Jo thanks for the info.
re the feeding, my CMHN says that she should not have dropped any of her BF yet (maybe around 10 mths) and it is usual for at this age for them to pick up an extra one overnight.
Supply is not an issue, the ony possibility is that she gets really distracted when feeding (she just wont sit still long - like her daddy) and possibly pulls off before she is actually finished. I think if we have friends over or if DSS is around i will feed her in her room to try and help with this.
Re the sleeping, now before i start i want to say that i am not having a go or saying that anyone is wrong or anything, this is just my opinion and i believe everyone has to do what is right for them and they are comfortable with. So please dont anyone think i am saying anything about them or they way they do things...
Right. IMO i would class that form of getting to sleep as a form of CC and am not happy to do it.
Yes she is crying cos i have left the room, but i know that i am coming back, she does not at this age and therefore she becomes anxious and upset, i would prefer to stay with her until she is settled/asleep and then leave the room.
What i have been doing at night time is reading to her when she is in her cot, she ends up getting upset with being in there (TBH i can see her point, during the day she is active and allowed to roam around and at night she is put in a room (which she does play in during the day at times) that is dark and there is something stopping her from getting out to us) So at this point i start patting, usually it doesnt work, and she gets more upset, so then she gets picked up and held/rocked in the chair to almost sleep and then put down.
Overnight, when she wakes and cries, i have tried holding off for 30secs/min to go in, but the crys esculate and she is more likely to need picking up... usually she will go off to sleep with just patting, but sometimes she needs a feed overnight (last night she needed 2, but that is rare and i think its cos of the heat)
PRAMA - i use to have exactly the same problem... no matter how asleep MJ was, as soon as she hit the cot she would wake and cry. I too resorted to sleeping in a chair with her at times and was up for hours and really frequently. I feel for you it is so hard and exhausting.
2 things that worked for us... we started co-sleeping on the bad nights, she was up high in the bed in the gap between the pillows. this way when she stirred we could pat her back to sleep straight away and she was less likely to wake... then we moved bac to the cot. I was prepared to put a mattress down next to the cot so i could do the same thing, but she was already starting to resettle herself due to the co sleepiing...
ALSO i noted that she slepted heaps better if she was lying face down on me, so i tried sleepping her face down on her tummy and you know what it worked, she sleeps for longer stretches now and is less unsettled. The only time she sleeps on her back is when she is in our bed.
I checked with our CMHN and she said that it was fine so long as she could roll herself over if she wanted and also so long as we made sure that we stuck to all the other SIDS recommendations... she also added that loads of babies roll themsleves in their sleep at this age, so its was fine to put her down this way.
Sorry for the novel everyone, Prama, i hope things get better for you, it sounds really tough
Thanks for the info Jo i do appreciate it and will keep trying to impliment the times that you listed, with an extra feed in there somewhere - usually she has 6/day +/- a night feed
Skye welcome back and trina good to hear fromyou... will bbl
ETA - its not the waking that i have problems with now, its the actually putting to sleep initially... now when she wakes its usually quite easy to send her back to sleep
Last edited by Sammiejane; November 14th, 2008 at 06:30 AM.
it is so hard and exhausting.
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