TTC AFTER Late Loss/Recurrent Miscarriage/ Stillbirth

[Samcougar]

Aries, welcome back hun, I'm so pleased you

have decided that we are back on the bus - so to speak!

I hope you are enjoying your holiday.

Teagz, LOL If I waxed DH eyebrows his eyes would pop out of their sockets!! He wont even let me near him with tweezers after i found a stray hair growing out of his nose (It was so gross, i nearly died when i seen it!) anyway I plucked it out when he wasn't expecting it and he nearly went through the roof!!

Bec, Im sorry work was rough on you on your first day back, I have been back for 16 weeks now and some people (particularly the men) are a bit funny around me when we are talking about babies. But it does get better each day

Chez, I hope your holiday is going well


well there isn't many of us left ttc now so it must be our turn
Not much happening with me at the moment, just waiting to O , I'm glad i brought an OPK it makes things so much easier (DH thinks we sould DTD everyday just in case) boy have i got news for him!! (thats not going to happen)

Oh well girls, have a lovely day
my love to all..

Lots and lots of to our preggy mummas
and lots and lots of for all of us left

Bec

[helle]

(DH thinks we sould DTD everyday just in case)

Been there, done that. If only it was that simple!
You gotta give 'em points for trying though

[Miss.B]

Hi girls,

Teagz, wow! Won't be long till your wedding now hey? I think you said October? I'll have to stalk you on FB to see all the lovely pics, maybe I'll get some idea for mine? hehehe. Your gifts sounds so cute, I honestly wouldn't have a clue what to do for mine. I'm starting to think I will be engaged FOREVER My scan went went hun, measuring exactly for dates which is good.

Samcougar, lets hope you get your BFP very soon, good idea with the OPK's they are very good and take the guessing out of the whole thing.

Lots of for you girls!

My love and hugs to all and I'll keep lurking on you guys!

B xxx

[blessedatlast]

Hi Everyone,

I have missed BB! My computer has been out of action.. Still doesn't work properly! Anyway, I had a quick scan of posts.. Way too many to catch up on, so this is where I am at: I went off the pill end of May and have finally stopped bleeding for more than a week at a time, so I am REALLY hoping my cycles are getting better. I Started TAFE doing Aged Care and loving it. It is good to have something to think about other than Taite and Seth and TTC.. I finish my course in Nov and HOPE to be pregnant then or soon after.. Fingers crossed for me!

[Aries]

Hi Ladies

Thanks for you warm welcome backs! I didnt expect to be gone such a short time, but hubby had other ideas and I secretly am very pleased

Just a quick post what do you think about these pains Im having? I am 4 DPO and am having really weird tugging sensations around both ovaries, one is actually quite painful at times! Way too early for a pg test and ovulation test isnt picking up a surge which I wouldnt expect anyway due to ovulating last Saturday. So I am quite concerned. I had these sensations or quite like them when I fell with Alexander but I also had them when I was getting AF last month. The only two things I can think of are did I ovulate earlier than predicted or have my cycles changed to really short ones and am expecting AF anyday I hope not cos it only finished last Tuesday! Strange tingles in my bb's too. I am not expecting you to say anything as it is too early but has anyone else experienced this at all?

Thanks in advance

[Berry1]

Hi Blessedatlast, congrats on starting the Tafe course, good to hear you are enjoying it. I think it helps to keep your mind of ttc & our angels as well, it can get quite overwhelming at times, but seems like you have some great direction & plans. I really pray you get your BFP soon

Aries, glad that you weren't gone for long . Not sure about the pains you are experiencing, but I wouldn't be too concerned right now. If your cycle's are usually regular, I am sure you did O. I'm fairly sure I have had similar pains in the past. I really pray there is an attachment happening, that would be rather nice, wouldn't it Take care & keep us posted.

Beata, hope you are feeling ok and getting through the m/s. I seem to get mine at night right when I am trying to get to sleep.

Samcougar, I really pray you catch the egg this cycle, all the very best

Teagz, sound like things are going really well for you hun, wedding bells aren't far away and sounds like your little guy is growing nicely. I read somewhere that you are expecting a boy! congratulations!

AFM, I am still stalking you guys all the time. I have my NT scan in 2-weeks, can't wait to get past that stage. Still praying for a really good result this time

[Berry1]

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[Miss.B]

Hi lovelies,

Welcome back blessedatlast! I'm glad you're joining this thread, and hope you get your BFP very soon. All the best on your journey hun and I hope it's a short one!

Aries, those pains could be O pains. In my last cycle, I O'd on Tuesday (as I had to do the ovulation test for the FET) and I had these weird painful stabs around my right ovary. I don't know if I told you, but 2 days after I O'd I was in so much pain I broke out in a sweat and almost fainted and thought my FET would get cancelled. I rang the IVF nurse and she told me it's O pain most likely. Are you using the O testing kits? They are very good at showing you when you actually O.

Megan, I am more than sure that everything will be fine with your NT scan. Will keep my fingers crossed for you, but you won't need it! I hope all is well with you otherwise, my m/s seems to be improving and I went to see the AP yesterday and will continue to go until I feel better.

Bec, hope you're feeling good and have a sticky one on board

Samcougar, how funny is your DH! I went through the same thing, my DP thought we'd better DTD everyday for 2 weeks around O time in case we catch that eggie. Needless to say, it didn't happen, haha. Praying you catch your lovely eggie hun

Teagz, you must be coming up to your big scan hun! Can't wait to hear all about it.

Cheryl, I hope you're having the time of your life on your holiday, and getting plenty of action hehehe

AFM, feeling a bit better, just plodding along and can't wait until the weather gets warmer. Work is OK, now that I will be leaving in Dec probably, I am just plodding along and not getting stressed anymore. It's funny as I planned to go on mat. leave in Dec last year as well, so I feel like I have come the full circle.

Big hugs and hi to anyone I missed

B xxx

[helle]

Teagz, you must be coming up to your big scan hun! Can't wait to hear all about it.

Hey, yeah I had it yesterday
I have actually been having monthly scans to keep an eye on any signs of hydrops reoccuring (fluid build up in the internal cavity) and so far everything is excellent. But yes, the big one was yesterday and everything is looking spot on which is reassuring and bubs is measuring a week ahead of dates. And He is definately a boy - i have photographic evidence now
While I was having the scan though the guy doing it paused for a moment and gasped quite shockingly, and i thought he'd found something wrong... but he was gasping becuase the computer had just told him he only had 2G of memory left Gave me quite a nice shock.

And Thanks Berry! Yep another little Boy. Everyone was sure we were having a girl so it was quite a surprise/shock!

[Berry1]

Teagz, fantastic news about the scan, I am sure it was a huge relief to have it confirmed that all is well.

Beata, glad your m/s is settling down, mine has as well, which is good. It will be nice for you to finish up at Christmas time. When is you EDD? must be close to mine, 11 March?

Hope everyone is well. Praying that we get some more BFP's in here very soon

[Aries]

Hi Ladies

for our mummys to be and lotsa for our ladies in waiting!

My pains seem to have slowed down now - still there but not as bad now. 6 DPO today so I will just wait it out. Could it go any slower??

How is everyone at the moment? Anyone in the TWW?

Take care

[Berry1]

Hi Aries, I hated the TWW. I really pray that this is your month hun and the waiting is over Re; your question about the O type pain, I remember reading somewhere that you can still get O pain up to a couple of days after O happened. Not sure if that helps and it may pay to do some reading on it yourself if interested to confirm.

Hope everyone has a wonderful weekend.

Praying for the TTC'ers to be UTD soon

[mummabec]

Hi everyone,

Aries, it goes sooo slow doesn't it? And you can't do anything to make it happen faster, work better... grrrr. Hope it speeds up a bit and I'd love to hear about a BFP.

Teagz, that's great. LOL about the ultrasonographer gasping. I'd have burst into tears probably!

Beata, ikwym about work. I'm just going to put my head down and bide my time. It's like who cares - I'll be out of here soon enough anyway. Might be a bit different to last time though - I'm sure there will be no farewell afternoon tea. Not unless everyone would like to spend an hour watching me sob! I finished at christmas time last year too. It was a really good time to leave.

Blessed at last, welcome back. I hope you will be blessed again very very soon. The tafe sounds like a really good idea. Be gentle with yourself if you have any trouble concentrating. I've been useless this year but we've all been through so much. It's an achievement to get out of bed in the morning and go through the day imo.

Bec, yes it's definitely your turn! I think we started TTC at the same time. We joined this group at the same time anyway. I will be absolutely rejoicing with you when you get your BFP. Same goes for all still waiting. Can't wait to hear some more good news!

Berry, that's great about the m/s. Good luck with the NT scan. I haven't had one with either of mine but I think I will this time as I worried during Luca's pregnancy.

AFM, Has anyone else thought about how they would feel if their subsequent baby was disabled in any way. Because Luca was perfect I do worry about it - could I love that baby or would I want my perfect baby back even more? Generally I don't see my next baby as a replacement baby or a lesser baby but I don't know how I'd feel if he or she was not as whole and perfect as Luca, and it makes me feel bad to even think it.

I'm plodding along ok. Feeling exhausted but only vaguely queasy all the time. Only 10 weeks until my thesis for my masters is due so I'm pretty much starting to do that in all my spare time (spare time ha ha). Steve has taken Eliana to visit his mum in the country this afternoon so I've got some time to work on it now.

The memorial service at the hospital was really good but I can't say it magically healed my feelings towards them - after all the clinicians don't go to the service. It was for all the parents whose babies had died there in the past year and there were lots of people there

I'm seeing my grief counsellor tomorrow. Try to work on that guilt a bit more. Sigh. I've done my homework so hopefully it will help.

xx Bec.

[Samcougar]

Blessedatlast, welcome back, fingers crossed for you hun and goodluck at tafe, it sounds like you are really enjoying it.

Teagz, great news about you scan hun, everything looks like it's going well.

Berry, goodluck with your NT scan everything goes well.

Beata, Good to see that your trying not to get stressed, It's really not worth it anyway.

Bec, I really don't know what to write here to help you but I hope this helps, It's not quiet the same situation though. My Nan has a disabled son (my Uncle) he's 45 now. I had a chat with her today about how you feel and she said to tell you she can understand how you feel but no matter what your child is like, they are still your child and no one can take that privlage away and from the moment you lay eyes on your little one all you feel is love and nothing else matters. Worring about tomorrow can't help today and what will happen, will happen. so live for today.

AFM I have just entered my TWW (i really think we may have caught it ) damn my long cycle i wish i had a 28 day instead of 35 arghhh... anyway it was our 1st wedding anniversary yesterday, I had to work but when i got home DH had cleaned, washed and cooked a really nice tea for the both of us (he's such a sweetie) he even got a bottle of fake wine (just in case)

anyway enough from me i hope everyone has a great week

Bec

[Aries]

Good morning ladies!

Samcougar - congrats on your TWW, I hope it goes quickly for you and gives you some great news at the end. Oh and huge congrats on your first wedding anniversary!

Mummabec - My DH and I had this discussion just the other night. When Alexander was born we found out that he was perfectly formed for his age, no abnormalities or anything. When I was pg we had every test given to us and they all came back in the low ranges. I asked DH the other day about our next little bundle and I wanted to know what he would do if the baby wasnt as healthy as Alex? His answer (which was what I had already decided too) was that if we are blessed to have another baby then we will have what we are given.
I dont think a new baby will ever replace the love you have for Luca but I also think you will have so much love to give that it will not matter in the end. Dont feel bad, Im sure it's all part of the process

Blessedatlast - Good luck for your course and TTC in Nov - fingers are crossed for you!

Hi to everyone else, I hope you had great weekends and an even better week.

AFM - I am 9DPO today and am feeling very hopeful. Just waiting it out...... so hard but I can do it. I will NOT test until I am officially late, that being Sunday onwards. I was thinking if we are pg then I was wondering how hard it would to keep it to myself and tell DH on Fathers Day in a couple of weeks? Does anyone think this is wrong, should I tell him as soon as I find out? Gotta be pg first...........

Take care

[Samcougar]

Aries, I think that telling DH on Fathers Day is a really great idea! What better present could you ask for!!

[Aries]

Hi Ladies

Its been very quiet in here of late, I hope everyone is well.

Due for AF yesterday and have no real signs of her coming so I will just sit back and wait I think. Not rushing in to anything, I dont want to test as I dont want to know yet!

Anyone near to testing?

Take care

[Samcougar]

Oh Aries hun I really really hope AF stays away for you! I have everything double crossed for a BFP for you when your ready to test!

Oh and I love your Avie hun