Sorry I have been MIA. Thanks for everyone's support on my phantom BFP that turned into a BFN. It really means a lot. I have had a busy week - took Monday off work as was very tired still from the flu and ended up working 3 days in a row. By Thursday lunchtime I was absolutely exhausted and was having diffculty staying awake while driving home! So I don't think I'll be doing that again in a hurry! Had a massage on Friday morning - very nice and relaxing. Might have to do it again next week!
Well I'm CD36 today and have no idea what my body is doing. It's like it has just shut down! My TCM has given me some herbs to try to bring on AF which doesn't show any sign of coming yet. If AF doesn't arrive by Tuesday morning then she is going to give me some super herbs... sounds like they will taste awful but hopefully they work. I hate being in limbo land! And to make life more depressing I have been reading some books on how to maximise fertility and worked out that my BMI is 28 I need to lose about 8kgs to get back to my pre-pregnancy weight, but ideally would like to lose 10kgs. But I just can't seem to summon the energy to get started. Maybe tomorrow!
Also saw my GP last week. She has given me another certificate for 4 weeks more of part-time work. She doesn't think I am up to it physically and I agree with her. Have got all the paperwork for more b/t to try find out what is going on with my hormone levels once AF arrives
Anyway, enough about me. I just wanted to comment on the AP issue. I have been having AP regularly for 12 months now. I firmly believe that it helped us conceive Ryan. The normal routine was AP at about CD11-12 to assist with ovulation and then about 10days later to assist with implantation. I continued with AP once a month while I was pg and found it really helped with my stress levels. I would definitely recommend it to anyone, even if you are doing IVF. The success rates of AP with IVF are amazing.
Some quick persies...
Bec - glad to hear you had a lovely time in Tassie. Hope your last minute BD with your relaxed state will mean a BFP for you this cycle!
Berry - hi - hope your doing ok. I understand your frustration and disappointment. Try to remain positive - it does all help apparently
Teagz - I second your thought - bring on the tumbleweeds! Hope you had a great holiday!
Beata - here's hoping we all get BFPs in July that would be the best ever birthday present for me! I hope you manage to figure out your O day. I never had much luck with OPKs but am thinking I might try them again, along with charting. All without driving myself nuts hopefully!
I hope everyone is having a great long weekend. Take care all.
xo
Oh Cheryl darl, I don't know what to say except be kind and gentle with yourself
Hun, it's only coming up to 3 months since you've lost your little man, mentally and physically you're still healing, no wonder you're exhausted and so run down! Also, it's probably why AF still hasn't shown. I believe that our own bodies best tell us what is really going on with us. When we're dog tired & run down all the time, it's telling us to slow down, take some much needed rest and LOTS of sleep. I mean, at least 8 hours at night and nanna naps when you need them .
Hun, 3 months after I lost Josh I was seeing my psychologist once a week, I really wasn't coping well (well, I thought I was, but soon found out I was putting on a brave face for everyone when I was really falling apart). Each time I left her office I felt better than when I came in, but back at home I would cry myself to sleep and soon forgot what she told me. That's when I realised no matter what she said to me, I would heal in my own time, grieve in my own time, and my body was going to be good to me when IT was ready. I also wish now that I stayed home a lot longer after my loss (I was off for 7 weeks) as when I got back to work I was no good to anyone for ages!! My concentration was crap and I found it really hard to get motivated (still do ).
I believe you're doing all you can to get your body in tip top condition for your next pg, and I pray that's not too far away for your hun, but make sure psychologically you're ready too as I found that this was my biggest hurdle.
Big hugs hun, take it easy and I hope AF shows soon!! I like what you said about AP, I really think I'm gonna give it a go throughout my pg (when I get there!) to bring my stress levels down.
Cheryl, I am so sorry hun that there is no BFP for you this month I can imagine how frustrating it must be with AF not turning up yet. As Beata said 3-months since your loss is not long at all, it can take a while for AF to get back to normal. Was your cycle fairly regular before? In terms of weight loss, please don't stress yourself out more than you already are. Having too much pressure on yourself is not good either. Take small steps and you can certainly make a difference. I have been running for the past few months, which has helped me, but its something that I really enjoy doing as well. Glad that your doc gave you a certificate to work pt for another 4-weeks. It sounds like your body really needs it. Take care
Hi Beata, my AP appointment is now on Friday, so I am looking forward to that and doing something positive towards helping the cause Cheryl, it is good to read that you felt AP really helped you conceive Ryan. I was wondering when the best time was to actually do AP, and it sounds like just before O and around implantation time. I'm sure my AP will tell me the best routine to do, but I am so keen to get started and I will be seeing her about CD9, so about 5-days before O. I might ring to see if I should bk in a 2nd appointment closer to O. I'll let you all know what I thought next weekend.
Hi Teagz, I'm glad you had a good holiday and it sounds like things are going well for you, so that is great to hear. Unfortunately AF did arrive so no cigar this month for me. Make sure you drop in and say hi to us ttcers. I hope there are tumble weeds in here too soon and were all in the pg thread or parent thread!
Diana, how are you? I am a bit concerned about you. We haven't heard from you in a while, I hope I haven't missed anything. Take care of yourself.
Haven't been on in ages, but wanted to pop in and wish all of you luck and cyberhugs where needed. Yeah, we're still TTC, just taking the month of June off (dh goes on a business trip every March, and it would be hard for me to have a baby at that time.) http://forums.bellybelly.com.au/foru.../eusa_pray.gif for everybody!
Hi Berry and Beata - thanks so much for your support and words of wisdom. Yes, you are both absolutely right - it is 12 weeks today since Ryan was born sleeping. I feel like I have come a long way, but there is still a road yet to be travelled. I managed to get back on the treadmill yesterday morning for 30mins, and felt so much better for it. Had great plans for today as well to do some pilates or yoga, but too cold and too tired. DH was up at 4.50am (and therefore so was I) to catch a flight for work! Spoke to my TCM lady today and had b/t done, even though no AF yet. She wants to know my FSH levels. The b/t included B-HCG, but I don't expect anything there as another POAS today showed a BFN. For now I am just focusing on being healthy - eating well and doing a bit of exercise 3 or 4 times a week to start. Nothing too much, just gently easing back into it. I enjoy running as well, tho' I'm not very fast! And was enjoying that before I fell pg, so I am keen to get back into my fitness routine again and I know the weight will just fall off once that happens.
Anyway, must go and cook dinner. DH should be home soon!
Take care all
xo
hi girls sorry that i have been missing but a lot has been going on this will be a short post as i am still trying to get my head around that my husband has left me. I have moved home with my parents for the moment but i am hoping that with time we may be able to make things work out. I will try and catch up with everyone in the coming days.
Dee, I am so sorry to hear that hun, I just want to give you a big hug I can't imagine what you must be going through. You both have been through so much with losing Chloe and the stress of IVF and they are just the things that we know about. I really hope that you work things out as well. Hopefully you are able to see a councillor together when the time is right. Know that we are all here for you no matter what you are going through. Thinking of you hun & take care of yourself
Cheryl, good for you for starting exercising and eating better. Sorry to hear that AF still hasn't shown her face. Are you going to start the extra strong herbies soon? Sounds like you are getting good 'medical' advise.
Hi TM, great to hear from you hun. Sorry to hear that you are still on the ttc train, but since you are, come and join us in here, its been so quiet lately, would be nice to have more company, but hope your journey is short at the same time
Hi Beata, hope you are well and that you can pinpint O in preparation for the big tranfer next month, can you believe it!
I'm just waiting for my AP appointment now. Feeling a bit down about everything the last few days, but hanging in there as there is nothing more I can do and there is still a lot for me to be grateful for
Dee, noooooo!!!!!!! Oh hun, I am so sorry you're going through this difficult time. I really hope & pray everything works out for you hun. Just know that I'm thinking of you and I'm reaching across the computer screen to give the biggest hug possible ! Chin up hun, we're always here for you .
Cheryl, I'm gald that you've got some positive goals to focus on, I know exercise and eating well can't hurt, lol! I've been very slack in both departments You have made some excellent progress hun, keep it up and you'll get your much wanted BFP sooner than you think!! Big hugs hun.
Megan, so looking forward to your post after you have your AP app. on Friday. I am hearing more and more about how beneficial AP is with fertility and particularly IVF. Hang in there hun, the journey will be so worth it in the end when you see those two lovely lines on that pee stick!!!!!
Well, the ovulation test confirmed O today, so I must be ovulating soon (they say in the next 24-36 hours). At least I know I 'O' on day 17. How's that?????!!!! All this time I was going for gold between day 13 and 15 ...
Tempus moriendi, welcome back!! Good luck in your TTC journey hun, I hope to hear some exciting news from you soon!!!
Bec, how is that horrible cold weather??!! I don't think it can get any colder than this. They say it might snow up in the Dandenongs tonight! Grrrrrrrr!!!! Extra blankies for me tonight..
Teagz & Nae, hello there! I hope all is well with you lovely ladies xxx
Diana, big hugs sweetie, hang on and chin up, I'm always thinking of you xxx
AFM, apart from pinpointing my O, yeepee!!! my DF still hasn't got back his police check thingie which we need in order to proceed with the next IVF cycle (this is compulsory from 1 July). I am a bit worried. I got mine back pretty quickly, but my DF has a very common name and apparently there are a lot of people with his name in Australia, and because they have to check each state, it's taking longer. I'm praying this thing will come in the post soon, as we might miss our cycle otherwise
I need to lose about 8kgs to get back to my pre-pregnancy weight, but ideally would like to lose 10kgs. But I just can't seem to summon the energy to get started. Maybe tomorrow!
that would be the best ever birthday present for me! I hope you manage to figure out your O day. I never had much luck with OPKs but am thinking I might try them again, along with charting. All without driving myself nuts hopefully!
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Cheryl, it is good to read that you felt AP really helped you conceive Ryan. I was wondering when the best time was to actually do AP, and it sounds like just before O and around implantation time. I'm sure my AP will tell me the best routine to do, but I am so keen to get started and I will be seeing her about CD9, so about 5-days before O. I might ring to see if I should bk in a 2nd appointment closer to O. I'll let you all know what I thought next weekend.
You have made some excellent progress hun, keep it up and you'll get your much wanted BFP sooner than you think!! Big hugs hun.
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