Babies Born June 16th - 30th 2008

[shereejoy]

Hi ladies, been having a real rough trot here.

Even though my head and eyes are sore from so much crying, I actually am feeling a little better today and more confident.

This was yesterdays post, just didn't post it (so all events are from yesterday and the night before)

I gave Riley a dreamfeed at 11pm last nite with no fuss, then he woke at 5am and fed him with no fuss. But his 9am feed didn't come off, neither did it at 11.30am (I attempted again - seeing as his 9am feed was bad). So I fed him at 3pm this arvo and no problems at all.

I rang my CHN this morning and she said straight away "reflux" - get him to the doc. She said she knew it was only a matter of time for us until I said I had had enuf. I have said a few things at times obviously but it was nothing we couldn't handle, but this past week has just been terrible and so so stressful.

So off we went to the doc at 1pm. Arrogant pig! Said to me all babies/children are different and he is never convinced it is reflux unless a very severe case like lachlan (my first son). He said I am using my past experiences get in the way. He offered no assurance or advice but did give me a script to try zantac as a trial only.

Gosh it is not like I want to go thru this or give my child meds but if it means we are both happy again..... gosh I sooo don't want to be here again, but I have no choice!

He asked me why I was crying and I looked at him and said well what do I do if he won't feed, got any suggestions. It is the stress of it! Which he obviously is oblivious too! See he was not worried as he is a big boy 6.5kgs, but he didn't even begin to think that his weight gain has been subsiding alot, didn't even ask! Just rude, but he is the only doctor in town.

I truely believe that people just don't understand unless they have been thru this. Yes my baby has been a good feeder till now hence his weight gains, but geez it is a mother's right to do what she can for her child in order for them not to go downhill. I feed him whilst asleep and during the night to keep the weight on.

A girl that works for us (which I truely adore), said but he is a healthy chubby baby (and she just kept repeating this - after me repeating but it is the refusal to feed that is just sooo hard). I know he has weight on him (luckily as Lachlan never did), but I don't want him too loose weight regardless. I just wish people would say nothing, esp when it sounds condesecending. I would like to see them in the same situation feed in feed out when your baby is in pain and crying and you can't no matter how hard you try get them to feed. I know if I had never been in this situation I would never understand the extent of the situation but I also wouldn't even try to begin to understand too and would just feel for the person.

Anyway after seeing the doc, it is confirmed he has no thrush/tongue tie is fine/no ear or throat problems.

I then walked across road to CHN. She gave me a big hug and told me I am doing nothing wrong. I asked her how often I should be feeding him and she gave me the confidence to feed him 5 hourly if it meant that we wouldn't fight and get so stressed and maybe he would have a really big feed and would have emptied the contents of his tummy from his last feed and we might have more success. I just needed to hear this from her. As it appears that is why we had a better feed at 3pm as his last decent feed was 5am. But geez that is a long time. Maybe I have been forcing feeds on him sooner then he wanted it. So hearing that is just what I needed and with her guidance we will get thru this.

Sorry for the vent and the all about us post. I will be trying very hard to get ontop of this and hope to chat to you girls soon with some good news. xoxo

[satya]

Hi everyone.

'Brock is still in his PJs. Yay!!!! What's the big deal you may ask. Well normally by now he's chucked up so much over himself we are on to our 2nd or third outfit for the day (sometimes for me too). He didn't chuck in his bed or on our couch or on our carpet. No bedding to wash, no extra clothes to wash. Just 2 bibs so far today, instead of the countless bibs and clothing. I just hope the little chucks instead of the big ones last.

Sheree - It must've been so hard for you over the last few days. I know what you mean about peoples advice. People keep giving me advice when they see Brock chuck but my MCHN says if it is reflux it's mild and it's not worth worrying about as he's happy & feeding and continuing to put on weight. I even had a stranger in a shopping centre suggest it could be reflux - perhaps you could get him some thickener. She was sitting at a nearby table when he chucked twice after a feed. Honestly, can people not mind their own business??????? I hope the situation improves for you soon and everyone keeps their opinions to themselves.

Ainsley - That sure was a weird dream. I had one last night. I was pregnant and I fell off my bike (I don't even own one). I went to hossy to get checked out and made friends with the female doctor. Very strange indeed. Don't have a clue what it means but the only time I've had dreams of being pregnant is when I was pregnant with Brock. My DF had a dream a week or two ago that I was pregnant with twins so I'm starting to get a little worried about all these pregnancy dreams. Your wedding plans sound lovely. We never get around to making plans as we haven't managed to agree on what we'd like to do, plus I need to actually get divorced. Very naughty I know but I just don't want to fork out the money for it, but seeing the ex hasn't bothered initiating things, I will have to. Plus there's the cost. I wonder if we will ever get round to getting married.

Livyloos mum - good luck with the teething.

[Tan2705]

Taking DP to the airport today for another 4 week cycle.. going to be one sad mummy for the next 28 days!

[livyloosmum]

Heya guys

no time to write really but thought I'd drop another one in lol.

Sheree - I am soooo sorry for the stress you have been having this past week or so. My sister in law had the same problem. My nephew was incredibly bad with the reflux. She really wanted to breast feed and so continued on for a long time by not having dairy & for a while wheat as well to see if that helped - it did mildly and she breast fed up until about 9 months and finally wanted some sleep and weight on Riley (funny it's the same name!?!?) so she weened him and he's on perscription formula and had improved immensley. I know from what she's gone through - it's hard work and can be really stressful and heart wrenching. I hope your Riley keeps on the weight and that his stomach settles!!! *hugs* Glad to hear you have a good mchn. The doctor is a loser by the sounds of it - what ashame he's the only one there!!!

satya - brock sounds like Liv was... you get so over the chucking don't ya? .. and the constant changing for yourself. I get chucked on a bit by Charli but nearly as badly.

Gotta run!

[MummyDuck]

I really need to vent but first:

Sheree: What an arrogant doctor, any good doctor should know mothers intuition is best!!! It can be so frustrating when people dont listen and very upsetting when something is wrong with bubs. I hope things improve and you feel better soon.

Tan: I cant imagine how hard it is for you.

Well me:

1. PLZ NO OFFENCE TO ANY FORMULA FEEDERS. I do FF Taylor as well, I have supply problems so she only gets around 100ml of bm at a time which means the rest is supplimented.

I was talking to a friend the other day and she said why dont you let Dp do some feeds. I said well Im bfing so I cant, but i can dream of a sleep in. Its not forever.

She then says (it makes me laugh and gets me angry at the same time)

Im never breastfeeding. I love my perky boobs.

I then say things like yes but Taylor hasnt been sick yet because she gets all the good stuff, i never get caught out without food anywhere I go etc etc. Then I went on to say she gets both formula and bm. I go on to say I dont have saggy boobs, I only have little bbs so there isnt much to sag.

She said Wait until you finish bfing then they will be saggy.

Now that peed me off for obvious reasons. But it makes me laugh because:

IF YOU LOVE YOUR BODY SO MUCH THEN DONT HAVE KIDS AT ALL. Why are perky boobs so important but getting stretch marks and whatever else comes with pregnancy not matter. Superficial people grrr.

2. We have noticed that DP is spending less time with Taylor. he is working late and barely sees her when he isnt working late anyway. She cries now when she gets out the bath and I came over to talk to her just to calm her as soon as she was laughing again I walked out of the room to do something and she cried. I understand that DP is getting a bit funny about that, that she seems to cry for him more then me but he needs to understand that she spends all day with me.

When I try to point out that she is just going through a phase or when i told him she rolled from back to belly this morning I copped it. I was rubbing everything in his face. When he tries to settle her I take over. He is right I do take over but when she has cried for so long that boogies are running out her nose down her chin and her eyes are wetter then a glass of water I feel it is definately time to try something nwe to calm her down AND I GET YELLED AT FOR IT. Is there something so wrong with me for not liking hearing Taylor cry. I cant defend myself or try to diffuse the situation because he wont let me its like banging my head against a brick wall..... and i actually feel like I might get more from doing that then saying anything anyway.

I just cant get him to understand its just a mummy phase, before we know it I am sure there will be a daddy phase but I wont be allowed to get upset about that coz thats the way things work around here. DP comes First ALWAYS.

[Serendypyty]

Ugh, I know where you are coming from, some people are so narrow minded when it comes to breast feeding. And as you said, I think that if they want to keep their perfect bodies then they should either adopt or just give up on the idea of kids because you can't go into something like that without knowing that your body is going to change (for better or worse!!).
My hubby is sometimes not the best at putting Josie to sleep and doing other things either. I know he tries but sometimes he does stupid things like continuing to play his games while she's sitting there screaming (and I've only asked him to look after her while I have a shower or something). Then I get ****ty and he asks me what's wrong and I just have to think to myself, is it really worth getting into?? lol..

Big hugs to you. It is frustrating but sometimes you have to let them do their own thing so they learn how to do it. I try not to butt in because I don't want DH to think that I'm being a control freak or that I think he is hopeless.. but it's bloody hard!!

Sorry I haven't posted on here lately, I've been at work!!! Josie is teething early so I've been dealing with her grizzles pretty much as soon as I get home and often she doesn't want to go to sleep either. It's been a trying few days.

Work is going well, I think I'm getting up to date with everything. The lady who was doing part of my job had to take leave suddenly because of her ill husband, so there is a lot that is still up in the air. But we're getting there!!

Hope you are all happy and well

[bubNo.2]

hey girls:

Fancy me mucking up lol we put on the wedding invite 'after the reception we will be gathering at the Steam packet Hotel for more celebrations' Thats all well and good except (and the invites have been posted) ... mmm i looked the pub up on the net and its only a B&B now derr us !!! Thankfully no one will be any of the wiser until we all get up there so im thinking an announcement will be in order lol

My little Alli had a taste of Baby Rice today at nearly 15 wks and he gobbled it up and has had a descent sleep this afternoon.

Cheers Ainsley