Sorry to hear that you've been down, Rozzie, hgirs and sryan. I understand your frustrations of course. The only thing anyone can say is for us to be patient and calm down, and that it will just be harder to get pregnant if we're all worried -- but if you're anything like me, you then start to worry about how you're worrying too much to get pregnant! I can just offer a comforting and remind you that you HAVE gotten pregnant before; that wasn't where it went wrong for us, right?
There I go again, soothing others with comfort that I don't really accept myself, heh.
Every period is so hard. One of my friends that gave birth the day of my loss had a miscarriage in week 8 a year before getting pregnant with this one. They followed their doctor's advice and waited 4 months after her D&C to start TTC again. She was telling me that she thought it was bad that we were TTC again right away, even though my doctor said it was fine. She thought the pain was too raw. Then later we were talking about her process of grieving and healing after her M/C, and she said that, strangely enough, the biggest dip in depression happened in December, 4 months AFTER the M/C. I said "Right when you started TTC again in other words?" She's never thought of that before... but I think it sort of shows that, no matter if we wait or not, we have some fire to walk through before we come out on the other side. But we'll get there. And I wish for us to TRY to enjoy our lives, our DHs and partners and families and friends in the meantime, as much as we can.
We had some friends over for dinner on Saturday. A girlfriend that has been pretty important in making me feel loved and supporting me after our loss. They were really late so the food was already ready when they came, and she looked at it and said she had to decline the food "for health reasons." I knew immediately what she meant, but we stared at each other for a long silence before she said she was 13 weeks pregnant. DH was really good at saying Congrats, and I tried my best just not to cry or say anything stupid. I can't help but keep thinking about how her baby was conceived in the month between us going public with our pregnancy and us losing our baby, and that she must have found out she was pregnant within days of me calling her and saying we'd lost ours. So weird. Now I desperately hope we have luck this month... otherwise my feeling of being left out is eating me up because she, too, has gone over "to the other side"!
Good morning girls! Feels like it's been ages since I've posted here... haven't really caught up with the posts yet and what's going on with everyone, just wanted to say I hope everyone has a great day!
Something happened to my post so I will try again....
Sue Good Luck with your biopsy, when will you get the results back??
I hope all is well with everyone, I think I am getting a little emotional as Cooper's EDD is only 5 weeks away now. I even had a cry yesterday when Nicole Kidman had her baby, and the day before as I seen a father carrying his newborn out of the shops. On the bright side had a lovely playdate with a friend and her little man this morning, but our boys both have a dreaded cold, and it is freezing in Brissy today.
Helen, we must've have been due at the same time. My EDD was 14 Aug, when was yours? I know what you mean, that day is just looming horridly in the distance. I know it's going to be a hard time but I'm also hopeful that we will have gotten over a big hurdle once it's passed.
Sue, I hope all went OK today.
Hi Jen and Rozzie!
How are the preggers ladies going, Katie and Jo? Jo, have you passed the 17wk 5 days mark yet?
I forgot, we got Hamish's birth certificate at last. I really wanted it but holding that piece of paper just reminds me that I could've been holding my baby next month :-(
We just had an appointment with an immunologist, and it was great. He said that I probably have Antiphospholipid Syndrome and that for my next pregnancy I should be treated with clexane and aspirin, and also should be treated at the high risk pregnancy unit at the hospital. This is exactly what I wanted.
The bad news was that he said in so many words that my OB didn't know what he was talking about and I shouldn't have been taken off the clexane at 12 weeks. This makes me so sad because I feel like with a bit more care our son could have survived... but I know there's nothing I can do about it now. The main thing is to get pregnant again, which I reeeally hope doesn't take too long! I want a large family and at almost 28 I know I'm still young, but we started trying 2 years ago and I just want to be a mother already! The good news is my CM seems to be getting fertile, a good sign!!!
and remind you that you HAVE gotten pregnant before; that wasn't where it went wrong for us, right?
and, of course, :goodluck2:
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