cate - marriage means differernt things to everyone.... perhaps to terry it doesnt maen the same as it does to you..... dont think of it as he doesnt want to marry YOU think that he just doesnt want to get married yet, maybe he wants to buy a house first or something like that, you are both pretty young and have already done so much in only 2 years! dont ruin things by stressing about marriage and enjoy life together as parents