist some further help for our next attempt and look forward to sharing my story with you all.
In the meantime I have my fingers crossed for all of you and want to let you know that you have my support and best wishes.
GOOD LUCK and lots of baby dust from me...
Mel
Hi Mel and welcome to our thread. I read your story earlier today and I am sorry for your losses. I'm glad that you're bravely going ahead and I hope that you'll get your happy ending soon. When do you think you'll TTC again?
Jo, congrats on your scan. Wow, if you're also having a girl that's two little girls in our thread. I don't know what a faster heartbeat indicates... maybe nothing. Or maybe bub was picking up on your nerves.
Sue, your chart does look very good in terms of going up and down where it should. Bugger about the dip today and the spotting... but it ain't over yet!
Hi Hammi,
Thanks for your reply.
We are hoping to get a referral to see Dr Gavin Sacks at Sydney IVF so will play it by ear after we see him.
Definitely want to push ahead but it would be nice to know if there is something else we can do to help things along before we plunge headfirst into the unknown again.
It sure is emotionally draining going through this whole process and each pregnancy sees me more and more on edge and so sad and frustrated that my body is letting us down.
Are you TTC at the moment?
your temps do look good. I hope this is it for you!
for us all!
to you and your baby girl! 
the spotting is implantation!!
I feel like I've said this a lot lately, but I'm really glad you're back! :goodluck2: with this cycle!!
your temp's still nice and high!
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