Babies Born December 2007 #7

**Trillian** · February 5th, 2008, 02:57 PM

Hi, me again Thanks Lauren for explaining it.
No one has done anything wrong, its just that it had been brought to our attention that some were finding it hard to keep up in here and could we try to do something about it. Now short of making you all post in the buddy groups for the month which your babies were actually born in (which we would never do), there isn't much we can do besides asking if you could keep the posts with only general chat to a minimum or not at all so that the ones who were stuggling to keep up had a chance to stay on top of the thread and not drop out from it moving too fast. This is something we do across all forums - TTC, Belly Buddies and Baby Buddies and the nappy forums, and those of you who've been members for a while will know that. And yes, there are a lot of areas that do move very fast and from time to time we do get complaints that there is too much general chat, in which case we act on it, similar to what I have done here, because we want all the members to feel like they can just hop in anytime and not have to spend hours reading a whole thread that they missed in the two days they weren't here kwim?

**Trish** · February 5th, 2008, 03:12 PM

Thanks for the explanation Sherie, it's much appreciated.

Just so I get this right, am I to understand, that because other members don't come on or into this thread as frequently as others do, that we should keep down our chatter for them to keep up ??

There are times when I come in here to post and find a couple of pages gone, if I don't have the time to post I read and come back later when I do.

It's sad that now other members of this group, myself included feel that they can't freely come in here and chat about our day, our babies included.

**aussienic** · February 5th, 2008, 03:16 PM

It's sad that now other members of this group, myself included feel that they can't freely come in here and chat about our day, our babies included.

this is how I feel now..

I understand some of us are chattier then others and have more time to jump on here but as Trish said earlier this is our little sanctuary from the kids..

**Trillian** · February 5th, 2008, 03:58 PM

Yes, but sometimes there can be a whole page of chatter that has nothing to do at all with your day, or your bubs. And it's not just this group and it's not that it happens often, so you aren't being singled out at all, and most of the time we are happy to leave it be, but when someone lets us know that they aren't happy in their group, we do like to try to solve any issues for them so they feel like they can just jump in at anytime and not feel like they are intruding on a conversation kwim?

I myself often stop posting mid way through a buddies thread because I can't keep up and just make more of an effort when the new one starts up, so I know how hard it is to get back in the groove again with it, but I am also mindful when others stop posting because they can't keep up too.

**Trish** · February 5th, 2008, 04:01 PM

Thanks for the reply Sherie.

I guess I will just have to take my fingers elsewhere to type now. Hmm who else can I talk too much to ???

**Buzzie** · February 5th, 2008, 04:26 PM

Trish i dont think u have to stop talking, i think ppl should just stop saying its too hard to keep up, if u find a post u want to read, read it... u dont have to read everyones, hence why ppl do personals if u want to get someones attention...
I LOVE hearing about everyones day even tho i dont reply to everyone! so noone should feel abliged to post cos someone else did.

We all know its hard to keep up, so everyone can stop feeling bad for not posting or personals.
Bellybelly is here for support and comfort, so if u need to tell us about ur day 'if its appropriate' tell us and vent it.... Its why where here.. it doesnt mean we all need 100 replies back about it... i know i like to get on here and vent and i dont mind if noone replies.. i just was able to tell someone... and i love hearing other ppls stories which i can learn stuff and make me feel better about myself.....

**suse** · February 5th, 2008, 04:39 PM

Well said Buzzie - my sentiments exactly! :-)

**Trish** · February 5th, 2008, 04:47 PM

So very true Lauren. I don't see why there is a presuure to keep up. If you can't do it, then don't. Easy. Post what you feel you want to share and if others want to respond then they can. I know I just post for the sake of getting it off my chest sometimes, not necessarily to get 20 I'm sorry's.

I have noticed that there are a few girls posting in the other baby buddies group which is why it has been abit quieter in here. There is always that option to people too. Not saying that people should go elsewhere to post at all though.

**aussienic** · February 5th, 2008, 04:49 PM

Well Said Lauren.. i don't do personals if i don't have the time or sometimes I have nothing to say ( I know I know amazing) but sometimes I might miss a page or 2 and do a quick skim and if there is nothing of great importance I just keep up with the days page..

**alicia** · February 5th, 2008, 04:51 PM

I agree Lauren. I find it sooooooo therapeutic sometimes to just have a vent here and I love hearing about everyone elses days/experiences. I was never really a computer person before but bellybelly has made me seriously addicted. I really hope we all keep chatting.

Kelly sent me a PM asking me to post my c/s story in a thread she is running about c/s infections so if you want to read the extended version of my drama feel free.

Bugger Livi just started squawking. BBL

morgan78 · February 5th, 2008, 05:03 PM

Hi girls
Well i'm a newbie to all this & it's great reading all your posts, many a smile have i had. If im short on time i read the first post & then the last couple so I'm with "buzzie".
im feeling happier as my lil princess is putting on weight yipeeeee - tho at nearly 6 weeks she's only 3.3kgs, but got love that she sleeping 6hrs every nite - gotta go double temper tantrums

**alicia** · February 5th, 2008, 05:09 PM

OK she just wanted her dummy back.

Mothers Group today was really good. The regular nurse was away and the one supposed to take it really couldn't be bothered (was supposed to be about womens health) so she just left us to sit and chat with some timtams. Olivia was so good and laid on the floor and checked out the other babies and their mummies, she also tried to chat to a few :-) It is the first time (out of 3 sessions) that she has been awake enough at the session to take it all in.

Yesterday was another story. My mum and I went for a walk to the shops and to have lunch. Livi was a little grizzley when we left home but boy oh boy did she crack it while we were out! It was like she was going out in sympathy for other babies because everytime she heard a baby cry she went off completely! Do others babies do that to?

**alicia** · February 5th, 2008, 05:11 PM

Oh posted a new pic in my gallery, it is the one we used for Olivia's announcement cards as I managed to catch her with a cheeky smile on her face.

**aussienic** · February 5th, 2008, 05:20 PM

Hi Morgan! Double tantrums are just great at the end of the day aren't they. My 2 middle ones are having a ball annoying me tonight

Alicia: Gorgeous pic.. I was going to ask you if you had seen that thread on the c.s and I see you hav now.. I will go read soon..

**Buzzie** · February 5th, 2008, 05:23 PM

alicia.. thats such acute pic!!

**suse** · February 5th, 2008, 05:45 PM

Blummin' heck alicia - you really did go through a doozy with your c/s - I had no idea (I think I joined this thread a little late). You are doing fantastically well hon!!

**aussienic** · February 5th, 2008, 07:06 PM

I agree suse.. Alicia deserves a medal.. she got thrown in the deep end..

Olivia had a most unsettled afternoon.. I am cranky at myself for it too. She was tired just before 3 but I was waiting for Ethan o get home so I thought I would see if she would wait for a feed till after he got home.. big big big mistake.. I got one small sleep but she was woken from that and has only just gone down now. I ended up laying on my bed with her to try and settle her... ah send me some sleepy vibes...

**alicia** · February 5th, 2008, 07:49 PM

Sleepy vibes, sleepy vibes, sleepy vibes..... Hope that helps Nic

Thanks Suse and Nic. Some days I don't feel like I am doing that well but I figure Olivia is fed, changed and cuddled regularly so I must be doing something right :-) I think I am very lucky that she is a pretty good baby. Right now she is asleep in the bassinette after talking to herself in there quietly for 15 minutes after I put her down. A few days ago I bought a swaddle wrap that velcros around her and it is great. She has a much harder time escaping from it than from a blanket or normal wrap.