Yeah but see thats the thing, it didnt really feel right at the time. Like when things come even close to something like that I kind of try to cover up and then just keep babbling and in the end it just spills out and once it starts to spill I get all nervous and I dig my hole deeper and deeper iykwim. I know what you mean about people not realising what a still born baby would look like, but she has actually had 2 children of her own who are now in their early 20's so I sort of thought she would have a fair idea that a 36 week baby would look just like a baby (as your friend said). But anyway, I sound like I am upset with her but I am really not - I am sure she didnt expect the conversation to go that way and she was probably quite shocked. I will try not to be too hard on myself but I am a little nervous about going in tomorrow What if she has told people? I dont think I could handle all of those "looks"... you know the ones
Anyway I am being a thread hog tonight so I will shut up now
I know the looks you are talking about, but hey, you might be surprised and after having a night to think about it, she might turn out to be a great support and comfort. I am feeling really nervous about telling everyone at work that I am UTD because you can bet the first question will be, it is your first? Have to figure out how I am going to deal with it but I think I might spread the word with a few of the ladies about this pregnancy and Harry and let the word get around.
I hope tomorrow is ok for you and that your aren't too nervous. Just take the day as it comes.
Anyway, I'm off to watch All Saints, I love that show.
Hey, I bet it is a hard thing wondering what to say to people. Its completely up to you what you choose to do but personally I think part of the reason we dont tell people what has happened is because it makes THEM uncomfortable. But I think bugger what everyone else thinks, if they are uncomfortable for a few minutes they will get over it. I think you have every right to turn around and say actually no this is my 2nd child, I already have a son but unfortunately he is not with us anymore. I would be surprised if people asked too many questions straight away, they may come back to you later but I really think initial conversation is the hardest. Remember that this is your life and the things that happen in your life, both good and bad, are the things make you who you are today And we all think your great On the other hand, if the reason you dont want to tell people is because you will get upset talking about Harry, I guess that is a different story.
Enjoy All Saints - I am watching Australias Next Top Model, man those girls crack me up
LOL Spring - how did you manage that? We joined up around the same time and I havent even hit 400 yet!!! You are putting me to shame!!! Well I might just have to step up the pace a little
Mel I think it is quantity not quality as far as my posts are concerned (lol)
About telling work, I just don't want to be crying at the drop of a hat at work. There are a few ladies who I really are starting to trust at work, so I might ask them to come out to lunch and explain all about Harry and that I am UTD. They are really supportive, none of them have kids, two of them won't be having kids I don't think they have girlfriends IYKWIM, but they have been so good to me since I arrived so I trust them.
What if she has told people? I dont think I could handle all of those "looks"... you know the ones
And we all think your great 
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