Hello there... I'm poking my head in here in hopes that I might find something to ease my worried mind.

I don't live in Australia, but in Sweden. On April 28 I spntaneously lost my first and very much planned and desired pregnancy in the 17th week. Everyone keeps telling me that "it'll be fine next time," and aside from the fact that that comment verges on infuriating by now, it always seems to be based on the idea of a miscarriage being something that happens week 8, week 9, week 10... when I start looking around for success stories after a late loss, I'm coming up empty handed.

I will not bombard you with all the details of what happened to me now -- but I will add that I sympathize with those of you who are having struggles with insensitive doctors, nurses, recptionists, etc. The way we were treated during the pregnancy and in the emergency room has been just as hard for me to deal with as the loss itself, and it has made it so that I'm still not fully back to work as I have panic attacks when I am around people. But what I really desperately need to hear is... is there ANYONE who can give me a story of success after a late loss? And hopefully one, if you excuse my clumsy formulation, that didn't require IVF or medicine or anything like that but rather that was "all natural" and gives any creedence to the doctors telling me there's nothing to worry about and that they don't do any investigations or provide any medical/unusual help until I've had 3 miscarriages, even one this late?

I'm just sick of hearing statistics right now since the statistics are all skewed toward early miscarriages, and I am having a hard time believing their insistence about how it'll all go just fine next time around if I can't find anyone else who has had such luck.

-Tildy