just got back home again - went to brigade and stayed too long. I'm knackered.
Simone - ditto to what the others have said, but you already must know what my reaction would be. You are not playing that game anymore - tell yourself that out loud, please! You are not 'his' to bully. What you and XH had was not 'normal', so there's no point trying to keep up that farce - better to normalise them to the new reality and explain it as best as you can.
Sorry I can't write anymore, I have to go!