Babies Born August 2007 #2

[Kirst11]

Sorry again gals, no personals. I just want to explain about my DH.

He is normally the BEST dad. For the last (about) 6 weeks of my pregnancy, whenever he was home he would take Ardyn and leave me to do whatever I wanted. Whether it be go out, sit and read, sleep...whatever. When he is home now, he does the same and leaves me to look after Bailey. Although sometimes I do miss Ardyn, and wish that he'd take Bailey so that Ardyn and I could have some time together just the two of us. This incident was a 'blip', but it just happened to be a BIG blip.

As far as sleeping is concerned, when it was just Ardyn, I was fine to do all of the night feeds as I would just rest when she did during the day. But now that I can't do that, I am so run down having not slept more than 3-4 hours in a stint for the last 5 weeks. This , and the 'incident' and I went ballistic.

So today we have had a good talk. He has agreed to do at least a couple of night feeds a week (I love the bottle) which will give me a chance to get at least 6-7 hours in a stint a couple of times a week. He is also MORE THAN AWARE of how stupid he was on the weekend, and understand and accepts why I'm pi$$ed off.

He also now understands that I need time with Ardyn. That although he thinks that he is helping by taking her and being 'superdad' it actaully makes it harder for me during the week, as I am the bad guy with all of the rules, and never get to do any of the good things. In fact she told me that she wants dad to put her to bed becasue he's fun and I'm not....noice!!!!!! So this weekend I'm going to get more time with Ardyn.

It's all good. I just slapped him across the head a couple of times.....LOL.

[kungfubecca]

Hi all,

Neuri, my bleeding stopped at 5 weeks. Everyone is different, but there is no need to worry unless you are experiencing pain, clots, fever or an increase in flow. If you do get concerned talk to your gp or ob. But I hear you on being over it. I'm hoping because mine went for so long it means I'll get a longer break before af. I hope you do too.

Shell, I love the night sleeps, not sure if we are going to get many more day sleeps. all i wanted this morning was more sleep and I wasn't allowed. He was tired, but wouldn't sleep and screamed when I left him. So we ended up having a bath together.

Rhiannon,
Xavier doesn't often sleep through the day.
I read everything you said and don't be too hard on yourself. I'm 16dd and since 6 weeks I haven't always been able to tell xavier was drinking. One thing you can try is do a little self expressing just before you put him on that way you know for sure there is milk (just for your piece of mind). I only feel "full" now if he's gone longer than an ordinary feed.
We have had a few cuddle days where all he wants is to sleep on me. If I don't let him or put him in the hug a bub he becomes overtired and wants to eat all the time. then does what you described of attaching, sucking a few times then screaming, or not attaching at all. Similar to us when we are really tired we eat to compensate iykwim, so i figure on those days any sleep is better than none, and I get comfy on the lounge or put him in the carrier. It also means that if I can get him to sleep for a few hours when he does wake up he is actually hungry and has a proper feed and we are on the way to correcting his overtired.
Nappies: I've found (because Xavier seems to have a tiny bum) when we first go up a size in nappies we need to go for huggies for about a pack. They seem to be tighter than the other brands, but then he grows out of them sooner. I know it seems like a waste but if the nappy is leaving gel all over him stop using them. Donate your leftover open packet to the salvos and see if you can return the other un-opened ones.

Krist, men they just don't seem t get it, they mean well but sometimes it causes more havoc. I've been getting quite annoyed with nathan too and I've only got the one, and he doesn't drink so I won't get one of those little blips. It sounds like you need a good full night sleep to get you fully recharged. Sometimes he is doing me a favor and taking xavier when all he really wants is a cuddle, and then nathan will put him down and he'll start screaming and Nathan will just sit there, and I'm taking proping xavier on our pillows in the bed between us and letting him scream right next to me while nathan does stuff on his laptop, then I end up having to pick Xav up and console him because hes so distraught. Nathan just doesn't get sometimes that all he needs is a cuddle and you don't just ditch him because it's inconvenient to you.
that sounded like a big pile of gobbley gook, but I guess what I'm saying is that we all have our issues (no matter how trivial mine are) and we are hear for you to share these with so you can let off some steam.

Now what I wan't to know is who told Xavier 6 am was play time huh?? Grr all I wanted to do was sleep.

[Ilithyia]

Morning girls,

Rhiannon - Ok where do i start. First of all, don't for one second think that i am lecturing you or talking at you. I am just offering some advice honey. Its up to you wether you want to take it or not. But i will always be here to offer a shoulder to lean on or some advice if you need it. OK!

Personally i think you are expecting to much of yourself so soon. This is normal though. I think all first time mums try and be supermum. Well i know i did anyways. You have to remember that you are a first time mum and that it takes time to adjust to motherhood. Jensen is only 5 weeks old so you have barely given yourself any time to adjust at all. YOU WILL ADJUST!!! Trust me. I have been there too.

Secondly, don't worry about the house being untidy. It happens. I am a clean freak and just hate to see my house being messy so i know how hard it is to leave it messy. But you have to do it. You can't try and do 100 things at once. You will burn yourself out WAY to quick. I have taken to just do bits and peices during the day. If Colby and Briley are content for 5 minutes i just pick up a few things off the floor or whatever. If i put a load of washing on i leave it until i have another spare minute to pull it out and put another load on. Sometimes if things are really hectic i just pull the washing out, leave it in the basket and put on another load. Then i hang it all out later on. Have you tried putting Jensen in the pram and taking him out with you while you hang the washing out??? I do that and Colby usually loves the outside time. But mostly i clean the house at night time. When the girls are in bed. Or when Briley is in bed and Brent can take Colby for me.

With the nappy problem, if you think that the Baby love nappies are giving Jensen a rash, get rid of them. Change to another brand. If you have a sh*t load of Baby love nappies maybe sell them. Put them on Ebay or advertise them in your local paper. You can use the money to buy a heap of Huggies nappies or whatever. When you change Jensen's nappy, is there a mobile or music toy on the change table that you could use to distract him?? The mat on our change table has little bears and chickens and stuff on it and Colby loves to look at them. Also above the change table on the wall there is a tweety bird thingy hanging, she loves looking at this too. If all else fails, just try and get the nappy change time over as quick as you can.

RE: Bathtimes - Now i don't want this to come across as if i saying its you thats the problem ok. But do you think that because Jensen does tend to play up at bathtime that you might fret about bath times and become stressed and tense??? If so, maybe Jensen is picking up on this and thats why he cries. Babies are pretty good at picking up when a mums is stressing out and therefore they stress out too. Do you think this could be it??? Have you tried singing/talking/smiling to him while he is in the bath?? Colby used to be the same. And she still has her moments. I worked out that i have to feed her before she has a bath. She is normally hungry when she wakes up in the morning so i give her a feed and leave her stomach to settle for about 20 mins then give her a bath. She is usually content after this.

RE: Feedtimes - From what you have described, i think he might have wind and thats why he is screaming and stopping to cry while your feeding. I find that when Colby has wind she wants to feed more often. I think she thinks that by drinking more the wind will come up when i finally burp her. Do you feed Jensen one side then stop, burp him and give him the other side??? This is what i do and it seems to work fine. You also might find that the reason he is'nt sleeping so much during the day is because he sleeps so much at night time. How long does he sleep at night??? During the day Colby normally goes down between 10.30-11am. She then sleeps for about 2 hours. Then wakes and is awake for another 2 hours and so on so forth.

RE: Sleeping position - Have you tried sleeping Jensen on his side??? Colby won't lay on her back unless she is awake and interested in something. Almost all of the time she goes to sleep on her stomach but occasionally prefers to go to sleep on her side. When she is on her side i just roll up a cloth nappy and chock it behind her back so she can't roll back onto her back. Most of the time she just rolls herself back onto her stomach when she is on her side the cheeky thing!

If you are truly concerned with all that is happening, go and see a CHN. I think that Belly Belly is as good as any CHN for getting advice though. Post a thread in the Baby and Toddler General Discussion forum. I am sure you will get plenty of other advice from the girls around here.

But the main thing is too take it easy on yourself.You are doing a great job. Get Andrew to help out as much as he can. You are both in this together. Can't he do some of the cleaning when he gets home??? I make Brent help me out! Even though he does get the sh*ts when i ask him to do something sometimes!! I don't care though. I need a helping hand too.

Well i hope i have'nt blabbled on to much. Like i said before, i am and i am sure everyone else is, here for you if you ever need any advice. I might not be an expert but i will try and help out as much as i can.

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Shell - What does Holly's skin look like?? I have been having some issue with Briley's skin for ages. It feels really roung and bumpy on her arms, legs and face. And just recently she has been getting red blotches around her mouth. At first i though it was her skin being burnt from eating acidy tomatoes. Then i thought i was a ring worm as it was dry in the middle. But then my mate Shell, said that it might be excema. Shell's sister works in a CC and a boy there had it bad too. That boys G'ma said to try 2 drops of full cream milk and 2 drops of olive oil in the bath with them everynight. Well apparently this boys skins is smooth as now. Apparently the milk helps the skin absorb the oil. I have'nt tried it yet as i have'nt been shopping to buy any olive oil. But i am going to give it a go. Maybe you should too. I will let you know how it goes. If you try it in the mean time, you let me know how it goes.

Bec - Yeah its a spin out how in sync Colby and Xav are at the moment. Def got a period here. I started bleeding properly lastnight. Has'nt stopped either! I think every woman is different in re: to when their period comes back. Since Colby has really started to sleep long hours during the night my period signs have really stepped up. And now they are here. I am a little confused at how i am bleeding when apparently with the mirena i am not meant to be bleeding at all! Might give the nurse at Family Planning a call and see what she says.

Hi to everyone else. Hope you are all well.

This has turned into a HUGE post! I think i might come back later and tell you all how we are going!

Talk then...