Teagz, I can't believe those insensitive comments. I think some people just don't know what to say and end up putting their foot in it and others like your friend are just down right out of place. I'm glad that you have decided to see a councillor, I really hope it helps the grieving process for you
Diana, I hope that you have ovulated. I have a great book on ttc and it covers IVF and the author recommends acupunture as well, sounds like its worth a try. See if the IVF clinic can recommend someone good. Goodluck, let us know how you go.
Laney, please don't ever think you can't post in here, I am sure everyone will be very concerned about you. I will be praying for you that this little one will be absolutely fine and will be born nice and healthy at full term.
Dee, sorry that you had an awful weekend. Those moments can just creep up on you can't they. I'm the same, can be fine one minute and lose it the next. I think someone on here put it quite nicely recently by saying 'you never know just how close to the surface tears can be'.
Beata, I hope you are recovering well hun. You'll be back in here ttc with us soon I know
Paula, how are you any further signs?. The big test at the end of this week, I hope we both get a BFP
Lan & Tildy, thinking of you and hope you are doing ok.
Diana -- aha, surprise trips with DH! What a good one you have there. I hope you have a great time! Have you continued to DTD in case ovulation came this week? I'm sorry you have to have the added headache of irregular ovulation; it's hard enough to be where we are even when everything is working like a well-oiled machine. I had no idea that there was so much benefit to the accupuncture, though -- sounds like something you might want to look into!
Teagz -- yeah, it is definitely amazing, the things that can come out of people's mouths. I can't recall if anyone said any REALLY obviously dumb things to me (I would call the "deformed babies" and "overcrowded planet anyway" to be in the really obviously dumb category), but even the things people say to try to be comforting are often hurtful when you give them a little thought. I think it will be great for you to see a counselor, if it's the right person you find. It can take some of the pressure off of everyone involved and give you a safe place to talk about anything you want.
Laney -- you still have a ways to go before you pass your tough anniversary dates, so it's perfectly understandable that you're feeling so much angest -- even if it's sad and unfair. Like Katie said in the preg thread, the loss of innoconce and joy about being pregnant is something we've also suffered. I'm thinking of you today -- I know your appointment will be later in the day for me and even nighttime already for the Australian girls, but you know we are ALL hoping and praying for an excellent result that will allow you to smile today.
Dee -- I understand what you mean about the BBQ. Sometimes you want to be with people, sometimes you don't, and sometimes the mood shift happens just like *that*. I have some friends who were really good at understanding that I might show up for a party only to turn around and go home right away. Make sure your DH knows how much you appreciate him talking about his feelings, too -- the boys need so much positive feedback!
Oh, Theresa... if I say that you experience giving birth to Zachary doesn't sound fun, it would be such an understatement! I'm glad you've gotten to start on your way to a much happier, healthier delivery!
Jo -- congrats on your long service and your ability to move around a bit more! And, of course, on being 26 weeks!
Sue -- sorry to hear about DH's job, but I've noticed that those kind of things are in a whole other perspective now. He will find a new job and you guys will be okay -- Lily's pending arrival makes all of that stuff a bit smaller and less important.
Rozzie -- will there be more sessions for your VBAC class or was it just the one? I understand that it was a pain in the ass, and I agree about it being flabbergasting how little some people know. I had to laugh at that story about the woman who was about to have her second baby wondering if you still had periods after a hysterectomy -- don't remember who told it. I can add that my mom thought a pregnancy was "20-something" weeks long when I first told her I was pregnant with Beiron and that I was 13 weeks (she was mad that I'd waited until the baby was "almost here" to tell her...) Congrats on buying the pram and the diapers! It feels a bit funny but also great, doesn't it? I picked up the car seat on Friday night, and it was just sort of a strange feeling, but mostly a good one.
Sorry for anyone or anything I missed -- I'm having a hard time just keeping track of who is who some days, especially with BB names vs. real life names. Sorry if I'm not totally on the ball!
Beata - Missing you! Hope you are taking it easy and will be back with us soon!
Diana - Welcome to my part of the world!!! YI hope you have a fabulous holiday!
Teagz - Oh yes - and I am sure we have all heard them! My cousin said to me "Better it happened now and not later." - What the!!!!! and the common one "It was meant to be" - Why? How is that supposed to help me?!?!?! and so the list goes on......I must say - yours takes first prize - People just don't think!!!
Laney - All the best for your scan tomorrow.
Berry1 - Thanks - I am praying this one goes well too.
MrsRobbo - I am praying you get a BFP!!!!!
Thanks for everyone's kind words in regards to Zachary's birth. If I told you the start of the story, you would all be shocked. That was just the half after we found out Zachary had no heartbeat.
AFM - I have an appointment with the OB on Wednesday morning. Just wanting to do some tests and make sure all is okay so far. Also have to see the diabetic specialist to ensure my blood sugar levels are maintained. I haven't been too well the last few days with an upset stomach but it seems to be settling down.
Take care of yourselves and bring on more BFP's!!!!!
Hi Ladies,
The scan was good! Our little man was 4 or 5 days ahead in growth! We are not out of the woods yet but everything looks great so far. I have an ultrasound at my high risk doctor in 2 weeks, they will check the blood flow in the cord and recheck his size. I am still nervous but I was able to smile a few times at the doctor's office today.
Laney WOO HOO on an excellent scan. Oh how happy that has made me! I hope you can try to relax a little and enjoy this pregnancy knowing you have a health happy baby boy growing nicely in your tummy.
Tildy, that ticker is moving along so nicely. I actually think we missed our chance as DH and I only DTD (POSSIBLY) once during fertile time. The stupid nurse at the clinic today said my bloods last Tuesday showed I was approaching my LH surge but she didn't tell me that at the time, otherwise I would have given DH some Viagra or something! So unless I caught the little one on Tuesday or Friday night, then it is IVF for me.
Theresa, good luck at the OBs office. Hope they take very good care of you this time around.
Beata, hope you're ok hun.
Lan, I miss you. Hope you're feeling a little stronger.
Oh Laney that is FANTASTIC news!! I jumped out of bed to check if you had posted so yay, I can start the day with a smile
Diana - good luck with the blood test today. At least if it shows you haven't ov'd you can stop worrying about whether you missed the egg. That damn elusive egg!! Oh and lucky you with that surprise trip! I order you to BD just for fun while you are away
Teagz, they are terrible comments! I was pretty lucky after we lost Luke and nobody really said anything too bad to me. I tend to just let peoples comments go over my head anyway. But the most annoying thing I have found since being pg again is the new comments you get. "Don't get stressed this time" (um, I wasn't stressed last time!) and "I have a good feeling about this one" (so you had a bad feeling about Luke?) -they are the 2 most common ones. I know people mean well which is why I just let it go but it still irks me.
Good luck to the girls testing later this week. Hoping there is some more good news in here soon. And Beata, hope you are recovering well.
I had my 1st ante-natal class last night and it went well. We had to do an intro and when DH introduced us he said how this is our 2nd child and our 1st arrived prematurely and didn't make it. I was totally prepared for this to be brought up as we had discussed it and I feel no need to protect the others in the class by pretending this is our 1st experience but it still got me teary which was a bit of a surprise. Anyway, I rounded it up by mentioning my recent bedrest and then that was it; nobody asked any questions etc. It was interesting though that after watching a really quick birth video the other girls were saying it made them feel a little scared/anxious about what is to come, and all I could think was "Bring it on"! It made me feel empowered and I can't wait for the experience.
Hope everyone else is great and hi to all of you that I missed. I am a bit like Tildy with the foggy brain trying to keep track of BB names vs real ones and where everyone is up to - sorry
Firstly - Yeah to laney for a fantastic scan. What fantastic news to hear. I am so happy for you and hoping little bubs continues to grow strong.
Teagz - I honestly can't believe your friend said that to you. I am so sorry you had to endure that. Though my SIL said to me on Sunday "Well you bloody should be feeling better and more relaxed about this pregnancy" and I was shocked and said, you know what, until that baby is in my arms, I will feel better and then even more worrying will start!!!
dd0207 - I have done acupuncture, but not during IVF. I decided to go the naturopath instead. My naturopath did testing through urine and she was the one who picked up my surgar issue. How lucky are you - going to the Gold Coast. Have a fantastic time and your man is very special.
Helen & Lan - thinking of you both.....
Katie - Havent heard from you for a long time. Hope all is going well.
Jo76 - Again havent heard from you for a long time. Thinking of you.
Tildy - Big hello to you. I know you understand about DH job etc. We made sure we put some money behind us, for the "just in case". Luckily we did and yes it will all work out in the end. Hows things on your end???
Theresa - Goodluck with your Ob & Diabetic appointments. Are you on any medication for your sugar??? or are you controlling it by diet??. I have been taking Metformin to control my sugar level and so far, so good. I am sure it was the reason I fell pregnant naturally as I just upped my levels of metformin, as I was putting on weight for no reason and bang next month pregnant.
Jo - I am so glad your Antenantal Classes went well. I must admit getting a little anxious in going. Not sure whether to say about the 3 losses or just focus on this pregnancy.
dd - Oooh, my DF needs to take a page out of his book! What a nice suprise! I hope you's have fun
Zachary's Mom - Yep, I've had the "it was just meant to be" speech as well... And also "you should wait a couple of years before you try again... obviously you're not meant to have babies yet" Ugh.
Sryan - Yep, people who haven't had this happen to them just have no clue... my SIL has had three healthy pregnancies all in a row and is contemplating on planning number 4. I'm interested to hear what she's going to be saying to me once I'm pregnant again... Seeing DF sisters have kids so easily does make me feel a little defective sometimes ^^;
AFM. Af started heavily without warning again last night... then stopped about 10 minutes later.
Whhaaaat?
I've also got the number for a lady that runs Morning Tea's and things for people who have lost children, she see's people one on one as well... So now all I gotta do is gather the balls to actually ring the number!
I also called out Dr yesterday in hopes that the results for the postmortum are back for Jayvan... and no such luck. They take so long!
Last edited by helle; January 20th, 2009 at 08:43 AM.
Ok, think I have covered most of the emotions I am feeling at the moment... bloods are in and on CD29 have still NOT OVULATED. Starting some drug tomorrow, think she said Provera? to bring on a period then I can start sniffing in a few days. All this hard work and there was no little egg to catch BOO HOO
I hope you have a great time! Have you continued to DTD in case ovulation came this week? I'm sorry you have to have the added headache of irregular ovulation; it's hard enough to be where we are even when everything is working like a well-oiled machine. I had no idea that there was so much benefit to the accupuncture, though -- sounds like something you might want to look into!
I think it will be great for you to see a counselor, if it's the right person you find. It can take some of the pressure off of everyone involved and give you a safe place to talk about anything you want.
on an excellent scan. Oh how happy that has made me! I hope you can try to relax a little and enjoy this pregnancy knowing you have a health happy baby boy growing nicely in your tummy.
Ok, think I have covered most of the emotions I am feeling at the moment... bloods are in and on CD29 have still NOT OVULATED. Starting some drug tomorrow, think she said Provera? to bring on a period then I can start sniffing in a few days. All this hard work and there was no little egg to catch BOO HOO
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