Helen, we must've have been due at the same time. My EDD was 14 Aug, when was yours? I know what you mean, that day is just looming horridly in the distance. I know it's going to be a hard time but I'm also hopeful that we will have gotten over a big hurdle once it's passed.
Sue, I hope all went OK today.
Hi Jen and Rozzie!
How are the preggers ladies going, Katie and Jo? Jo, have you passed the 17wk 5 days mark yet?
I forgot, we got Hamish's birth certificate at last. I really wanted it but holding that piece of paper just reminds me that I could've been holding my baby next month :-(
We just had an appointment with an immunologist, and it was great. He said that I probably have Antiphospholipid Syndrome and that for my next pregnancy I should be treated with clexane and aspirin, and also should be treated at the high risk pregnancy unit at the hospital. This is exactly what I wanted.
The bad news was that he said in so many words that my OB didn't know what he was talking about and I shouldn't have been taken off the clexane at 12 weeks. This makes me so sad because I feel like with a bit more care our son could have survived... but I know there's nothing I can do about it now. The main thing is to get pregnant again, which I reeeally hope doesn't take too long! I want a large family and at almost 28 I know I'm still young, but we started trying 2 years ago and I just want to be a mother already! The good news is my CM seems to be getting fertile, a good sign!!!
Hi all - haven't been around much but am trying to keep up with all the posts.
Rozzie - glad to hear you got some answers and an action plan for future pregnancies. It is always hard to hear that your previous dr didn't do the right thing - but that is in no way your fault. Be proud that you have done everything you can to ensure that your future babies have the best fighting chance. You will be a mother soon. I know it sometimes seem so far away and you are rightfully impatient, but your next baby is just waiting for the right time to come and join you.
Hammi - big hugs on receiving Hamish's birth certificate. I know it must have been hard to see but it is more proof that your baby existed and that he was important. EDD are hard, do you have anything planned to remember Hamish?
Hgirs - big hugs on Cooper's approaching EDD. Do you plan to do anything? I actually found the couple of days prior to the EDD a bit harder than the actual day. I felt quite peaceful on Nathaniel's EDD, and I think it is because DH and I took the day off and did some special things to remember him and then went on a holiday for a few days. It was something we had planned months before as we decided we didn't want to be at home thinking too much over those dates.
Jen - good luck with this cycle
Sryan - I hope all goes well with the biopsy. Let us know once you hear more.
Tildy - my sister had 3 children before she had her first loss at 17 weeks. She then had no. 4 (or rather Preg. no 5) and then had her final loss (which was pregnancy no. 6) around 14 weeks. They did not find any problems with either of her babies - just like Nathaniel. I too take heart from the fact that she has 4 wonderful children - though of course she will always miss her angels.
Hi to anyone I have missed. The baby is still moving around nicely. I am completely fed up with work and my motivation is at an all time low. I can not wait to finish up - and have decided that I will finish up the first week of September. I will commence my countdown!!! I still haven't told work yet - I don't get any paid mat leave, so I will actually be quitting. I am going to be a SAHM for the forseeable future, so I didn't see the point in taking mat leave. As I am quitting, do you think this means that I only need to give the usual notice - 2-4 weeks?
Last edited by Katiegirl; July 9th, 2008 at 09:31 PM.
hey everyone!
will write a bigger email tomorrow as i just lost my note to you all somehow!
but you may notice i have added something....
take care till tomorrow!
x jo
Hammi, my due date was the 14th too! Like you said I do think once it has passed it will be one less hurdle to get past.
Rozzie great news that you have someone very proactive, but I know what you mean about it being one of those 'what if the first OB didn't take me off them?' But as much as it is wrong and we are angry and upset and all of those feelings about our lost ones, you are right nothing can change it now, we just have to looked forward to the future.
Katie, maternity leave from September? That's so close. I want to squeal with excitement for you. You and Jo wouldn't realise this but I get a ridiculous amount of joy and hope from tracking your pregnancies. Every time you guys talk about good scans, passing milestones and of course your little girl's kicks, I get a little spark of hope that things will be OK for me too.
I think you need to give notice to your employer for them to pay out whatever leave they owe you. Plus you'd want to give them that courtesy in case you need a reference or something in future.
Jo, congrats on finally getting your ticker up! It's almost halfway already. Very excited for you.
Helen, what are you going to do for Cooper's EDD? We're going to stay in an out of the way cottage in the Hunter Valley and not see or speak to anyone for a few days. Just 100% Hamish time.
Rozzie, yes, look forward to what will be rather than what ifs. I'm glad your body is doing all the right things. I hope you'll get your BFP soon. At least now you'll get the care you need.
Katiegirl & Hammi - I am not sure yet what we will do on the actual day, but we have planned for the weekend away just the two of us, Nana and Poppa will look after Corey for a night. I have mixed emotions about leaving him, as the only time I have ever been away from him was the 3 nights in hospital when Cooper was born.
I got Cooper's birth certificate the other day too, after having to send a 'NOT HAPPY' email to Births, Deaths, and Marrigages. I stated that I was VERY unhappy that they could just whip out a death certificate within a week of Cooper's funeral, but I am still waiting 10 weeks after for his birth certificate!!!!! Hence I got a phone call the next day and wouldn't you know it "We are posting it out to you tomorrow". I felt so angry that I had to fight for my baby's acknowledgement, but I guess there will be those sort of frustrations forever.
Well I had skin biopsy done - didnt hurt a bit!!!! actually it didnt, but I could feel the pulling... Anyway don't get my results back for 4 weeks. The Professor mentioned again that he doesnt think I have mosiac turners as I am too tall and people with mosiac turners are quite petite and short. So fingers crossed.
Jo - ticker yippee, I am so glad things are going well.
Katiegirl, hows bubs?? still kicking away?? I can not wait until I get to have that feeling.
Rozzie - I am so glad you got some answers - though it is very frustrating when you hear things like that. I must admit, I dont really trust the medical world, thats for sure. Even my Professor says "defiantely go with your gut feelings, as it is probably right".
Tildy - How are you???
Hi to Hammi, Helen, Jen805.
Well everyone, have a fantastic day. Yippee its Friday.....
Hi everyone, I'm new to this site but have posted my story under stories on late loss/stillbirth 'TTC after loss'. In short, my angel son was born sleeping at the end of January this yr at 22 weeks, I was almost 23 weeks when i found out that he had passed on only a week back (at my 4 weekly checkup with my OB) and it came as a total shock because i wasn't experiencing anything out of the ordinary, only a little nauseas. His autopsy results took almost 3 mnths to come back, which didn't bring any closure anyway because his death was unexplained. Oh and his death certificate took almost 9 weeks to come back and his birth almost 12 weeks - I was soooooo angry!!
Nelson was our IVF baby and we were blessed to have fallen pg on our first round.
We are trying again as we have 5 embryos frozen and hoping and wishing that one of our snowbabies will go on to become our earthly baby, someone we can hold. I miss my dear son terribly and i have my usual sad days where i have a complete breakdown and the only way i get back to normal is when i actually talk to pple about him. I feel very angry that no body seems to ask about him anymore. He may not have been real for them but he has and always be real for me and my DH.
Sorry for the vent but i feel extremely blessed to have found this site and talk to others who've been through the same thing.
I'm currently doing a FET (frozen embryo transfer) cycle and if all goes according to plan, should have a transfer by the end of this month.
I have missed out quite a bit on this thread so i will try and do some personals when i get time to read up a bit more (at work at the moment)
Hi Sue - I am so sorry to hear about the passing of your son Nelson in January. It is a terrible and lonely experience, but as you have found we are all here to support each other. We all understand that your lost your much wanted son and that is a tragedy that you never fully recover from. Each day does get easier but the pain and loss never go away.
Jo - just realised you added the ticker - very nice! Well done and very brave.
Sryan - glad to hear the biopsy did not hurt too much.
Hgirs and Hammi - I am glad to hear that you are both taking time out to remember your angel babies. I think the EDD can be so difficult, that it is being kind to both your baby and yourself to actually give yourself a break from the ordinary. I will be thinking of you both in the coming weeks.
Well I am sick again...developed a cold yesterday with runny nose, sneezing (really testing my pelvic floor strength!) and a head about to explode. I have emailed my naturopath to see if there is anything I can take to help. I haven't taken the day off work because I have already had so many sick days in the last week and a half. Talk about bad timing! So hopefully will get better over the weekend. I am feeling sorry for myself.
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your little angel Nelson and I look forward to getting to know you and wish you all the best in your next FET.
I too conceived on my first IVF Cycle, but unfortunately had a m/c at 12 weeks. We only have one frostie and am awaiting some test results and then will be going back for another cycle of IVF.
Katiegirl hope you feel better soon. You poor thing..
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