Hi Girls... my computer did the not letting me know thing again... bugger!
Laney: where are you, how did today go, I think it was today... I get confused with all these scans this week.
Theresa: wooooohooooooooo on the engagement. I love being married, I was with DH for 9yrs beforehand and didn't think it would change anything but it so did. Enjoy this time, it is so exciting.
Jo: How lovely to have you back. We have all been missing you and sending positive vibes your way. We can all sympathise with you re the xmas thing, but sounds like you did it exceptionally tough. I had a similar line of thought as DH and I started TTC this week. This is the 3rd Jan in a row we have ttc'd, fallen PG and then followed it up with a xmas empty handed. I am trying to be positive though and putting it out there that we will be 3rd time lucky. Hopefully you will be too, if that is what you and DH decide.
Sue: how exciting, 1st outside movement. DH must have been so excited.
Jo (luke's mum): Yay for 24 weeks. What an achievment. Lets hope Wednesday brings more good news for you!
Helen: are you scanning tomorrow... i think so... i'm thinking that is going to be more good news for me to come home to after work! Good luck!!
Rozzie: I'm glad you got that movement to reassure you and am also glad you have a scan on wed. What a huge week it is in here! BTW what are OPK's, I've never really charted for ttc before. DH and I are pretty lucky and don't seem to have a problem with that part All this is pretty new to me.
Hey Megan, our posts crossed over. Good luck with the thermometer, it is a bit addictive! Glad you will be ttcing with us and hope we can all get some BFP's in the next few weeks. How exciting!!
First of all, good luck today Helen for your scan. I'm sure bub will be bouncing away at the back of your belly and you'll see why you haven't felt much movement.
Laney, where are you? Get on and tell us the good news. I thought of your little boy before I drifted off to sleep last night and visualised hard (I heard that works!) that he is big and bouncy and healthy.
Today is CD6 (the only benefit of getting AF on new year day is that I always know what cycle day I'm on just by looking at the date!) so I think this weekend will be action time. You too Paula?
OPK's are ovulation prediction kits. They look like pregnancy tests but they tell you have you're ovulating. Never worked for me. I have a Maybe Baby which seems kind of temperamental but fun to look at when it ferns.
Welcome back Megan. Sooooo, you're TTC-ing this month too? Fantastic. The more of us the better! When do you get the results from the blood test?
Rozzie and Tildy, when will you go on maternity leave? In March? That's no long you know!
Rozzie, the book I was reading said that ultrasounds can have an adverse effect on babies due to the way they work i.e. bounce sound waves off the baby to create the image we see. I have heard that some babies try to get away from the probe too. I want to be all mother earthy but I think I won't be able to restrain myself from getting scans, especially in the scary second trimester.
Jo (Luke's mum), congrats on making 24wks. Good luck for the prognosis tomorrow. Grow cervix!
Lan, I live in Homebush! I can't believe how close we are. Wonder if we have seen each other, or even know each other!! Freaky... I have PM'd you.
Laney, post!
Hi Megan, oh how exciting! Here's hoping January is our month. We can all start our own mother's group! All the best for the test results.
Helen, best of luck with the scan today. Can't wait to hear from you.
Jo, I am praying so much for a perfect scan tomorrow. I am so happy you have reached your 24 week milestone. Makes me feel warm and fuzzy inside
Rozzie, yay for bubs moving and reassuring you. Best of luck with your scan too.
Sue, I am so excited for you and DH.
Theresa, the proposal sounds so very sweet and you actually sound so much better. So happy DP (now DF) is making an honest woman of you and given you a helping hand to smile again after so much pain lately.
Paula & Lan, I'm 15 days pregnant today! Actually, I'm not sure when I am going to ovulate so DH and are BD ourselves silly just to be sure I have tried OPKs and just can't do it. It stresses me so much my hands shake like crazy that I barely get any wee on the stick!! (I think it's because it is so similar to a pg test that I freak out).
Good morning to everyone else and hope you all have a lovely day.
hey guys!
i have a splitting headache from too many hours swimming in the pool but had to check in for any news from laney? have been thinking of you!
hgirs -good luck with your ultrasound tomorrow!!
Well I feel exhausted! Corey had a bad night last night, topped off with me just not being able to sleep (I wonder why?). Scan was at 9am this morning, which I am happy to say was all good and cervix long and closed, longer than it was at this time with Cooper, YAY! Sent DH off to work and I waited for my OB appt at 11.30......Well got in to see him at 2pm!!! Not very happy, so then I went across the road for some lunch, (couldn't make it home without it) caught the bus at 3.09, home at 3.30 in here to update you all and see if Laney had posted ( I hope you are OK) now I have to run back out the door and pick Corey up from daycare. I just want to crawl into a ball and have a sleep. After having the scan my tentions eased heaps so I am being brave and going with the OB on booking another one in 4 weeks, I bet I'll get 2 weeks down the road and be panicking! Thank you everyone for your well wishes and I hope all the scans over the next few days make you all feel as reassured as I do (for now anyway!)
Yay Helen, congrats on the scan and your superlong cervix!!
Laney... where are you. Are you ok. I am starting to worry about you. Please let us know you're ok!
Diana: 15 days PG wooooohoooooooooo. I am busy trying to work out the whole CM thing. Not very good at it. Always in too much of a rush when I go to the loo!! I am either ovulating today/tomorrow or in about a weeks time.
DH and I are deciding whether to BD tonight (CD9). I did the ttc for a girl thing with Charlie and it worked and we are deciding whether to do that again this time round. Of course we don't care if we get a girl or boy as long as its healthy. I truly mean that, but is it completely uncaring of me to say it would be nice to have a girl so we have one of each. I feel morally challenged by this dilema. I know last time we decided to 'try for a girl' for one cycle and if we didn't get a BFP then next cycle we would just go hell for leather. I was thinking of approaching it the same way this time round but feel a bit guilty for doing anything that suggests we would not love to have a little boy as much as we would love a little girl which of course is not the case.
I'm seeking input from you guys... am i being a complete cow or what!!
Paula, I don't think so, we all know how much our precious baby's are wanted, I can't see anything wrong with you giving it a go to get a little girl. In the end though it's out of our control! I forgot to say that my placenta is attached to the back and low lying at this stage (hoping it moves up), but bub is facing my back which is probably why I haven't felt a load of movement. The boys were both breech from the 18wk scan onwards, but this one is transverse with the head lower, so I am crossing my fingers this time I will have a head down baby! I know it is still very early but I am really hoping.
It's so quiet in here that I am getting really nervous for Laney, please please come on and tell us about your scan, big hugs.
Helen - I am so happy to hear your scan went so well today! And yay for the cervix I would totally understand you getting nervous sooner than your next scan. I was the one who pushed my ob to let me have my last scan at 21 weeks, only 2 weeks after my morphology one and that was due to how fast things happened last time around and I wanted to check on my cervix at the same gestation as when Luke was lost. So, will your next scan work in to be roughly the same with you? It might help ease your mind if you can time it that way (or a few days before)?
Where is Laney? I am getting worried now. Hope you are just busy being happy and that you can update us soon.
Paula - you are so not being a "cow" debating the gender issue. I know that next time (gosh, if I can bring myself to go through this stress again) we would be hoping for a boy - (a) because it would be nice to have one of each grow up together, and (b) I would hate to think that Luke might be our only son. I can't really explain that too well but hopefully you know what I mean. Of course you will love each child no matter what gender they turn out to be but at the same time I don't think we have to justify our feelings about this just because we have lost a child. Those who haven't get to debate the issue and openly admit to wanting a particular gender and we can too. I think though that we will all (or currently do) cherish our little ones just a little more than those who have never walked in our shoes if that makes sense. Gee hope that hasn't sounded offensive to anyone as I didn't mean it like that
Theresa I am sorry I didn't congratulate you in my last post on your engagement! So, CONGRATULATIONS!!! What a great start to your year and hopefully the first of much happiness to come your way as the year goes on.
Diana - yay for the 15 days pg. All this talk of doing the deed - can't remember the last time DH and I got jiggy! We were watching something on tv last night and a sexy scene came on and I looked at DH and said "maybe someday we will get to do that again". Sigh...so you girls TTC, go for it!!
Sending a massive hello to everyone else and sorry to those I missed. I am sitting up to type this which is a change and my back is now killing me. I'll be back tomorrow to let you all know how my u/s goes.
theresa- congrats on your engagement i can remember how excited i was when dh and i got engaged.
helen- yahoo for a great scan
afm we are just enjoying dtd without any pressure of ttc at the moment . I think poor dh never thought that this time would come again. Still waiting for af to come which will all happen in good time.angellukesmum can totally relate to the one day comment as i bled through most of my pregnancy we never really ever had the chance to dtd. Well i'm looking at going back to work again next week at the moment not sure if i will return to my old job or if it is time for a fresh start somewhere, am looking at maybe getting a less manual job so that when we do start ttc again i wont have to worry about what i can and can't do especially if we have to go down the ivf track again. i guess i will wait and see. big belly rubs to all the pregnant girl and fingers crossed for the girls ttc.
Hi Ladies, sorry that I didn't post lastnight. Thank you for thinking of me. Yesterday was pretty emotional for me and I tried to spend it relaxing. The appt was okay, not great. Our little man was wiggling and kicking through the whole thing (and playing with his little boy parts). It was too difficult for the doctor to really tell me if he was behind in growth or not. Some things measures ahead a few days and some things measured behind a few days. All of the measurements added up to being right around my due date. He has been ahead a few days in most of the recent scans so it does worry me. To me, I see that as he is behind a couple of days in growth, deffinitly not a week like I had feared. My doctor said that he measured perfectly and there is no way at this point to be exact with measurements but it is difficult for me to feel so positive yet. My doctor pretty much yelled at me and said that he is measuring exact with the early and most accurate scan. I have another scan in 2 weeks. That scan will tell us more. I really wanted a clear YES he is growing great but the office scans are not the most accurate. I guess I just have to wait it out and worry a little more.
Jo, I am so glad that you are feeling up to posting. I have really missed you in here. I just hope that you and DH are really ready to be pregnant again when it happens for you. I will warn you that the third time is much much harder than the second for me. The depression has hit me pretty hard and a lot of my relationships have suffered. I think you need to spend some time away with just your DH so you can recover from such a difficult time of year.
Last edited by Laney; January 7th, 2009 at 01:24 AM.
Hey Girls, I've been lurking for a while and thought it was time I made my presence known!
Jo, I was just reading your post about your SIL smoking while she was pg and i completely sympathise with you. It's absolutely heart wrenching when so many people do things they aren't supposed to when they are pregnant and still get away with it, yet others (like all the people here!) do everything by the book and still have their hearts broken. After I had Jayvan I walked out of the hospital and pretty much tripped over a pregnant woman sucking on a fag, If DF wasn't with me I would have took her out I was so furious.
I hope everything has calmed down for your since chrissy, I must say mine wasn't all that flash either ^^;;
Good luck to everyone TTC in 09! I truely hope we're all blessed with precious little christmas presents this year
hey guys!
quick early morning post from me as i had to dive on before i left for work.
Laney - i understand the frustration at not having what you want in better confirmation but it does sound like things are ok! So please breath a mini sigh a relief! (and i know you'll continue to hold your breath anyway!!) I agree with the depression part -i am sure it has been a big part of me hitting a wall over christmas. i thought i was just so sad but then one day i was just like this has to be something greater than just being sad -i have never felt anything like it before.
So that is probably part of my nervousness going again -eventhough i want to. Confidence has been shot and all i know now is pregnancy = heartbreak but i will keep you all updated on the decision DFH and I make. Jan is most likely out for TTC anyway as that would (hopefully) result in a 3rd baby born in Oct and honestly it is hard enough with 2 already. But maybe jan conception is a lucky month for us, who knows! I still have AF so its a no go right now anyway. DS has still been talking about us having another baby and where he would sit in the car if i did. I even had to read "where did i come from?" to him and DD the other night in the cubby house and they then wanted to watch a birth video to see for themselves and onto youtube we went. DS was quite disappointed there were no "screams" as i have told him labour hurts but they were quite fascinated all the same. It was an interesting night. But again, still surprised that a baby is on his mind almost as much as it is on mine, esp when we don't talk about TTC in front of them.
Teagz - glad you posted, although i get the lurking thing too! i wanted to rip my brothers girlfriends eyeballs out i was so upset and angry but saying or doing anything would have caused a really ugly situation. And worse, she is a really lovely person otherwise. hope you find us a supportive bunch in here and i second your 2009 wish!!
hammi - sorry AF reared her ugly head!!! january here you come!!!
hgirs -happy your ultrasound went well! and you got some answers!
paula - no your not a cow! we know what you mean!
gotta go girls! am about 15mins behind schedule! oops!
xxjo
Laney, I know you wanted a positive YES but the news is good. I know it must be very hard to remain positive but so far, so good. I'm certain your next scan will go fabulously and then you can relax and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy. Got everything crossed for you.
Helen, absolutely fabulous news about your nice long cervix. You must be so relieved.
Paula, I am obsessed with the CM thing but since losing Sebastian, my cycles are so off the planet and I hardly get any CM whereas before Sebastian, my cycles were very regular and CM came in abundance (sorry TMI). I'm soooo confused. I don't think you are a cow at all. We all know you will love your next baby no matter what. Secretly I am hoping for another boy.
Jo, can't wait to hear from you today to see how your cervix is holding up. Now about BD, I'm not sure about the rest of you, but it does become a bit of chore when TTC doesn't it? Or is it just me? I mean I really love "getting jiggy with it" but I just get over it sometimes and want that spontaneity back! Anyone else feel the same?
Hello Teagz.
Jo76, I am sending positive TTC vibes and thoughts your way along with Paula, Lan, Megan, Beata, Theresa, Dee and myself of course! Have I missed anyone?
Hello to all you other lovelies x
Last edited by dd0207; January 7th, 2009 at 10:08 AM.
I'm going to use up some of your knowledge for a second girls, as I am utterly confused. Get ready for a little bit if TMI,=)
I gave birth to our Bub Jayvan on the 11/12, a week later (18/12) I had to go back to hospital for a D&C as part of the placenta hadn't come away during the birth.
I had a dr's appt on Monday and he said that I should be getting close to having a visit from AF, BUT by me I only ovulated Saturday/Sunday just gone and then Monday I have started having some really light bleeding, varying from bright red to a sort of browny colour. Well, I don't really know what I'm asking now
I guess basically all I wanted to know is if this was normal, whichI know our cycles can be a bit all over the place. Or if this has happened to anyone else, and if my late ovulation is going to a problem with conceiving again. Pretty much any first hand info I can get my hands on as I'm new to all this and I don't feel very well informed about what's happening with my body at the moment.
firstly, Laney your scan sounds just about identical to my 18-19 week one. I have all the screen shots and just looked up all the measurements, some were 4 days behind EDD (and I know when I OV'd) and some were 4 days ahead, leading to up to an 8 day disprecency which is COMPLETELY NORMAL!! The measurements are all based on averages and no baby is the same so variation ahead and behind will happen to most bubs. I can understand you wanting the doc to say 'what a big boy!' and that you'll worry about anything and everything (I know I do), but honestly, it really does sound perfectly normal and fine. Try and relax and know you'll get more reassurance in 2 weeks time.
Welcome Teagz. I agree, some people just don't have their priorities in order when it comes to having babies. I heard other women complaining bitterly about getting cellulite during pregnancy. aaagg.
Paula, don't feel bad about wanting a girl... I will be happy either way though I sort of hope for a boy (even though first time round I really wanted a girl) I think it's natural to have preferences but you know yourself you'll love the baby equally no matter what. Also, if you're interested in OPKs there's a lot of info as to how they work on the net, I found them useful for me as they did pinpoint O and I could correlate them to my chart.
Helen, congrats on the great scan and looong cervix!!!
Lan, I've sometimes thought that if this pregnancy goes perfect I'd like to be one of those women who has only one U/S at 20 weeks and just spends the rest of the pregnancy relaxing and not worrying... but I don't think it's realistic for me, I would just worry too much! I think dating scan, 12 week and 20 week is about the minimum I could do.
Well ladies I've had a nasty couple of days On monday night we were making dinner and I started to feel ill very suddenly, couldn't eat much and had to go to bed. Got up the next day and felt worse, vomiting and had a headache. So I went into medical and after ages (I thought everyone was back from holidays but no!) the doc said it was probably just the heat (though I work in AC) and to take the rest of the week off and rest. So i spent pretty much all day in bed yesterday plus a full night's sleep (can't remember when I've had that much sleep!!) but I still feel a bit shaky. Thankfully I had a scan and a MW appt today anyway, so though it was unpleasant to drag myself to the hospital it was good for the reassurance.
The scan was great, bub is getting so big and chubby!!! She said it's growing beautifully, blood flow is still good (big relief), cervix long but she said it's still too early to see the state of the scar, so the birth is still a big question mark. The MW said as long as I can keep fluids down things should be fine.
Funny thing is the head circumference size was 2 weeks 3 days ahead, and last night I dreamt I had a girl by C-section and she had a massive head!!! In average bub is measuring 4 days ahead (though I never change the dates as I know when I O'd) so all is going really well.
Anyway, I'm off to bed again. It's going to be 36 today, I'm so glad we put in evaporative cooling last year, otherwise I think I would have gone to work and just curled up under my desk!!!
Teagz, just missed your post. With me my doc told me I'd bleed for a couple of weeks then get AF after 6, well I bleed for almost 6 weeks and got AF after over two months, and conceived on that cycle. I'm usually very regular too, so I think it is dependant entirely on the person and you can only observe and try when you think it's the right time. Things will settle down soon in all probability.
Rozzie, Hmm, my Dr's has said I should have AF shortly and it's only been about 4 weeks since I had Jayvan. After the D&C I only bled for a week. Perhaps his shortly is 2 weeks away still I'll just have to show a bit of patiences I guess!
Yeah, I must admit I was one of the people that complained about ms, and how tired I was all the time. I do really feel that I took what I had for granted and I'll regret it forever.
Next time I'm gong to embrace it with both hands and thank my lucky stars.
Last edited by helle; January 7th, 2009 at 10:06 AM.
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Actually, I'm not sure when I am going to ovulate so DH and are BD ourselves silly just to be sure
I have tried OPKs and just can't do it. It stresses me so much my hands shake like crazy that I barely get any wee on the stick!! (I think it's because it is so similar to a pg test that I freak out).
I would totally understand you getting nervous sooner than your next scan. I was the one who pushed my ob to let me have my last scan at 21 weeks, only 2 weeks after my morphology one and that was due to how fast things happened last time around and I wanted to check on my cervix at the same gestation as when Luke was lost. So, will your next scan work in to be roughly the same with you? It might help ease your mind if you can time it that way (or a few days before)?
. I think poor dh never thought that this time would come again. Still waiting for af to come which will all happen in good time.angellukesmum can totally relate to the one day comment as i bled through most of my pregnancy we never really ever had the chance to dtd. Well i'm looking at going back to work again next week at the moment not sure if i will return to my old job or if it is time for a fresh start somewhere, am looking at maybe getting a less manual job so that when we do start ttc again i wont have to worry about what i can and can't do especially if we have to go down the ivf track again. i guess i will wait and see. big belly rubs to all the pregnant girl and fingers crossed for the girls ttc.
On monday night we were making dinner and I started to feel ill very suddenly, couldn't eat much and had to go to bed. Got up the next day and felt worse, vomiting and had a headache. So I went into medical and after ages (I thought everyone was back from holidays but no!) the doc said it was probably just the heat (though I work in AC) and to take the rest of the week off and rest. So i spent pretty much all day in bed yesterday plus a full night's sleep (can't remember when I've had that much sleep!!) but I still feel a bit shaky. Thankfully I had a scan and a MW appt today anyway, so though it was unpleasant to drag myself to the hospital it was good for the reassurance.
I'll just have to show a bit of patiences I guess!
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