Ties at Weddings?

[Onelittleprincess]

Do you remember what guests wore to your Wedding? I couldn't really care less tbh.

Dh's cousin wore jeans and a racing button up shirt. It's in our pictures and I cringe everytime. It was a formal dinner.

I think depends on where the ceremony is and how u wish to be presented in photos. If your not a tie person you can still look awesome in a nice shirt and suit pants.

[briggsy's girl]

i remember who was in jeans at our wedding too! i didn't mind the kids in neat jeans and dress shirts - they initially weren't coming but the babysitter fell through, so it was all they had available - but the adult who turned up in jeans and looked like he hadn't showered in a week - yup, i remember him being there and exactly what he was wearing! there was also someone in tracksuit pants, which really annoyed me at the time, but now, meh, i don't care - it was a reflection of them, not me - and they weren't in any of the photos except random group shots - so i can bypass most reminders of it!

i have never seen DH in a tie - don't know anyone that has - it's just not him. he will wear dress pants and a nice shirt, but a tie - nope! i think it really comes down to both the venue and the couple getting married AND to the individual attending. my DH is not a suit and tie person - 99% of the time he is in shorts and singlet/tee. that's how everyone knows him. so for him to wear dress pants and shirt (either with or without jacket) is HUGE - and no one has ever accused him of being under dressed lol.

[~me~]

Depends what is put on the invite. If they didn't specify, he would probably have a nice pair of dress pants, shoes, shirt and jacket and no tie.
These days, anything goes. Even in the City now, alot of business men do not wear ties.

[Cherished]

It really depedson thewedding but all the ones we've gone to dh did wear a tie

[RhiChiChi]

I think it depends on the invite but all of the weddings we have been invited to have been formal dress, so DH has worn a tie & suit. If there are men at the reception that haven't got ties on, then he'll take it off. My sister is getting married in January & he will be wearing a suit &tie, particularly since he is family & will be in photos.

[Boo Boo]

Depends on the dress code...but DH would wear a tie anyway probably, he likes getting dressed up and so do I. I always say, if you can't get dressed up to a wedding then what can you get dressed up for? We went to a very formal wedding in the Melbourne Cathedral not so long ago and there was someone in jeans - and yep, I remember that! I think you need to follow the dress code, if it says formal and you turn up in jeans then that is being disrespectful to the bride and groom, I would be majorly peed off if someone had turned up in jeans to our wedding, ours was formal. I think, in part, you dress for yourself, but you also need to dress for the hosts/occasion, etc, as you have been invited as a guest and to say that you won't wear something when it states that that is the dress code then if you can't make the effort then maybe you just shouldn't go.

[Mumma T]

unless it's on a beach or something like that DH always wears a tie. His theory is he can always take the tie off but if it's less formal than first thought.

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

I can still remember what most people wore to my wedding, which was over 7 years ago, and people didn't wear anything weird or out of place.

For weddings, even my son wears a suit and tie. That's what you wear for a wedding if you are a boy. OK so DS has about 6 ties to pick from now due to weddings, but that isn't the point - the point is that I get him something special for a wedding. And he wears his tie.

I just don't understand the "I don't like ties so I am going to look like I just don't care on someone else's wedding day" mentality. OK so ties aren't super comfortable - get a shirt with a slightly larger neck then and it will be comfortable. And suck it up - you think our shoes/underwear are comfortable? Get over yourself.

[Boo Boo]

I just don't understand the "I don't like ties so I am going to look like I just don't care on someone else's wedding day" mentality. OK so ties aren't super comfortable - get a shirt with a slightly larger neck then and it will be comfortable. And suck it up - you think our shoes/underwear are comfortable? Get over yourself.

Agree.

And as for the expense, DH wandered into a second hand shop the other day and picked up a nearly new suit for $65....

[briggsy's girl]

I think, in part, you dress for yourself, but you also need to dress for the hosts/occasion, etc, as you have been invited as a guest and to say that you won't wear something when it states that that is the dress code then if you can't make the effort then maybe you just shouldn't go.

To a degree, I'd agree with you - but I personally believe that anyone having a very strict dress code is being somewhat disrespectful to their guests. I understand that the bride (and perhaps the groom) have this image in their head of what they want, but there are some expectations that are just going too far. yup, jeans at a formal wedding, not on, but to expect suit and tie - i dunno - it just seems to be a very high expectation on your guests. they either want you there to celebrate, as the person you are, or they want drones all dressed the same, in which case they should hire people. for some people, wearing certain clothes is just not appropriate - either because it makes them exceptionally uncomfortable or because it's financially not possible. I would likely not go to a wedding where it was essentially demanded that DH had to wear a suit - partially, because i don't feel he should be uncomfortable, and partially because I wouldn't go and spend the money on a suit for a one off wear. And, given DH is a bigger guy, it's definitely not a cheap buy, esp out here - it would likely involve trips to Melbourne area plus the expense of the suit - and to be entirely honest, i wouldn't do that even for family, let alone friends. And that's not just related to us having minimal disposable income at the moment - even when DH was working away and earning 3 times what i am now, we wouldn't have done it - it's just not worth it. there is nothing in my wardrobe (apart from my own wedding gown) that has been purchased to wear as a one off for an "occassion" - when i'm looking at things, i'm always looking at whether it is something i'd wear again at a later time. i don't own a ****tail dress (for example - actually, ANY dresses) and i wouldn't go and buy one to attend a wedding because i know i'd never wear it again and i certainly wouldn't be comfortable, nor would i enjoy myself due to that discomfort. skirt and dress top i could do, but dress, nope. and if someone wanted me at their wedding, they'd have to take me as i am or not have me there at all

[Phteven]

Yes, DH would wear a tie to a wedding unless it was on a beach or similarly informal.