TTC after Stillbirth/Recurrent Miscarriage or Loss after the 1st Trimester

[Inanna]

HI Everyone,
I am really sorry for my absence. It's been a bit frantic here. I am feeling really really tired with my DH away. I have been getting to bed late and waking early with lots in between!
I just want you to know that I have read all of the news and I will come back later when I haave some time to talk.

[bailey99]

Hi everyone,

Mel - I am glad for you that you get to bring Nicholas home tomorrow. It will be hard, but at the same time it is a relief. I know that when I brought Asha home, I felt that that is where she should be, with us. But it just isn't fair that we have to bring them home like this is it. I will be thinking of you guys tomorrow.

Lynn - About the dress, I have a skirt that I loved, but I wore it to the hospital the day that I found out that Asha had died, and I can't wear it now. I think I will probably throw it. But that is me, if you feel ok in the dress then you should wear it, if it reminds you of Cooper in a good way, then maybe like Spring said, buy something new to wear with it. But if you will feel bad in it all day, than don't wear it. That is good about the fertility clinic. I'm not sure what goes on there, but you have so many plans in place, there is no way your little eggie's will escape too much longer

Dream - Your son sounds like a wise young man. He seems to have an idea about death and seems to approach it in a mature way. I think that you are doing the right thing by letting him go and see her.

I am going to try and get the little guy to bed, so I will be back on later.

[dream]

Evening beautiful women,

I will start where with what I was going to write, I really want to thank you girls for helping with this decision by sharing your stories it made me know that what I was planning was the right thing, DS also attends a catholic school where going to heaven, god and death are talked about freely so I think this makes them better prepared more so then me! But thank you all once again for sharing your thoughts and experiences with me it means so very much.

Mel I will be thinking about you and DH tomorrow when you bring Nicholas home, I hope the sun is shinning on you all. all my love and hugs :hugs: I think you should have that massage, you have had your darling son and you deserve it more then ever, go and rellax it may help move everything on, and oh maybe do a hpk just to rule out or in?

Lynn Maybe try the dress on for a few hours at home and see how you feel, as spring said Cooper would love to see his mummy look lovley and maybe splash out on new accessories. I dont know, the last two tops I wore when I had my last ultrasounds and found out there was no heartbeat I can never where when im pregnant but have since wore them while not its just a superstitious thing not that it made any differance. But see how you feel.

Bailey Good luck puttting DS to bed trust me in a couple of years its so much easier! they tend to do it themselves......I still need to tuck him in, say prays and 5mins of kisses and goodnight cuddles, I cant help it, in a couple more years he wont want to know me

Oh Mel and Lynn i think every second day till af arrives is a good one, DH misses al that so much I think thats why he is out tonight its just not the same!!! But I do have the old "You cant complain about how much you get" by the end of a month he has had enough! Since I have the chance Im off to bed ....with DS (has this idea that if dad is not home he should sleep with me....oh well) so goodnight all sweet dreams. Nat xxx

[Mel1977]

Well no new phone as yet - did you know it is really hard to buy a phone outright these days? I know, neither did I! You can get them on a plan or on pre-paid, but I already have a plan that doesnt end until November so cant do that. Anyway, I have found most of the phones to be really expensive so I am going to think carefully about which one I want before I buy cause it is too much money to just make a spur of the moment decision (although I have pretty much made up my mind).

Lynn - Its a hard one about the dress, but Bailey is pretty much spot on. If it will make you feel good wear it but you think it will bring back sad memories or feelings then maybe dont. I do agree with Spring though, if you decide to wear it go and treat yourself to a new accessory to go with it. Besides the fact it is always nice to have something new, it might make it feel a little different to wear. Maybe try it on and see how it makes you feel?

Bailey - You are right it isnt fair and definitely not the way any of us imagined it, but I am glad he is coming home cause I do feel like his place is with us. I havent been to eager to get him home until we actually went there a couple of weeks ago, but you know once you make that decision you want it to be now.

Spring - I havent done a HPT and I so wish you could be right, but unfortunately the couple of days bleeding I did have was extremely heavy with lots of clots - actually probably heavier than usual - so there is no way I could be pregnant

Deb - I can imagine how frantic your household would be on your own. As beautiful as children are, they can be hard work - all well worthwhile but nonetheless it makes for a busy life.

Mel

[Mel1977]

Hi Nat, must have posted at the same time.

I use that "you cant complain you dont get it enough" all the time on DH cause to be honest when it gets to the end of O time the last thing I want to do for a few days is , so he tries to tell me that its unfair cause he gets used to getting it all the time and then its taken away... whatever! LOL - he makes out like he is joking but sometimes I wonder

Have a nice sleep with DS.

[Mel1977]

WOW Spring, I just checked out your ticker and lil Spring is 12 weeks tomorrow I know there is no "safe" time but still its a bit of a milestone Finally, you can tell your family - oh your mum is gonna be stoked, and your sis. I bet you are excited, maybe a little nervous too, but I would be dying to let the cat out of the bag.

No more YAY!