You make a really good point. As soon as you loose a child you have an instant affinity with other parents in the same situation. I was talking to my sister about all the girls on BB and I said even though I haven't met some of you face to face, I feel like we have shared three lifetimes of friendship together. Does that make sense? It does make you feel guilty though, how naive was I to the ways of the world beforehand. I have lived such a normal (and I guess privileged) life. My parents loved and supported my sisters and I, they love each other and have been married 37 years. I have been lucky enough to receive a tertiary education, I have the most wonderful man as a husband and then CA-POW, I loose a child.
If we are all that little bit more compassionate and understanding as a result of loosing out children then that is a lesson that I am proud to have learnt, no matter how many tears that has cost me. We could have gone the complete opposite direction and become bitter and angry (and I guess some days we are) but I think that the level of support and compassion from the ladies in this group is such a blessing.
Oh and may I say, thank God for the internet. I don't know how people like your Aunty survived without this almost instant support. Give her a hug for me.
My parents are coming for lunch and I have tried my hand at the veggie pasties without supervision by MIL, so must get them in the oven - just wanted to pop in and wish Harry a happy birthday, but I will be back later.
A big thank you to everyone for your thoughts yesterday :hugs:
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