and the best bit of advice I got - get good at saying NO.

"hey, can you come to my awesome scrapbooking party?"

"hey, can you fill in for me at a breakfast seminar on Thursday?"

"hey, can you host a tupperware gig?"

"hey, can you work back late/come in on Saturday and help with whatever?"

No. No I can't, because I'm pretty busy taking care of me, my baby, my marriage, my sanity, and every moment at the moment is precious ... good friends will understand, and good employers will know that they will benefit more if you're happy and healthy