I never thought we would get married, we were together 9 years before we did and for most of that I just wasn't interested in it. I wanted his surname, I didn't like my own and over time I had also realized that I didn't want a wedding but I did want to be married, I wanted to be able to say husband and be his wife (strangely though I find it hard to refer to him as my husband still - just habit I think). DH had said that was too weird for me to just take his surname - so I asked him on Feb 29th. and we got married a year later when I was 28 weeks pregnant, very small informal ceremony. I don't think has changed our relationship at all.