I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your little angel Nelson and I look forward to getting to know you and wish you all the best in your next FET.
I too conceived on my first IVF Cycle, but unfortunately had a m/c at 12 weeks. We only have one frostie and am awaiting some test results and then will be going back for another cycle of IVF.
Katiegirl hope you feel better soon. You poor thing..
Hi Katie.....Thank you for the welcome. Congrats on your pregnancy hope you feel better soon, seems to be that there's a lot of flu/cold going around at the moment prob due to season change.
Hi Sue! Thanks for the welcome. I'm sorry to hear about your loss too It is so difficult because we try so hard to fall pg only to discover that we need assistance and then when we succeed, this happens Would you be going back to do a FET or a full stim cycle?
We havent totally made up our mind. In one way it probably would be better to do a full stim cycle (as we only have 1 frostie) and apparently "fresh is best". But I can't stop thinking of the little frostie and maybe that one is the one.....
We are giving ourselves a couple more months off as I am going to a naturopath and getting myself back into shape and ready for another cycle mentally and physically.
But I know we don't have much time (as I am 38), but I have had 3 miscarriages in a row and mentally need a little break.
Sue's do you know what percentage little frostie successfully unfreeze???
A newie to this thread but I've been posting in other areas. You might know my story - I lost my baby Alex in late April at full term. Hubby and I have certainly had ups and downs in the last few months but we are thinking about taking the plunge again.
At first the only thing that I could think about was getting pregnant again but now that we are seriously thinking about this - I'm suddenly terrified. I want to do it but - as I'm sure you all know - the thought of losing another child is unbearable.
Anyway, hoping to get back into a regular cycle again but my body seems to be all over the place at the moment (Its only been 10 1/2 weeks). I'm considering going on the pill just for the month to try to get regularity happening again - as we'll probably avoid TTC this month because if we were successful the due date would be around Alex's birth date.
Hopefully I can catch up with all your TTC stories as this journey goes forward.
Also - just so you all know I'm really bad with the acronyms so will be constantly asking you what things stand for.
welcome Sue, I'm sorry for your loss. It's hard when everyone gets on with their lives and you're left still mourning. I understand what you mean about no-one talking about it, I'm pretty sure my dad has never even acknowledged it or mentioned it to me, it's all done by my mother!
I went to the GP today as I needed a new referral for the OB. I told her I didn't think I was ovulating as I'd had 2 periods and never got a + on an OPK... I asked for a blood test to confirm which she gave me, then she convinced me that I was probably not ovulating because I was too stressed and was putting too much pressure on myself. I'm stressed because I'm worried I'm not ovulating!! Anyway, I got home and finally got a positive OPK!!! It's day 13 and last time we conceived on day 14 (I know because we only saw each other once that month due to work- we were at my parents' house too, so everyone knew!), so everything times up nicely, hopefully I'm back into my normal cycle, and the 1st AF probably wasn't a real one.
It's been 11 weeks though and I can't tell anyone new without breaking down... when I told the doctor why I was there (she's a new one) I just started crying... how am I going to be when I return to work??? I wore maternity uniform too so EVERYONE knew I was pregnant... I don't particularly want to cry, a crying woman in the military doesn't usually go down that well!!! Anyone have any tips?
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your baby angel Alex , but I look forward in getting to know you.
It is a tough and scary decision when you decide to try again.... were they able to tell you on why your angel passed away????
I wish you all the best on your journey.
Rozzie - 11 weeks is not a long time and I can totally understand where you are coming from and it is going to be tough going back to work. Unfortunately I can not give you any hints, but with me, I just had to go back to work and face them all. I cried at work and everybody saw it, but after that it got easier. I think the anticipation of going back to work is the hardest and it is a relief when you eventually do it. I wish you all the best.
Syran,
We have no definitive answer to Alex's death. The doctors have advised that the most likely cause was a placental abruption. A few other small things were found but nothing as significant as the abruption - they said that they can't really say if it was the cause or a consequence of Alex's death. I wasn't sure if it was good to have an answer or not - I guess it doesn't change anything in the end.
My Obstetrician said that the next pregnancy she would recommend that I either have an artificial rupture of membranes at 38 weeks or be taken through for a caesarean at this time. Would love to have a natural birth but will do anything for a healthy baby and if that means surgery at 38 weeks - so be it. We'll decide as we go.
I see that you are seeing a naturopath - I was considering this myself. How have you found it?
Rozzie - I'm looking for any tips to stop the crying too. I start back at Uni next week and have to face so many people that I haven't seen yet. At the moment, I cry at the drop of a hat. I was bawling buying cat food the other day - the check-out woman didn't know what to do. So if you find a cure, please let me know.
hi everyone!
internet decided to pack it in last night and this morning, right when i needed it the most! I had a severe paranoid moment basically lasting from yesterday to today as i felt as though our babys movements had really decreased and i spent about 3 hours laying awake sometime early this morning waiting (impatiently) for movement. This bubs has done some heavy duty acrobatic work since 15 weeks and so to suddenly be waiting for movement scared me. So i rang the hospital i am booked in at and spoke to a midwife who went on to say that feeling movement at 15 weeks is very unusual as it does'nt normally happen until 20 wks and i was saying this is my 4th pregnancy, i think i know what is movement by now. So i had to rexplain my history, therefore explaining my huge distress and paranoia and got off the phone feeling like an idiot. (how is it people still make me feel this way for being honest about my feelings?????) So then i got a call from her later and she asked if i had any movements and i said no and she went through the list of reasons why and said to drink the most sugary coldest drink i could find to see if that stimulated anything and to come in if i needed reassurance. So i finished work and still felt awful and paranoid so rang and said i was coming in to hear the heartbeat. I get to the maternity ward (delivery suites section no less -how nice for me at that moment!)and the midwife puts the thing on my belly searching for a heartbeat, there is one and she says that shgould make you feel happier for now until your ultrasound and i was back to feeling like an idiot! So basically i won't be happy until i see bubs moving around on screen on wednesday, i am so hard to please! But i still have'nt got any explanation for the reason why movements have gone from every 2 or so hours (awake time) to now almost nothing. On top of it all, i am getting sicker by the minute, i don't think the stress helped as my throat is about to collapse if i try to speak anymore! phew!
and now for you guys!
Welcome to sue and danek. i am really sorry to hear of both your losses, it is such a horrible thing for nay of us to go through and small amounts of healing happen each day even though i can speak for myself and say that i will never recover fully. i completely understand the no one speaking about our babies thing. I get the word miscarriage all the time for my son jack, who i delivered at 17wks, 5 days. He is constantly described as a miscarriage (which medically he was) which i hate as i delivered him and got the chance to hold him, so for me he passed away. My dhs family don't speak of it and i still get uncomfortable silences if i bring up his name. Taking the "plunge" to TTC is huge and it happened quickly for us which although it was wanted still caught me off guard as my body was a mess or irregular bleeding and cycles. I fell pregnant on my 3rd cycle. do what feels rihgt, we thought we would not use anything to prevent a pregnancy and my body would allow it to happen when it was mentally and physically ready. So good luck, to you both.
Katie - take care too! Seems you are as run down with sickness as me! i've been the same, i have'nt taken any time off but really should of and thats why i have got worse. As for your earleir post re: finishing upin sept, i too am dreaming of finishing although i don't have a date yet. It sounds nice tho, huh?!? And sept is'nt that far away!!!!!!
will have to finish the rest of the personals later, my DH is calling for me to come up to bed!
take care everyone! Sorry for the essay!
x jo
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hope you feel better soon, seems to be that there's a lot of flu/cold going around at the moment prob due to season change.
It is so difficult because we try so hard to fall pg only to discover that we need assistance and then when we succeed, this happens
Would you be going back to do a FET or a full stim cycle?
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