Tess - I am so sorry for the loss of your precious Thomas. Every time we have a new person join our group a part of me cries inside, but know that you are welcome and I hope we can help you during this time.

Mel - :hugs: I'd be up for a melbourne meet. Like you I am half way between Melbourne and Geelong so am tipping we are in a very similar areas. That said if you just need a catch up or a coffee-buddy I am here for you. This is my email jmcarey76 @ hotmail.com if you want to get my number. Oh and you wouldn't have to worry about Bridie, if you weren't up to a 1 year old's company I have a fantastic family support network who would be more than willing for some time with her. I find that around the 2 to 3 month mark is hardest because its when the impact of your loss seems to deminish for everyone else and you start feeling like everyone else is say, gee she should be over it by now. THIS IS SO NOT THE CASE, part of you will never be over it, you will just adjust to it and accept it more, and it will only happen with time and how long doesn't matter and isn't anyone else's business, it happens when it happens... a little bit each day. Regarding your counsellor... I would be looking elsewhere, that behaviour is not acceptable. Alternatively if you were feeling strong, I would confront her about it. Don't be scared to ring the CMHN in your area, they are maternal health nurses too and there to help you as well, and will. They should be able to refer you to a beter counsellor for starters and are usually trained in greif councelling themselves. Also they would know of other women in your area who have or are suffering the same loss atm... maybe even know of a support group or be able to organise one. If you have any hassels let me know and I will talk to my CMHN on your behalf, she is brilliant.

OK super busy at work so no time really for everything else I need and want to say... thinking of you all and when I get some time will be back with heaps of personals..

OH work.. Clare - Huge hug for you too sweety. What a mentally defective boss to tell other people your news like that... I'm tipping its a male(the boss)!. Don't forget sweety, emotions and rationale go out the window during first tri... its like the hormonal rollercoaster from hell.

Oh me... getting better everyday, just playing catch up at work. I think I need a sherpa to get the everest of paperwork under control.