Sue - I'm sorry frostie didn't make it. Hammi's idea on the pampering sounds good - you truly deserve it. My friend had a baby at the same time I had Alexander. It, of course, is very difficult to see her daughter and I difficult for her too seeing me upset when I see her baby. I also discovered that she felt so guilty for having a healthy child, when I didn't. Its hard because I just want her to appreciate what she has and feel happy that she has her daughter with her, not to feel bad about it. I don't know where I was going with that one but, it sounded like a similar story to your friends.

Tildy - a bit scary for you with the bleeding. I hope all is OK for you. Its good to have the extra appointments - it sounds like your midwife is good to book you in. Have you found your carers understanding?

Hammi - Good on you for getting the tests. I'm at the same stage as you. Booked into some preconception counselling and will have bloods done etc... We've decided to start in September also. I finally found an obstetrician I was happy to go to but when I went to book the appointment, she is now going off on maternity leave. I was devastated - its so hard to find the right person. I'm booked in with another doctor now, so I'll suss her out at the next appointment.

Hi Paula - I'm very sorry about Charlie. Its great that your son has such a connection. I try to talk to my 2yo about Alex, so that he will always know that he has a little brother but I'm not sure how much he understands. He knows that somethings not quite right but maybe as he gets older he will understand more.

Jo - still thinking of you. Hope you are OK.

Hi to everyone else - hope you are all well.

Danek