Nickers that is awful about your doula - not good service at all!! I wish I could offer some suggestions

Flynn is in the middle of the biggest tantrum I have ever seen. He is screaming like he is being stabbed and has been for a good half hour - all because we keep putting him back into bed. He is obviously tired but just pushing his weight around. I am just glad that DH and I see eye to eye on how to approach him - ie: keep getting up and putting him back in bed. He is throwing himself on the floor and kicking the walls and everything!! It is actually amusing, on one level, to see his impotent rage. I wonder what the "gentle parenting" method of handling red-hot tanties is - Maya I am geniunely curious - is the suggestion that you go in there and sit with him? We are about to do just that because he is getting angrier and angrier and is obviously past it, but there's a real fine line between not giving in to rage and comforting a baby who has lost control IYKWIM? I guess that there is also a real gentle slide from "baby who is upset" to "manipulative toddler" and it is hard to pinpoint at what point you need to be soft or firm. Ah well, like I said I am glad DH and I are in agreement on how to handle him - he is in there cuddling him right now - because I can imagine when I am upstairs BF or handling an unsettled newborn the last thing I would need is to be worried about DH's approach to Flynn IYKWIM? I know it will still be hard, and if he gets into the fire brigade I will be flying solo for half the time, but I am still glad that we can work as a team.