I'm so sorry you're in this situation. My children were IVF and the thought of putting yourself through it and to then be in this situation is heartbreaking.

I fully agree with what the others have said - consider adoption before termination. If you are at all hesitant about termination then I don't think it is an option for you.

Raising kids is hard enough with a loving committed partner, so you are right, it will be very difficult for you on your own. But that is not reason enough to not raise these babies. I'm sure every parent on these boards will tell you that they would never swap their role as parents, no matter how hard they may be.

Your husband sounds like he's just freaked out, which is not unusual. Is there any chance of you getting counselling together so that he can get some help processing things?