Simone- XH has no right to tell you what he thinks of you or what to do anymore. Did he come down in the last shower if he thinks having 2 boys at 3 & under are going to keep things tidy for more then 10seconds? How are you even washing up with a broken wrist? did he forget your still using one hand? I think you need to tell him what night he will stay with the kids, even if you make it the same night each week your going to go insane if you do not have a break....i thought when you guys had a talk you were discussing things like this? If you did then you need to remind him of this he is their father to and you are doing the right thing by wanting him to be a part fo their lives but if he cannot give you one night a week maybe he doesn't deserve that right??