Celsie - firstly, you are not a bad mother - Aiden has fallen off our bed about 3 or 4 times now, and, i think he has learned to stay still on the bed.. Its more the fright then anything else. I understand how you feel thou, its heartbreaking to feel that you caused it.

Sleeping - we had the same thing. I was getting up every 45min, and i had had enough. I borrowed "the baby whisperer" and it really helped me. The first thing i started was I stopped feeding Aiden to sleep for his naps and nighttime feeds. And then, in order to get him to sleep, i had to let him cry, however, not controlled crying, where you walk out and leave them, but, more comforted crying. I stayed with Aiden while he cryed, held him, talk to him, comforted him, until he learnt to settle himself back down and go to sleep. I did this for his day sleeps, and then, when it was easier for him to resettle, started on his night sleeps, so that he didnt wake DH. There is no way can i let him cry, i just dont want him to feel abandoned. I am sure you can tell the difference in his cries, and, i will let him grizzle, but, as soon as he gets crying, then, i am straight in there. The other thing is, once you have him settleing better, is, count to 100 or something before you go in to his room. Give him that chance to settle himself before you go. I find sometimes me being there is more of a distraction to him as well.
But, thats me. Have a look at the website thebabywhisperer
I have Aiden now in a rough routine of getting up at 8am, back to bed at 10, sometimes 9.45, and generally, i am waking him up at 12, 12.30 at the latest, then, back again anywhere between 2.30 and 4 for a nap, which is about 30min and into bed at 7.30. He is still waking once overnight, at the moment it is about 12.45, and it takes me about 45min to get him back to sleep, but, again, i think i am over anxious and i disturb him more, and i need to have abit of faith in him.
Mind you, a week ago, i was all over the place, and it turned out he is teething, so, i was all upset as he wasnt sleeping, but, he settled back down again.

Hugs for the selfweaning. Have you thought of expressing to keep your supply up? That way, you can give him bottles of ebm, instead of formula? Perhaps try more frequent feeds? He is probably waking for comfort in the night, so, teaching him to resettle without a feed will help, and also, make him hungrier during the day, so he does feed better. We went thru a long stage of Aiden not feeding during the day between 3am till about 1pm as he was feeding so much over night. I ended up watering down his formula overnight so that he would be more hungry during the day. Try posting in the b/f section for some advise. But, if you are set on feeding till 2, then, keep at it for abit longer. Try expressing to increase supply, express and offer breast more often, like every 2 hours if you can until your supply is back up. I remember when i was going thru the similar thing, I read that to increase supplies, you had to express/offer 10times a day.

I hope that helps. If he does self wean, then, you have given him 9months of goodness, and you should be proud of yourself. Not many people make it that far.


Fi - am glad the new job is working out well for you. It must be making your life alot easier not having to do all that travel.
One of the babies at playgroup does that biting the floor thing as well. Except, not when tired, apparently, all the time!

Aiden is a right terror to put nappy & clothes on after a bath. Just keeps rolling over and crawling away (I dress him on our bed). On his change table, he is not so bad, i give him a bottle of water, and plays with that. But, i think he is so hyped up after his bath, he just cant sit still. Soo irriating. But cute. His little butt wiggling in the air, and me frantically trying to put a nappy on in case he does a wee