Babies Born August 1st - 15th 2008

[*Beema*]

Squidipa - I would pronounce it Jo-sigh-ah, goodluck tomorrow

Blue skies here today!!

Oh yeah, tomorrow they should have all the framework for the bottom story done, next week is upstairs -

*VENT*
So DH came home from work today and said that MIL is coming down next Thursday and she wants to babysit for the day and that I am to go out for the day and leave some EBM behind for Nakita!

Ok so this was a bit of a surprise to me, would have been nice for me to chose when I was ready to leave her home without me, she will be 10 weeks 3 days/4 weeks corrected, she is doing fine, fully BF'd generally pretty happy bub.

I have left her with DH one evening and went to the movies, but was in tears driving into town and couldn't get home quick enough.

How did you go leaving your little one with someone else for the day? What did you do? I just don't know if I am ready for this and would have preferred it to be me that made the decision, not be "told" IYKWIM.

I would be more than happy for her to come and spend the day with us, but I don't wannt be "kicked out", or forced to leave her!!!

There are times when yeah I need a break and just need to get out for a bit, but I'm just not mentally prepared for this - I was thinking about having to maybe organise something at the end of the month when we have a wedding to go to, and not sure if Nakita can come or not.

Aurgghhhh... I just don't know... any support would be great!!! Ways I can deal with it, suggestions on what I should do...
*VENT OVER*

[TheBear]

Beema - Probably not what you want to hear, but this may not be a bad thing...

I suspect it's one of those things that you are just never really comfortable doing for the first time, and the only way forward is to try it and get better at dealing with it each time.

We pre-booked tickets to a show several months ago, so that we would have a fixed deadline for letting Beth spend the evening with a baby sitter....the show is next week, so she will be 4 weeks old.

You have a week to prepare for it, you can control how it works and what you do - try to come up with some ground rules that you can be happy with, maybe plan a couple of shorter things to do and come back home in the middle of the day to check how everything is going....just try to find some compromise situation that you think you can accept.

[*Beema*]

The Bear thanks for your opinion - I guess I have in my head the end of the month, and was working the logistics out for that, and am I am annoyed that I have been told that this is what is happening, that it wasn't a joint decision.

I am not as fussed with evenings as DH gives her a bottle of EBM anyway, so it is part of her routine and I have found that when we switch the feed we do the bottle it throws Nakita outa wack, so I prefer that when we do that, I am around to read the signs for giving her more or less, determining if there for a top up. Nakita is a pretty routine girl, which comes from being in SC for 11 days, and continuing with it when we were out cos of the need to gaim weight.

And really there are a heap of things I want to get done around the place but can't really do atm - like whipper snippering - I have no chance hearing that baby monitor with the engine going - and we have only just started getting good weather, weed spraying (I don't want to be halfway through and need to pick up Nakita). I think I will be best to go out and do a couple of things then get a heap of jobs done at home while MIL looks after her.

[Arimeh]

Squidipa - I live in Nambour. But I'm happy to come down to Morayfield to meet up next Thursday if you want? And I can't believe a nurse shoved something up your rear end without asking first... helloooo thats shocking!!!

Leasha - I understand about not immediately bonding with your bub - sometimes I still don't feel like I'm DS's mother - and he's 20 months!!!

Vic - I think I need your talents as a LA here - our gardens are a mess and we need to do some serious work before selling!!! And I think I would like to be asked if someone wanted to mind either of my children, but I would be ok with leaving them, IYKWIM? Hey, you should get fluffy mail today

MM - I hope V sleeps well for you today - without you holding him - we had a day like that yesterday I hope you are taking it easy - try not to worry too much about the operation, I'm sure they will only do it if absolutely necessary I hope something happens with that ultrasound?? oh and woohoo for toilet training!! I know who to come to for tips now...(oh and don't know anything about Stanthorpe except for where it is!!)

Pixie - you have every right to feel proud of yourself for what you achieved. Please don't let anything interfere with feeling that - because you own the right to have that.. *mwah*

Sasha - that doona sounds way cool man...are you going to come up the coast and visit us as well? We could all meet up in Brissie!!!

Hi Kel - you should come next Thursday too ..

OK, think i should burp the girl - been feeding for 20 mins and she has only drank 45mls - slacko!!!!!

Well stuck at home today - something wrong with car - bugger!!!!!

Hope everyone has a great day!!!

[thepixie]

When she was born the first words i said was this "how the f*** did she fit in there"

LOL squidipa! my first words when they put DD on my chest were "ew she's so slimy!" that will sound great in the mini-series hey!
Beema - I know what you mean, I wouldn't be too keen on being TOLD you will go out and MIL will look after the baby. But maybe your DH is just trying to give you a break. The Bear encourages me to go up to the shops while he looks after DD, and it is good to remember that you're a separate person sometimes! Besides shopping is sooooo much easier without the stroller, car seat and time constraints. Maybe instead of doing things around the house you could do something nice for yourself like going shopping for some new clothes, getting a haircut & colour/manicure/massage. That's so hard to do with a baby and you have really earned some pampering. Beats whipper-snippering too!
MM bummer about the cold weather, and unfortunately it doesn't look any better today!
Leash - I had a slightly different thing. When they first let her out of NICU, I was too scared to do anything but feed her, change her nappy and put her down to sleep. and for about the first week when we got home I would sometimes think it was all a dream and that she hadn't made it. that was really awful.
Mel - Just
Big to kiwigirl, sasha, kel etc hope you all have a good day!

[2girlz]

Hello,

MM- I have been to Stanthorpe it's sooooo beautiful in Autum. I didn't get to see too much it was a school camp. I would love to go back down on a wine and cheese tasting tour mmmmm wine and cheeeeeese

The pixie- HAHA I thought that about Cadence and I couldn't believe they wouldn't let me wash her for two days!

Vic- sweety I remember how empty I felt when I left Cadence for about 20 mins just to get something from the local shops. But later when she was 6 weeks old I went for a girls night out I really needed it especially after 9 months of pregnancy and the first month and a half of constant feeding washing and cleaning I was able to let my hair down for a night. We lived in Darwin and when Cadence was 2 weeks old the army sent DF away for almost 2 months. Mum and Dad were up and looked after her for that night I went out.
Sometimes it's good to have that YOU time when they are so little cos when they get older it's actually harder to leave them

Mel- A meet up would be great I'll have cadence thats all and she can be a little poo hee hee

Squidipa- HAHA I agree with you new borns are so little but it's amazing how they fit inside your tummy. I was looking at Allegra's head the other night and put my hand over it and said to DF How the Heck did i manage to push that out my hand just fits over the top of her head! I'm shuddering at the memory of her crowning.
How sweet of your hubby to make you a love heart shaped cake, I 've banned DF from cooking anything cos he never cleans up after himself HAHA

Hello to all mums and bubs out there sorry for lack of personals

I'm a bit PO'ed at the moment we were suppose to have a realestate agent come to do an equity Evaluation on the house at 9:45 um that was almost over an hour ago! Not proffesional at all! and now would be perfect as Allegra is asleep better go give Cadence some food she's hungies and so am I

[mountain mummy]

Kel - mmmmmmm wine and cheese!! I could handle that!

I went shopping this morning and on the way, dropped into the hossie, where they gave me not only the u/s reports that had been faxed to them (they too were amazed that a copy hadn't been put in with the films) but also the reports from the x-rays he had there on saturday!! So I think I am well equipped to see this surgeon on Monday now!!

I know this is going to sound gross, but the last few nights, we have had curry for dinner, and the last couple of days, Veygas hasn't had any problems shifting wind (or poo for that matter!! )

Vic - the first time I left my 1st born with my mum was for a whole day when he was 3 months old ... I had an on campus session at uni and wasn't sure on their "baby policy" (spewing when I found out I could have taken him!!) When I got home, he had refused all the EBM I had left, he refused formula that my mum had bought and he had pretty much gone hungry for 12 hours! (poor little tike!)

Squidipa - I haven't heard from my mum at all since Veygas was born, in fact the last time I saw her was in march for Khaemon's birthday ... it upset me at first, but now I'm more disappointed than anything cause I KNOW she's gonna call in about a years time and be all sad about missing out on her grandkids growing up.

My IL's on the other hand want to be here ALL THE FREAKIN TIME ... my FIL rang DP the other night to tell him they were coming up on Sunday (not ask!) and he told them they couldn't and explained what was happening with Veygas (personally I would have rathered he didn't cause I didn't really want to alarm people) and that we didn't want him getting stressed / over stimulated etc so FIL says they'll come on Saturday instead. DP says if sunday isn't good, what makes you think saturday will be ok, and now IL's are all offended that we don't want them here.

Re: Stanthorpe, for some reason, I want to move there ... DP says I don't know what it's like, but when I first moved here (before I met him) I had no freakin idea where the place even was, all I knew is that this is where I wanted to live. I have that same feeling about Stanthorpe now! Call me crazy, but sometimes I just gotta go with the flow!

to Mel, Pixie & Bear, MT, Rachel, Sasha, Leasha, Kel, Vic, Squidipa ... have I forgotten anyone? Oh yeah, Katti, hope you and Shane are doing well ... sorry if I've missed anyone!

[mountain mummy]

Good morning everyone!

OMG, we have gone quiet!!!! :O We even got bumped to page 2!!!

Well, i have been up since 4am - I think Veygas's hernia is giving him grief - he hadn't fed since 2am and spent from 4am screaming, even a warm bath didn't calm him down, but I think it helped a little bit ... got him to feed again at 8am (finally!) and although he whinged a fair bit, I was able to put him back to bed and calm him enough so that he sleeps. I think the panadol I gave him at 6.30am may have helped ...

So I am feeling a bit like a zombie atm, but so much housework to do - dishes to be done, washing to be folded, floors to be steam mopped (they have been neglected for 6 weeks!! aaargh! ) and all I wanna do is sleeeeeeeeeep

Oh well, hope y'all are having a better day than me so far!