Oh Sarah they are all the same, i had a similar "discussion" with my DH on the weekend he does surf boat training 3 times a week then has a carnival on Sunday not even asking if it was ok if we or i had plans and to organise a sitter for Emilia, i wanted to go to the gym last thursday so asked him to be home early so i could go and he didnt get home from work in time for me so i missed out... its amazing its like we are the ones that have the kids and they get to step in for all the fun and laughs! I was peeved too, he apologised and acknowledged i was right... stills drives me nuts though. I am going out with my mummy friends on sat night and im going to have a bloody good night!