TTC after Recurrent Miscarriage/Stillbirth or Loss after 1st trimester ~ December 07

[Katiegirl]

Hi Jo. I am so sorry that you did not get any answers to your questions. I think this is very common unfortunately. I also got the chromosomal results and they were negative. Whilst I never believed there was anything to find, it still upset me to know that I will never find out what really happened to my baby. I think either way, it would be upsetting. Glad to hear you took the day off work.

I am also not sleeping well, and stay up too late and then have trouble falling asleep. Maybe you could look at a relaxation CD, acupuncture (like Klee mentioned) or yoga. I have always had trouble relaxing, so I think I really need to learn some good techniques.

Take good care of yourself and rest up today. I hope tomorrow is a better day for you. Big hugs.

[tempus moriendi]

jo76: Sorry you didn?t get the answers you hoped for from your OB and sorry you?re going through all these awful emotions. Even though you know it?s perfectly normal with everything that?s happened these last couple months, it?s still painful.

klee: Thanks for passing on the info about the clotting disorders. I was wondering when i should get tested and I won?t see the FS until next month. But I?m way after the 6 weeks and not preg (having AF right now.)

[jo76]

Thank-you so much everyone for your thoughts. i really don't know what i would do if i had'nt found this site, it has become an invaluable part of my healing throughout this.
i ended up speaking to one of my friends for an 11/2 hrs, who has battled with IVF for the best part of 4-5 years now and felt much calmer. I changed my mood to inspired as i feel a little like that for now as if she can get through her pregnancy (the first long term one after more losses than we can remember) with the strength she has been and the positive energy she radiates, i can def look forward to gaining some myself.
Katie-girl - i agree, we sound as though our experiences have been similiar and i hope your new OB next tues is able to help answer any of your questions and concerns too. He sounds really wonderful!
Klee- i have always preferred to look at more natural ways of dealing with things and the accupunture sounds good (or yoga katiegirl). Sleeping tablets were talked about today just to give me a couple of nights to catch up on sleep but i really want to shy away from that as i don't feel comfortable with it. So will look into some different options. And i have never really heard anything about clotting disorders at all??? So have to admit i am a little naive on that topic.
anthonysmum - it really sucks not to have answers but 2008 i hope brings us both some good news!
tempus moriendi - i have always been the "things happen for a reason" person but now that they literally have i too have to convince myself to think this way at the moment. i have always been a very positive person i think that is where i am hitting the wall right now.