Fire/Janine: I know you are passionate about AP approaches and don't take offence to your post, but I am open to trying just about anything at least once if it works for me I'll keep going. I posted the information on the huggies site for information, some people swear by these methods. I personally can not do it, don't have the tolerance, but it might work for some people. My Mum suggested going to one of those sleep clinics, but I can't even do that, allow someone else to help me get them settled. But this constant hold is killing my upper back.
My little girl is so sick at the moment the only time she is not being held is when she is in the car or manages to fall asleep on the drive, I don't take her out of the capsule until she wakes. I'm getting next to nothing done as I can't manage the sling or the carrier.
I actually asked about the contact thing as my 2 year and 10 month old cries if I won't sleep in the bed with him and at the moment it is hard as DD is power chucking at night so I don't want to have to wake him to change sheets. Like you said DD (baby) comes first as DS has some self soothing ability. Was wondering if it was to continue for years yet as DH keeps saying he wants his wife back.
I'm not doing the best in terms of coping either - to the point that DH and I have agreed that we will NOT be having any more children.