Em - I'll explain what I do and did with Danielle. Before she used to have a feed at 7pm ish and she would sit with me for a while to let it go down and then I would put her to bed awake and let her settle herself. With regards to crying - she has two sorts of crying - one sounds just like 'raagghh' and if she only does one every now and then - I would leave her incase she's doing it in her sleep but if I hear the 'raaaaaaaagggggghhhhhhh sob sob raaaaaagggggghhhhhhhh' I know she's awake and then go and get her. Now she falls asleep on me straight after her 7pm feed and I put her straight to bed but I still listen to her crying before I get out of bed in the middle of the night as she's done a few 'raagghh's and gone back to sleep. I usually let her cry for a few minutes before I go in though to see what she will do. Does that make sense??