TTC AFTER Late Loss/Recurrent Miscarriage/ Stillbirth Sept 2009

[helle]

Hi Girls

Just a super quick hello to you all and I hope you are well. Just to let you know I contacted my FS today regarding missing AF and slight tuggy pains in my ovaries and they have sent me off for a BT. Results tomorrow. I am very excited but dont want to get my hopes up too much .......... too late
Anyway please cross you fingers for us and I hope to post some good news tomorrow!

Hugs to all
xox

[Samcougar]

Aries- oooohhhh I have everything crossed for you!!! Goodluck today hun

Gigi- Welcome to our little thred, I'm so sorry about your little one. I hope being here and being able to talk to these wonderful ladies helps you through this tough time I hope your stay in this thred is a short one

to everyone else i hope everyone is well

my love to all
Bec

[Chez67]

Aries - how exciting for you! I have everything crossed for you and hope that you post tonight so that you don't keep us all in suspense! Another BFP in here would be a good sign.

oxo

[helle]

C'mon Aries... we're hanging out here
I it's some special news!

[Aries]

Thanks ladies for your thoughts but it wasnt meant to be........... again. The nice big follie they saw on the scan turned out to be a cyst as I didnt ovulate at all (cant they tell the diff on ultrasound??). I triggered a cyst!!! So one whole month gone. I am not happy, I have actually found myself quite angry. Not at anything in particular, probably at my body if anything. I havent ovulated on my own since Alex's birth. I dont know whats going on. The signs were all looking good, I think even the FS was surprised!

Anyhow back onto the primolut to bring on AF, scan and then onto the clomid. So we begin again.....

I hope you are all travelling along nicely and I agree we need another BFP in here! Good luck to you all. Will be back later for personals, not really in the frame of mind right now.

Thanks again, you are all wonderful

[helle]

That... is very strange
I'm sorry chick, I was getting my hopes up for you too I can't imgine how disappointed you'd be feeling right now

[Gigi1]

Oh Aries, I am sorry hun. I was really hoping for you.
Love Hm xx

[Samcougar]

Aries- I'm so sorry, I was so hard for you. Big hun!

[blessedatlast]

Hi Everyone,

I haven't replied for ages although I have been lurking, have been up and down emotionally. This time last year I was a mother to LIVE twin boys.. I wish I still was.. Their birthday was a difficult day anyway, I wont go into it, I have written a little about it on my website and there are a couple of pictures of the balloon release my Mum did.. (No pics of the one we did, I am so angry at myself, but that is another issue)

Anyway, I have actually stopped bleeding for.. wait for it.. 2 DAYS!! I am hoping AF stays away for a while at least.. I can't cope with constantly bleeding!

I have finished my course so am now looking for work.. I hate job hunting, it sux, but I feel guilty now just lazing around at home now that I am not studying or anything. I hope I get work soon. I have put my application in at a couple of Nursing homes around and tomorrow I am going to drive around a few more. I think in person is the best way.

Now for some personals:

Beata: A little boy congratulations

Gigi1: I am so sorry you are in this thread.. I am sure you will get some much needed support as unfortunately we have all experienced a loss. Good luck with TTC..

Aries: I am so sorry.. It sux Nothing else I can say just

Hi to Chez and Samcougar and anyone else I have missed.. to all of us.. I have officially been TTC for 6 months now.. I am getting impatient!!

[Chez67]

Hi ladies

Aries I'm so sorry to hear your news hun. You must be so disappointed. I hope your FS has some answers for you. I understand what you are going through. This is only the 3rd time I have ovulated since March, which just drives me crazy some times. I hope things work out for you very soon and that your TTC journey is not much longer.

Blessedatlast - hi hun. I missed you and was a bit worried. I am glad you are back posting again. And yay for the no AF . That must be so hard on you both physically and mentally when you constantly bleeding. I hope you're taking an iron supplement? Good luck with the job hunting. It can't be easy in the economic climate. And job hunting in person is a really good idea. I have a friend who is a nurse and she would often get work quite quickly by just being there in person.

Hi to Samcougar, Gigi1, Teagz and Beata and everyone else who is lurking but not posting.

AFM - another session of AP today. I think I ovulated on CD11, which is quite early but I am still hopeful. I'm using a fertility monitor so it gave me pre-warning of O day, so we managed to get some BDing in at the right times hopefully. Other than that, am feeling great and enjoying the extra energy that comes from exercising each day. I haven't lost a lot according to the scales, but I have lost 16.5cm in 3 weeks so I am pretty happy about that. Some of my pre-pg clothes actually fit me now, except in the bust which DH is pretty pleased with!

Anyway, must go. Take care all and lots of to everyone.
oxo

[helle]

Hi ladies

Aries I'm so sorry to hear your news hun. You must be so disappointed. I hope your FS has some answers for you. I understand what you are going through. This is only the 3rd time I have ovulated since March, which just drives me crazy some times. I hope things work out for you very soon and that your TTC journey is not much longer.

Blessedatlast - hi hun. I missed you and was a bit worried. I am glad you are back posting again. And yay for the no AF . That must be so hard on you both physically and mentally when you constantly bleeding. I hope you're taking an iron supplement? Good luck with the job hunting. It can't be easy in the economic climate. And job hunting in person is a really good idea. I have a friend who is a nurse and she would often get work quite quickly by just being there in person.

Hi to Samcougar, Gigi1, Teagz and Beata and everyone else who is lurking but not posting.

AFM - another session of AP today. I think I ovulated on CD11, which is quite early but I am still hopeful. I'm using a fertility monitor so it gave me pre-warning of O day, so we managed to get some BDing in at the right times hopefully. Other than that, am feeling great and enjoying the extra energy that comes from exercising each day. I haven't lost a lot according to the scales, but I have lost 16.5cm in 3 weeks so I am pretty happy about that. Some of my pre-pg clothes actually fit me now, except in the bust which DH is pretty pleased with!

Anyway, must go. Take care all and lots of to everyone.
oxo

Unfortunately for you girls I find it hard to lurk and not flap my gums
Just wanted to say, I O on CD11, always. I have a 26 day cycle after Jayvan and, well, hasn't caused me any problems!! It's so good to hear that you're getting loads of energy and you're going great guns with keeping yourself fit and healthy! It must feel good

[Miss.B]

Hello Ladies,

I'm just popping in quicky to say hello to everyone as my home computer has a nasty virus and it locks on me all the time, so I'm doing a super quick post from work....

Gigi, I'm so sorry you have lost your precious daughter I understand your pain as I have lost a son, Joshua, at 21 weeks in Oct 08, and it does take time to heal. I found it very hard to want another baby without feeling the guilt of wanting another baby iykwim. I am currently pg with another litle boy, and I feel so blessed to have another opportunity, I thank God for that often.

Aries, I'm sorry sweetie, as always I'm always keeping my fingers crossed for you, you are long overdue for that wonderful BFP!!

Blessedatlast, hugs to you too hun , when that time comes around marking the angelversary of our angel/angels, it is very hard, but be gentle and kind to yourself as there will be a time when you will be able to give your angel boys a little brother or sister and it will be so very special x

Cheryl, fingers crossed for a BFP for you too hun!!! It's so good to hear that you're feeling positive and great as it's very important to feel this way while you're TTC. Good luck hun, I hope the positive attitude brings you many rewards x

Hi Teagz, Samcougar and anyone else lurking!

B xxx

[cmeglles]

Hi everyone- I just wanted to introduce myself. I had a late miscarriage about 3 week ago at 16 weeks--a little boy named Robert Christopher. Started with contractions---doctor doesn't think it was due to incompetent cervix, or anatomical irregularities, all the cultures came back negative--he said we could start ttc after new years. We are still waiting some pathology results--I dont have another apt til Jan 4th--I was wondering what tests people have had done. Seems like we had a pretty atypical case, but I want to avoid this happening again. Nice to meet you all. Good luck!

[Chez67]

Hi cmeglles

Welcome to our thread. I am so sorry to hear about your loss. We lost our little boy at 18 weeks in March due to a chromosonal abnormaltiy. We only had follow up tests afterwards that confirmed all of that and that it was chance and not any pre-existing reason so I am sorry I can't really help you with your question.

The ladies here are wonderful and have been an amazing source of strength and support for me. We have all suffered loss and understand what you must be going through at the moment. Good luck with your appointment in January. I hope you get some more information and that your TTC journey is a short one.

[Chez67]

Hi Teagz and Beata

Thanks for your wonderful words of encouragement and support as always. And Teagz thanks, I was a bit concerned that O'ing on CD11 was a bit early but you have made me feel better. Everything with my fertility monitor seems to be working like clockwork, which is such a huge reassurance for me that maybe we are back on track again after all this time which would be wonderful. I have had some weird sensations in my pelvic region these last few days, but surely it is too early to be feeling anything? Especially if I only O'd on Tuesday morning (I think I felt the follie burst) as I was going to work?

Anyway, gotta go and get some more domestics done! Have a great weekend.

oxo

[Gigi1]

Chez, I hope this is a good month for you hun.
Thanks for your message the other day. We are all at different stages but it is nice to be here, thank you for your heart felt welcome. I rarely o'd prior to cd13 although in saying that this month it was more like cd12. I'll be! I don't think this month is a good one for me...hope you can pick up the slack and bring in a BFP! xx

cmeglles, Hi sweety and so sorry to hear of your heartbreak in losing a baby. We lost our daughter at about 24weeks and she was born 28weeks and 5 days. She had Turners Syndrome and we waited to give birth to her so by the time she was born, it was a bit too late for certain tests. Thankfully it was visibly obvious of her condition and ob could confirm that it was more likely a fluke than a genetic occurance. We opted not to have an autopsy. The placenta etc were getting too old to grow culture for other tests. So to not answer your question in a round a bout way...I can't help you there either. We could have had an amnio while we waited for her birth but that risked infection while i was carrying her and I really didn't want to be induced.
Again hun I am so sorry for what you have been through, it is devastating. My only advice is give yourself the time you need and talk about it as much or as little as you like...repetition is not a problem here.
Love and wishes for you.

Aries, hope you are feeling ok hun.

[dory]

cmeglles - it's a hard road after a late loss.

I hope you're doing ok. Go gently on yourself.

I am relatively new to BB and I can't post links in because I don't know how, but there are a few "stickies" at the beginning of the miscarriage/loss forum where testing is extensively discussed. It is really comprehensive and I can't do it justice, so I won't try to repeat it here.

I do recommend reading it though. It really helped me. Take notes though because its quite a complex area to get your head around.

The testing recommended depends on your circumstances, but if you have researched the testing available, then you can ask questions of Dr and they can explain why or why not certain tests are likely to be useful.

I have had a raft of testing, mostly bloods but some invasive to assess anatomical structure, and still more to come.

After my first late loss at 22 weeks I immediately wanted to try again, and did. After my subsequent later losses at 15 and 19 weeks, I needed time to heal, physically and emotionally, which actually accorded with the advice I was given. I can't say I am healed, but I am in a much better place now emotionally.

If you have a query about the time frame for trying again, ask, and ask for the reasons why the Dr is recommending that period of time.

Go gently.

[Samcougar]

Goodmorning Ladies!!

Blessed- Your little ones birthday must have been so hard on you
YAY for no AF! Goodluck with your job hunting i hope you find a job soon, oh and congratulations on finishing your course.

Chez- Yay for your weight loss! (i wish i was that motivated ) I have my for you this month.

Cmeglles- I'm so sorry about your loss hun I can't really help you much on the tests but i hope your TTC journey is a short one, and i hope you get the answers you need.

Aries- How are you hun, i hope your going ok

Hello to everyone else i missed, i hope you all enjoyed your weekend.

AFM- well i really don't want to get my hopes up but for the last week i have been getting home from work and all i want to do is sleep, I'm so tired lately and at about 11am everyday i've been getting really queezy. I keep telling myself not to read too much into it (i may be just getting a cold or something) but i can't seem to shake this feeling that just MAYBE????

My love to all