shot gun wedding, kinda (minus the shot gun)

[Dansta]

so DF and i are now getting married on November 27th (thursday) this year.
i have a few questions that maybe just maybe you lovely ladies (and any gents) may be alble to help me with...

1) where would i be able to buy a cheapish weddingdress that'll fit me when im say ohh seven and a bit moths preg? that isnt one of the stupid ones i've found on Ebay that'd make my "cute bump" some kind of speed bump or just make me look like im about to topple over becuase it makes it look HUGE? is it possable to just buy one 'off the rack' in a large/plus size and have it seen to by a seemtress (sp?) ?

2) its a thursday. so we're *hopefully* sending out the invites this friday/monday coming. would that be enough time for people to sort out time off work/sleeping arrangements? (it'll be around the 2 month mark) or are we REALLY pushing it?

3) being nov. would it be nice to get married out side or in? the place we have booked has both options and im just wondering what others thoughts are? keeping in mind it'll be at around 5:30 in the evening...

4)is it ok to beat my soon to be mother in law with a book becuase she's already started telling us no one will show up becuase its a thursday?

TIA.
- Blip
Ohh and im already showing...its not HUGE but its a bump...

[Ben01]

1) You could try good sammies or the salvo's for the dress.. they are very cheap
2) depending on how many ppl your inviting, being a thursday i wouldnt expect a good turn out, especially with only 2 months notice.
3) id say take your pic, weather would generally be okay that time of year.
4) no, i think shes right on the money!!!

Good luck

[Phteven]

It's ok to beat your MIL but why stick at a book, maybe you can get a tuna to smack her around with or some wet noodles.....

My sister got married on a tuesday because it was the only day she had free and most of the people she invited came - it's not that hard to get a day off work. If it's on a thursday night even better - lots of people will have a good excuse to take friday off too and have a 4 day weekend lol.

Outside might be nice but it's always nice to have some shelter if it's too hot or it rains.

[Lisa]

My DH & I married in November, and the day before our wedding was perfect! Warm, sunny just perfect, and the day of our wedding, it pourded down rain. I have been told that November is one of the most unpredicable months for weather.
Went sent our invites out with 2 months notice, but that's because everyone knew the date anyway and had put it aside.
As for the dress... look in cheap shops also. There is a place that sells fairly cheap formal wear that can come in white/ivory etc and some of the dresses are $100 or so.
I just asked my DH and he agreed that we would definitely attend Thursday wedding... I think most would.

All the best!

[Lulu]

3) Careful of November weather in Melbourne! My day was a bit grey but I didn't mind so much as its waay better for the photography. Have a lovely wrap jic.

4) Absolutely find something 'borrowed' to belt the MIL with. I like the tuna idea but it might be a bit smelly. Could you make a second bouquet, load it with rocks and PELT it at her? Just remember to look shocked when she goes down and blame the florist.

I'd go to a wedding no matter what day of the week it is. Its your choice and who'd be so cranky to whine about it? Take a day off work people! 2 months is just about right for the invites, I did mine about then to cover the interstate guests. It chasing the RSVPs that will drive you mad anyway.

[Joeve]

HI,
Google second hand wedding dresses there are a few sites around and maybe you might find one that has been made for just a wedding the same as yours!
I agree inside and outside options either way because of the weather.
Thursday is fine, we would take a long weekend!!!
Maybe you should not invite your mother in law and tell her you did not want to inconveniance her because you know she would never attend a wedding on a Thursday because she told you that once

[DaintreeDream]

1) I am not too much help as to where you would buy a dress, but I would suggest a maternity dress as it compliments your bump alot more than a large size dress taken in. I wasn't very big at all at 7 months pregnant and still sleeping on my tummy, everyone is so different so it is so hard to tell about sizing,

2) Yeah ok it is a Thursday and late notice for some, however if it offers any hope, I received an invite last week to a wedding in Perth (I'm in Melbourne) and the wedding is November 29th, I have a 3 month old daughter that was in hospital until 4 weeks ago, and yes I am going to the wedding! If they are true family and friends they will be there no matter what.

3) An outside wedding is always nice, but then you can never predict the weather - is it a chance you want to take? Maybe you could hire/buy (you could re-sell on ebay) a small gazebo (you can get them cheap at Big W and they are nice iron with cream canvas), this could at least be a cover for the bridel party if it rains a bit (everyone else can use an umbrella, he he)

4) Yeah why not - it is your day, not hers - don't let anyone ruin it for you!

I wish you the best of luck

[mrsmac]

I got married at 4 months pg with DD2 and my mum made me a really lovely dress, I wasn't showing much though. She made a failry plain under dress then a really soft floaty overdress (I am bad at explaining but it looked lovely)
My bro is a wedding photographer and he is seeing more and more mid week weddings,I think with that much notice people can organise something, and if they don't bother you have weeded out those who aren't that interested!
I would have alternate arrangements to just an outside venue in case the weather is bad.

[Dansta]

thanks for the replys!
the place we're going has indoors and out doors. they only do one wedding aday which is nice! and with that DF can make a call 10 mins before we start as to where we'll have it!

as for the dress, i'll have a look around, most of the chain bridel shops dont have mat. dresses which is annoying but we'll wait and see.

i can understand that some people may not be able to attend. i know some of my family who live in south gippsland and work on farms may not be able to. i also know DF's family from near ballarat may not be able to as well. but i do think if people want to come they will. (long weekend any one?) if they dont then so be it. i know that friends of ours got invited to a wedding a month or 3 weeks before DF's brothers wedding (they made it
bl00dy easy to see who was 'b' listed!) and people made it!

dachlostar- tuna ay? would i even be able to lift such a hevy fish? or maybe go to the place before hand and rig up a fish slapper that she can walk into and i can be all " i dont know how that got there...."

lulu- i told DF if his SIL in came i'd need a second or maybe even thrid bouquet, becuase i'd need one for his mother and one for his SIL. as for the rocks i dont want to add to what seems to be rocks in their heads. besides...i dont want blood on my dress!!

joeve- BWAHAHAHA that is so true. besides she's just assumeing. people dont always do what we think! plus she's the one whoes all "blahblahblah children AFTER getting hiched!" (thus im 21 weeks and the only two people who know besides DFs mum and dad are his brother & his wife and a 2nd cosen we told!)

[Karina]

Maybe you could get a top + skirt outfit if you have no luck finding a lovely dress.

I'd go to a thursday wedding. Its not THAT hard to take one day off work. And if I couldnt get the day off, I'd just call in sick. lol.

[Pandora]

look on maternity sites/shops for formal dresses. A lot have them, and I've definitely seen one that comes in white and looks lovely. Thats if you want to get married in white - I got married in pink
On a friday, at 5:30.

My friends MIL got married at lunchtime on a Thursday! People stil came.

ETA - i have seen nice ones at egg maternity, szabo, queenbee

[aussienic]

so DF and i are now getting married on November 27th (thursday) this year.
i have a few questions that maybe just maybe you lovely ladies (and any gents) may be alble to help me with...

1) where would i be able to buy a cheapish weddingdress that'll fit me when im say ohh seven and a bit moths preg? that isnt one of the stupid ones i've found on Ebay that'd make my "cute bump" some kind of speed bump or just make me look like im about to topple over becuase it makes it look HUGE? is it possable to just buy one 'off the rack' in a large/plus size and have it seen to by a seemtress (sp?) ?

I had mine made. Admittedly by a relative but still.. and it only cost $70 and semi hid the baby bump but not on purpose as I wasn't out to hide the bump, Just wanted to feel pretty lol

2) its a thursday. so we're *hopefully* sending out the invites this friday/monday coming. would that be enough time for people to sort out time off work/sleeping arrangements? (it'll be around the 2 month mark) or are we REALLY pushing it?

Seems fine to me.. My Wedding was a Sunday..

3) being nov. would it be nice to get married out side or in? the place we have booked has both options and im just wondering what others thoughts are? keeping in mind it'll be at around 5:30 in the evening...

I think a nice outside wedding with an indoors reception... if possible set up fans around the service
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4)is it ok to beat my soon to be mother in law with a book becuase she's already started telling us no one will show up becuase its a thursday?

Yup Mine was ok with my wedding but got SIL to marry her husband 2 days later "because all the family will already be here" So yeh beat her lol

Ohh and im already showing...its not HUGE but its a bump...

Don't stress Who cares what anyone thinks.. If they think you are getting married because of baby then they can go bitw thier bums.. We got the occasional comment about it but hey we know why we got married and thats what matters..

And most importantly of all have a blast

[satya]

1. Buying secondhand will cut the cost but might be a little difficult with a sizeable bump. Leave the dress to a week or two before or you may find it wont fit.

2. I think that's plenty of time.

3. Outside is fine if that's what you want. Is there a covered area you can use if it's wet? If not go for inside.

4. Don't touch the MIL. She could be right, but if she is you will have to fork out a lot less money which can only be a good thing.

[Aimz]

2) its a thursday. so we're *hopefully* sending out the invites this friday/monday coming. would that be enough time for people to sort out time off work/sleeping arrangements? (it'll be around the 2 month mark) or are we REALLY pushing it?

8 weeks is plenty of time! General wedding etiquette says 6 weeks or more.

4)is it ok to beat my soon to be mother in law with a book becuase she's already started telling us no one will show up becuase its a thursday?

DH and I got married on a Thursday! Although we were in the Greek Islands and all our guests were already on holiday anyway. But people will sort themselves out to take time off for your wedding - permission to beat her with a book (or fish, rocks etc) is GRANTED

[LisaL]

Hi sweets,

I think Mat shops are prob your best option given how far along you will be at the wedding. I have seen a couple of nice dresses in Egg Maternity (retail about 300-500).

As far as the day of the week is concerned, if people want to come, then they will regardless. If someone I knew and liked was having a wedding, Id go even if it was at 4am!

Inside or out - can you leave it till the week before the wedding? Then you can check 7 day forecast and decide.

As for the MIL - go for your life, you can beat mine too while your at it

[luna moth]

I just made a white maternity dress. It's cotton, but very pretty

Getting married on a Thursday is the BEST way to cut the unnecessary riff-raff out of your guest list! The people who really really want to be there will be there. The rest will whinge about it.

I personally gripe about getting less than 12 weeks notice to go to a wedding, but it's because I live interstate, and often I can get cheaper flights if I know in advance. An example is a friend getting married in December, I've booked flights down there even though I'm not 100% sure I'm invited - how awkward! I don't want to ring and say "can I come?" but at the same time, she's getting hitched really close to Christmas, and flights get so pricey!

Don't beat your MIL. Buy her a shot. That's what I did. Bar staff insisted I do it after I made her cry at the pub one night. It backfired SO hard at the time, but then it worked out and now SHE'S the one who's embarrassed by her behaviour!

Do what you want. Most important thing.

[DoubleK]

I cant offer much advice on the dress... but im sure there is a beautiful dress out there waiting for you! as around, perhaps you could get one made? doesnt need to bee really fancy, just something that you're comfy in!!

as for the thursday wedding, i think its fine!! my best friend had a friday wedding, at 4pm. dp couldnt get the time off work, but there was no way in the world i wasnt going! so i ook my brother instead! my mum minded Krystal! i think weekday weddings are fine! im not even engaged yet, but i often think id like a casual sunday afternoon wedding/reception, perhaps in a park... but anyway, back to your wedding! i think thats plenty of notice as well... i can never think too far ahead anyway, so when i get invitations months in advance, i have to make notes in my diary 'one month till xxx's wedding' '6 weeks till this...' lol

i wish you the best of luck for your special day!!

[Muffy]

i just want to add that the ebay edding dresses are actually nice - yes i know by experience my sister bought 2!!