Dee, I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of beautiful Chloe, an incredible difficult thing to go through at 28-weeks. Glad you found us here.
Jo, you have been through a rough time lately, I hope you are getting through this time ok. Sweet Madison will always be in your heart, I'm sure it will get easier with time.
Paula, fingers crossed for January for both of us and you to Lan.
Helen, good to see that little baby in your ticker growing!
Hi to everyone else.
Last edited by Berry1; January 10th, 2009 at 03:28 AM.
Jo, I know how difficult it is when your DH doesn't remember important dates. They really do remember our angels in a different way. I have had to remind my DH about each one. I refuse to agonize over these days alone.
hgirs, It is great to hear that your scan went well.
MrsRobbo, I know that it is very difficult to wait to TTC. It was very painful for me to not be pregnant anymore after my losses. It is very important that you feel your body is ready first.
dee81, During my pregnancy with Shelby she had low fluid that started around 20 weeks. I was checked a few times for leaking fluid but it ended up that there were blood clots in the placenta. She was not getting enough oxygen and nutrients to grow properly.
Rozzie, How are you feeling? Has your headache gone yet? Your body might need a little time to adjust to the changes. I didn't feel well for a couple of weeks when I started the LMW heparin.
I am trying to stay positive. I really want to believe the aspirin and heparin are doing their job. I just want to hear that this bub is measuring 2 weeks ahead at my next scan.
Hi, to everyone that I have missed.
I am still moving forward one day at a time. I am trying really hard to only use the doppler once a day or less. My placenta is low and in front so it is getting a bit difficult to find the HB at home. I don't have the best doppler and the placenta is starting to get loud. I only get the swoosh of the placenta somedays. I am usually tempted to keep listening until I find the HB which can take a while at this stage. I think it will get a little easier in the next couple of weeks as the baby gets bigger.
TM, I am so sorry that this has happened to you again. I know that it is very difficult when life is so unfair but try to stay positive for the future. I will be thinking of you.
I'm sorry TM. You are right, it just sucks, there's no reason why you have to go through this and no justification for the pain you have to feel. I'm just really sorry.
I am so sorry I have been AWOL for quite a few days. Had a friend down from the country and was shopping, shopping, shopping. But you guys have been so busy!!! it will take me ages to catch up.....
I am so tired!!!!! and work has been so so busy.....
First, I am so sorry tempus moriendi, my heart goes out to you. Please treat yourself kindly and look after yourself.
Jo I am so thinking of you
Helen - Yippee about the great scan. I am so so happy for you....
Welcome Dee, Darcy and Tocarra. I look forward to getting to know you.
Katie - Hoping B/F is getting better. I am still so thrilled for you. I tell everyone about you.
Hi to Megan, Rozzie, Paula, Lan and Laney - hope you are all doing well.
Well its our 3rd wedding anniversary today and we are going out to dinner at the Summit at Mount Lofty (in the Adelaide Hills) and I am so looking forward to it. I think I am even going to splurge and have 1 glass of Rose'. I think I deserve it for all the stressing I have done lately. My brother & sister-in-law announced their pregnancy yesterday and they are only 6 weeks behind me, which makes me kind of nervous, but also very thrilled that there will be 2 cousins very close in age.
TM - You are right, things shouldn't be this damn hard, I am so sorry sending you the biggest hugs.
Sue - I hope you have a nice anniversary, a glass of rose sounds lovely I think 1 glass would go straight to my head now!
TM, I am so sorry that you have to go through this again, life just isn't fair sometimes. My heart goes out to you.
Laney, 13-weeks is really good, your in a much safer place now. I am sure things will progress well for you.
Sue, hope you had a wonderful dinner & enjoyed the glass of wine. How good is one glass of wine, when you have been going without for ages!
Jo, hope you are doing ok, thinking of you.
I'm just looking forward to finishing work for Christmas now (7 working day to go). Can't wait for Jan to roll around so we can start ttc. Finding it hard when I find out people I know are pg and due after when I should have had Jasmine.
Hope everyone is well. TM, please take care.
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TM - I am so sorry that you are once again suffering the heartache of farewelling another much wanted and loved baby. Yes it does suck! I will keep you and your angels in my prayers. Sending you a big hug
Hi Girls, in a rush but just wanted to pop in quickly and check up on you all.
TM: just want to say how sorry I am. I wish there was more I could say or do to help you get through this but just know that i am thinking of you and wishing you the strength to get through the next few days, weeks, months. Take care of yourself and try to stay positive for the future.
to everyone else, will pop in with more personals over the weekend but know I'm thinking of you all often.
TM, I am so very sorry you have suffered another loss. My heart goes out to you and I pray the new year is kinder to you. It just sux.... Sending you big hugs.
Sue, hope you enjoyed your night out. Hung-over??
Dee, I am so very sorry for your loss.
Hi to everyone else, hope you are all well.
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Firstly Im sorry to hear of your loss TM. Hang in there, the limbo doesnt last forever, but I know exactly what you mean.
Im not sure if Im really ready for joining here but .......
I have just had my 7th loss. 3 weeks ago tomorrow. I thought I was 17 weeks but the baby died a while before I had the ultrasound.
I still feel a bit in limbo but I thought I would poke my head in and say Hi and at least introduce myself cos who knows what the future holds. Im seeing my GP to see if she can refer me to someone, maybe the FS that Ive seen before. My OB wanted me to go to Westmead Foetal Medicine unit, but I dont know of any other options, Im going to research and see where I can go and who I can see. I would dearly love some suggestions if anyone could help. Im half way between Canberra and Sydney so I can easily get to either.
I have been doubting myself and feeling really depressed about having to move on with my life and forgetting about trying again. I feel so pressured by others opinions and thought maybe I was going a bit mad and just stupidly obsessed with having more kids. But I think it was just the usual greiving time and feeling down and I was reading into it too much. I actually feel really WELL. Like I have energy and have lost a bit of weight and more motivation for housework than I usually have. This has happened strangely after every miscarriage. About 2-3 weeks after I pick up all of a sudden and feel unusually good. Weird!!!
After reading some posts on here and the extensive info that Flowerchild has provided in the sticky thread about foetal death and miscarriage info, I feel reassured that Im not insane and just generally relaxed about the direction I want my life to go now. Its strange I know that I cant just be confident with what I want in life but I have always had low self esteem and Im very easily influenced and upset. You would think in knowing this that I could be more aware when its happening but I dont and it affects me. I feel stupid for it. Dh is very supportive and he doesnt think Im insane, he just wants me to be happy and would love more kids too. If I want to go through the stress of it all again then I have his support, and my Mum but thats it, no-one else. My good friends and all the inlaws think Im mad, and there really isnt anyone else that I feel close enough to to discuss it. I feel lonely without BB !!! At least there are others that have been through similar and want more kids on here. Anyhoo I will hang around here and keep up to date with everyone.
Last edited by stickybaby; December 11th, 2008 at 07:33 PM.
Oh Stickybaby, welcome to our little corner of the world, I did read (& posted) about your loss in the preg thread, I haven't had enough courage myself to jump over there yet. You have been through such unimaginable heartache, I just want to reach through the screen and hug you! I hope you find some strength with us here, I know I have. No one can walk in your shoes and tell you what is right or wrong, you are the only one who knows what 'fits', try not to let negative people destroy your dreams, I know it is hard esp with family. Thankfully you sound like you have a wonderful DH and mum, lean on them and us to help you through.
Hi Stickybaby. One of the pregnant girls in this thread told us about your recent loss and we all feel so much for you. You're not alone in wanting more babies and following your heart, it's just that life hasn't been kind to you. I don't have any earth babies but I know the what it feels like to lose a much wanted and dearly loved little baby all too well. I'm glad you feel OK right now but there'll be ups and downs and it's OK if you feel like coming in here another time and telling us that you hate everybody. As for your question about where to from here. I'm in Sydney and have just started seeing Dr Andrew Pesce at Westmead Private. He was recommended to me by Spring Angel and I must admit that I liked him on sight. I'm not sure of his experience with recurrent losses though. Take care.
We've had so many new ladies join us lately. It's heartbreaking the reason why you're here but I'm glad we can offer you support because there are days when I would positively go insane if it weren't for you guys here.
Now personals...
How are you going, dear Jo? What did you do on Madison's EDD? Are you going to her portrait done? I would love to see her as I feel like I know her so well through your description. Are you skipping TTC this month or next?
Paula, is that ionic foot thing where the water turns all dark from all the toxins released from your body? I've heard of it but never seen or tried. I love all that kind if stuff! But you're right, best not TTC after you've just done that. Have you bought your K-mart Gift Tree pressie yet? I HAVE to do that this weekend. We also donated to two charities - one from me, one from David and the K-mart pressie will be from Ham.
Katie, how is the b/f progressing? I can imagine how sore and sorry you would be from all the effort. You've been through so much to get here, I hope this b/f business will sort itself out so you can take a big breath and truly relax into being an earth mummy.
Sue, you p#ss pot. How did your anniversary go? I am so excited that you're almost 19wks, it seems not that long ago that we were all amazed at delighted at your surprise BFP.
Helen, why are you lurking? I miss you! Are you successfully keeping DH at bay? Are you going to join the celibacy club for the remainder of your pregnancy? Heee. Congrats on graduating to 2nd trimester.
TM, has it started happening yet? Hang in there. That sounds so lame but please hang in there. I always remember how Paula once said that if only our future selves could come back now and tell us that eventually things go way we would not feel so helpless and heartbroken. Your future self is out there, holding that earth baby, you have to believe.
Laney, the u/s pic in your sig is so cute! I didn't know that placentas made sounds. Aren't they stuck to the uterus wall? How's supersize baby going? Any hints of kicks yet?
Megan, oooh, not long till you start TTC. We have got to get a wave of BFP's in here to try to outnumber the preggy girls! You, me, Jo, Paula, Diana, TM and Stickbaby... got to put some effort in for the new year!
Hi Stickybaby. I am so glad you have come to this thread as you will find all the women here wonderfully supportive and compassionate. You should never worry about why you feel the need for more children - you are a mother and it is natural that you want to have another baby. Do not let other people make you doubt your instincts. I know it is hard sometimes especially considering how vulnerable you are after suffering yet another loss, but trust in your instincts and ignore people telling you to feel 'happy' with what you have. No one can understand the deep desire a mother has after a loss for another child unless they themselves have suffered a loss. I think you are coping amazingly well given all you have gone through.
Also - a big hello and welcome to the other new ladies - I feel terrible for not having welcomed you all earlier. This is a really special place filled with incredibly special women. I hope you find the support and comfort you need in your TTC journeys.
Stickybaby, I am glad that you decided to join us for some support. I am so sorry that you have had to go through this again. Has your doctor ever talked to you about giving heparin and low dose aspirin a try? I am very surprised that they would have let you go through so much heartache without giving any treatments a try. My OB told me that he gives it to women that have had repeated earlier losses as well as very late ones.
Lan, I can hear the placents because it has lots of blood moving through it right now. On the doppler it sounds like wind or a drawn out woosh. I have to listen for the baby through it because it is on the front wall of my uterus. I didn't realize what it was until the doctor told me.
I haven't felt any movement yet. I felt Shelby at about 15 weeks, so soon I hope.
Jo, How are you doing? I hope you are starting to recover from a the difficult few weeks.
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