TTC AFTER Late Loss/Recurrent Miscarriage/ Stillbirth

[Miss.B]

Hi Bec,

Hopefully you got a sticky one this cycle! GL hun. On the topic of ovulation kits, I've tried Maybe Baby and you suppose to put a bit of saliva on the lens and then this light shines on it and when you see a distinct fern pattern, you're most fertile. Except, I saw this fern pattern almost every day, so I never knew when I ovulated. I have heard though that it did work for another girl I know. Maybe it's just me....

I used the clear blue ovulation thingie last month and it was fantastic, but expensive. You get 7 sticks to test, and when you're about to 'O', you get a happy face so there is no guessing if you've got that second line or not (just like on a HPT). I paid $50 for it, but shop around as they are usually $70.

The other ovulation kits are around $15-25, and you read them like a HPT. When you see the second line (I think it must be comparable or darker than the test line???) you are about to 'O'.

Good luck hun, I hope you get your BFP and you won't need these!

B xxx

[Berry1]

Hello,

I know I'm on holiday but wanted to quickly drop in to say I got a huge surprise this morning when I got a BFP Didn't expect it in the least as I really thought AF was on her way, but lo and behold there was that beautiful second line. Feeling very excited and also nervous as I go through those fragile first few weeks.

I really pray that others join me soon Thank you to all of your for your well wishes, it certainly means a lot and you are the first to know our happy news

Will catch-up on you all soon. Take care.

[Miss.B]

OMG! OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh sweetie, you have just made my day !!!!!!!!! WOO HOO !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am beyond excited for you hun!!! I knew it would happen soon for you sweets, I am so over the moon for you hun! You have been so patient and you deserve this BFP so much!!! Huge congratulations hun and wishing you a H & H 9 months !

Lots of love and hugs

Yeepee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

B xxxxxxxxxxx

[helle]

OMG! OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh sweetie, you have just made my day !!!!!!!!! WOO HOO !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am beyond excited for you hun!!! I knew it would happen soon for you sweets, I am so over the moon for you hun! You have been so patient and you deserve this BFP so much!!! Huge congratulations hun and wishing you a H & H 9 months !

Lots of love and hugs

Yeepee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

B xxxxxxxxxxx

Oh berry, hun I'm so happy for you I'm in tears! *sniff* (blames the hormones)
You have been so patient and deserve this so so much!! I'm wishing you the best and healthies AND happiest 9 months!! and Congrats to your DH too. What a lovely start to your holiday. So tell me, did you almost fall into the toilet?

Beata, not even 2 weeks for you left to wait, babe! I hope July is The Month for everyone! Bring on those little Autumn babies! xxx

Chez, Mummabec & Aries

[Berry1]

Teagz & Beata, thank you both for your lovely words, I am over the moon, just need to get through the first trimester and NT scan to rule out chromosome problems like last time, but all in all DH & I are wrapped.

I'm really praying that you join me Beata, like you said both of us in July

Hi to Cheryl, Bec, Dee & Aries.

[Miss.B]

Hey Megan, I still can'd believe about your wonderful BFP and you can't wipe the smile off my face! Looking forward to catching up with you when you get back, have a lovely time away and enyoy this wonderful time with your DH!

I hope I can join you soon hun, maybe a BFP is around the corner for me too!!

Teagz thanks hun, lets hope your belly rubs off on me too!

Hi to all & big hugs.

B xxx

[mummabec]

Berry!!! I've got tears in my eyes hearing your wonderful news. That's just the best.

Beata, thanks for telling me about the different ovulation test options. Very very helpful as I had no idea. My CM was a bit more obvious this month but still hard to rely on for timing (and probably hard to rely on for fertility too unfortunately).

Big wave to everyone else!

AFM About half way through the TWW. No spotting as yet. Went and saw the natural fertility woman again and she said my last cycle was fertile despite the spotting. Timed BD much better this month so hopefully...

Had a cry today when I heard that my friend's daughter just lost her little boy. She was due at the end of this month. I feel so sad when I hear about another woman going through this. I gave him all kinds of unsolicited advice about support from SANDS and SIDS and Kids, creating memories, and what he should and should not do and say! I just couldn't help myself. I've never met her but I'm hoping he'll give me her address so I can send a card. A friend of a friend of my sister's did that for me just after Luca died and it meant a lot because we didn't know anyone who had had a stillbirth.

Baby dust to all and sticky dust to Berry.

xx Bec.

[Aries]

Congratulations Berry! What fantastic news, I am thrilled for you take care on your holiday - try to relax!

Thank you Bec for your welcome - it means alot. Taking the positives is the only way I can deal with this at the moment. My biggest thing that I have learnt is that DH & I feel as though we can do ANYTHING now.... My goodness I thought we were strong and in love before - it feels as though our love has deepened 100%. Gosh that sounds corny when you read it back! Hopefully you know what Im getting at!!

AFM - I have ovulated so AF shouldnt be far away.... if we havent caught the eggie

Hi to everyone - my thoughts are all with you for some July BFP's!!!

[Samcougar]

Hello everyone,

Berry- Congratulations!! Wishing you a H & H 9 months!!

Bec- I'm sorry about your friends daughter, it must be so hard for you. I'm sure everything you did for them will help.

Aries- That dosn't sound corny at all, my DH and I feel the same way. It's great you can pull together at a time like this.

AFM- Well I have been floating around keeping an eye on everyone. I just didn't feel right being on this thred when we wern't ttc, anyway it finally feels right to start now. I'm so excited but i feel a bit sad, really scared and a little guilty, it might sound strange but i somethimes feel that trying again i'm going to replace Riley, but i know in my heart that's silly. I could never replace him. Did anyone else feel the same??
Anyway i better stop rambling..

My love to all and lots and lots of to everyone

[mummabec]

Hi Samcougar, welcome back!

On feeling guilty, I haven't felt guilty as such about replacing Luca but I've felt guilty about having the wrong feelings towards our future baby. Sometimes I catch myself thinking of our as-yet-to-be-conceived baby as 'he'. I never would have done that with our first two, so I worry that part of me still thinks I can get Luca again.

I know you could never never replace Riley and you will always want all your babies, no matter how many more you have.

A grief counsellor I saw said to me: you gave a piece of your heart to your first child, you gave some to Luca. You will give some to another child but it will be a new piece. It doesn't mean that you have to give them part of the piece you gave to Luca. He will still have that part.

I agree, us mums have plenty of love to go around. Enough for all our children.

xx Bec.

[Berry1]

Hello Girls,

I am back from my little holiday, which was lovely the highlight being our wonderful news of course! Thank you to all of your for your support and very kind words. It's so nice to be apart of such a supportive group. We aren't telling anyone until 12-weeks and after the NT scan to ensure everything is alright this time (feeling nervous already), so its great to share this news with you ladies.

I have tried to do a little catch-up.

Bec, I have a Maybe Baby and I found it helpful although I have heard a lot of people do find them difficult like Beata did. If you don't use it precisely then you won't get an accurate result, but when I did use correctly (this also means getting the right amount of saliva on the glass which can be trickier than it sounds), then it can be helpful. I used it alongside doing temps and just didn't stop BDing until I got a clear temp rise & the ferns turned back to dots. I must say that I found temping to be more helpful than anything else. Also, I never got much EWCM either, but after going to the accupuncturist just once it increased significantly. I can't reccommend accupuncture enough to be honest.

Hi Samcougar, welcome back. Good for you for deciding to start ttc, though I can understand all the different emotions you are going through. I think Bec put it quite nicely actually, Riley will always have a special piece of your heart, luckily mums have a big enough heart and plenty of love to go around. All the best hun for a quick BFP.

Aries, I hope that the eggie has been caught and AF stays away for you

Beata, I think your the only one in this thread now (excluding those that drop in to say hi, Teagz ) that has been here since I joined. You have been such an incredible support to me and many of the girls in here. I am praying like crazy that your transfer is successful and you get a lovely BFP this month

Teagz, thanks for popping in and sending your congrat's. You were right when you said that there can still be a chance even when I though AF was on the way and yes I nearly fell in the toliet

AFM, still on a high, getting m/s on and off all day, but cannot complain one little bit. I would love to stay in here and support you all if that is ok, I have grown quite fond of you all

[Miss.B]

Hi lovely ladies,

Where has the weekend gone???!!! I swear, as I get older, the time just disappears right in front of my eyes....

Bec, I'm really sorry to hear of your friend daughter's baby. Whenever I hear of another baby/child passing away, it just breaks my heart. What a wonderful person you are for giving some advice to your friend to pass on about SANDS and Sids and Kids and collecting little momentos, these things have helped me enormously with my own loss.

Aries, GL hun in your 2WW, I really pray you get your much wanted BFP

Hi Samcougar, welcome back hun! It's been a while! I'm really excited that you're TTC ATM, I hope your wait isn't too long. On the topic of feeling guilty TTC another baby and feeling like you're trying to replace the one you've lost, I've felt exactly that in the begining and I still do sometimes. I still often wonder if I got pg with another boy, how I would feel about him and Joshua. Some days, I wonder if I would look at my litlte boy and wonder if Joshua would have looked the same after he was born at full term, and when the new baby is 1, 2, 3 or how ever old, if Joshua would have looked the same. I suppose I will never know, but I feel so cheated sometimes b/c Joshua should be here. He never had the chance at life outside. But I often catch myself thinking about my 'unborn' baby as 'him', how strange. I guess I don't think about possibly having a girl, my mind is still wrapped around a little boy. I know I will love a little girI just as much, but I think secretely I would like another chance of a little boy. Do I sound weird??

Megan, I guess I am the last one not counting Lan (where are you????). Perhaps she has got her BFP and it really is just me!!! Oh my goodness, so much pressure!!! haha.
Thank you so much for your encouragement hun and your prayers, they mean the world to me . Hopefully I will have some exciting news for you soon!
I am praying you have a nice sticky bubs in there and your 12 week scan is all good!
And we'd love for you to stick around and support us hun, you have been an absolute inspiration to us all here

Well, AFM, I will be testing from tomorrow for my surge and off for my bloods probably end of next week. Not long to go now, I am praying with all my might my little embie is a strong, resilient little fighter and thaws out well

Baby dust and sticky vibes to Bec, Samcougar & Aries (no Megan now!! woo hoo!!!!).

Big hi to everyone else, and thanks heaps again for your lovely thoughts, wishes & prayers.

Love and hugs
B xxxxxxxxx

[Samcougar]

Thankyou all for the warm welcome

I know this will be a tough journey and i look at you strong, brave and beautiful women who have been through so much and i know i'm in the right place with the right support and i feel at ease. You are all inspirational people and you all deserve medals! Thankyou all so much.

Luv Bec

[Miss.B]

Hi Girls,

Detected my LH surge this morning, which I'm totally confused about as I was only supposed to start testing from tomorrow (CD12). Glad I tested early as ovulation is hapenning early this month (as opposed to last month when I O'd on day 16/17). So off for my BT tomorrow morning and hopefully transfer might be end of this week. Wish me luck girls

B xxx

[helle]

Good Luck, Beata!!

[mummabec]

Very very very best of luck Beata!

AFM, I'm happy. 8 DPO and no spotting so far!! (I've had mid cycle spotting DPO6 and after for a few cycles now). I'm feeling really good about this month
Also had a bit of an emotional breakthrough the other day. A friend announced her pregnancy and I actually felt happy for her. Yes, happy!

On the other hand, Luca would have been 6 months old this coming wednesday. A milestone I'm a bit sad about and worried about facing.

xx Bec.

[Miss.B]

Hi Girls,

Thanks Teagz!! I tested again today just to double check the surge (the positive result should be still present as the LH surge continues for a few days) but I got a negative result!!! WTF??? Still, I went for my bloods this morning and after I told the nurse about it, she said that if I O'd really early this cycle, I could have caught the tail end of O yesterday....soooooooo, I pray that I haven't missed the boat Will know today I guess.

Bec, I so hope you get your BFP this month! Sounds very promising. Megan felt good about her last cycle and look what happened! And I'm glad you felt OK about your friend's pg, I know that it's not easy, but being OK about is is a positive sign and a step in the right direction.
I'll be thinking of you on Luca's special day, wishing you a very gentle day

Hi to everyone else and Will do more persies later lovelies.

B xxx

[Miss.B]

Hi Girls,

I'm very excited to report that I am ovulating today and FET is going to be Saturday morning. Yey!!!!!! Apparently the surge can be very quick in coming and going on those pee sticks, so I am sooooo lucky I tested yesterday as if I had left it to today I would have missed the boat. So now both super nervous and excited , my hormone levels are excellent according to my IVF nurse. Little embie, here I come!!!! I am so hoping that my embie now thaws out well and latches on will all it's might. Pleeeeeeease God, let it all work!!!!!!

B xxx