Damnit!!! I had such a long reply and of course hit a button and it disappeared
Stickybaby, I'm so glad you've found your way here, it's a wonderful group of supportive women.
Firstly, please don't base your decision on what others think. If you want to try again and DH is supportive that is all that matters (having a great Mum helps too!!). People who have not lost a baby cannot possibly understand what it's like so they can't really offer valuable advice. Expressing an opinion is one thing, but they should also respect and support your choices. I think if you base your decision on what other people think you may look back in 10 or 20 years and regret it.
Secondly, I can personally recommend the professor at the fetal medicine unit at the Canberra hospital. He's also the main obstetrics lecturer at the ANU, and I have seen him in newspaper articles on pregnancy problems/issues so he's something of an authority. He's also very open to your wishes regarding treatment. For instance it wasn't a clear cut case of me requiring heparin but it was what I wanted so he was happy to go along with that. He's also nice and sensitive. He does pre-pregnancy counselling but you have to book a few months in advance (I had booked in but was pregnant two months prior to the appontment so ended up seeing him a lot sooner!). You can do all pregnancy care through the unit and they are very thorough with the ultrasounds.
Thirdly, I don't know what kind of tests you've had but try and get copies of the results to take with you to whomever you end up seeing. Educating youself on the results and what they men can also help, some doctors do miss things.
I'm so glad that you're up and about and still functioning after the loss of your last baby. You're very brave and strong and a wonderful mother, your kids are very lucky.
Hi to everyone else, I should be leaving for work so I don't have time for personals, will write soon!!
Qucik question, did anyone struggle with when to buy baby stuff?? I have not bought anything yet... half of me doesn't want to 'jinx' it I suppose, half of me wants to be totally positive and another half (I'm three halves!) is worried that if something were to go wrong I'd have no keepsakes. We didn't but much for Edward so it's not like we have a lot already. I went to the movies on Wednesday night with a girl from work, and beforehand I had an hour or so in town so I thought I'd buy a couple of small things but just couldn't... going into a baby shop just made me sad that I was never able to do it for Edward. I think I just don't much like being in shops by myself anymore!!!
We have Alec's cousin's wedding thing this evening (he married a Polish girl in Poland so now it's the Australian relatives' thing), I'm not looking forward to the questions from some... his grandfather's girlfriend is soooo irritating (the most annoying 85 year old you could come across!) so I think I'll just have to walk away.
Other than that bubs is doing great, really active and I love being in new pregnancy territory, getting bigger and kicks getting stronger. Only one more week of work till Chrissy and I can't wait!!!
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